How to handle anxiety, stress and depression now that I was diagnosed?

Posted by mandi123 @mandi123, May 22, 2025

I have seen psychiatrist and tried some meds, most didnt work. I was dx with ocular melanoma last October. then cancer appeared in February, 4 months later. I have stage 4 liver cancer now. I stay stressed and can’t sleep

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I have several chronic conditions but none are as serious as cancer. I can tell you that knowing your “triggers” and what is and isn’t normal for you is one of the most important things I’ve learned since being diagnosed with my mental illnesses over 25 years ago. We must be our strongest advocate.
Don’t let a doctor rush you. If you have questions, ask them, and don’t leave until you understand. I received wonderful advice when I was trying to find housing in my early addiction recovery. “Don’t leave without getting another place to check.” If someone says they can’t help you, ask who might be able to help.
We are the clients. The medical staff and insurance companies and everyone else are there to help us. Don’t feel like you have to “just accept it” (whatever “it” is).
Good luck to you ♥️

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The Cherokee Native looking at the Wolf Sprite for Loyalty /Courage Independence & bravery , Each tribe has it own interpretation but the wolf are often seen as protectors sprite . I am surprise you did not already know this my Friend ??????
Take Care

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I'm so sorry, and I can understand your situation. I also had a diagnosis of ocular melanoma.. have just had brachytherapy last month. This cancer involves so much uncertainty, and reminds us that we do not know what tomorrow might bring. You're not alone in this. For myself, I have found that getting a good sleeping medicine has been helpful. I can handle most things if I can get a good night's sleep. Peace can come. Try to deal with your relationship problems, one by one. Start with the one that's mostly on your mind. Put things right if you can.
And move on to the next thing. It's amazing how this can lift your mood, and improve your day.
With many kind thoughts...

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Thank you so much for letting me know when you have so very much on your mind..( and shame on the doctors for not diagnosing your wife...you really can't depend on the medical care system anymore..I know) ..I am so sorry to hear your news..(my husband had liver cancer ...) it has been a devastating day for both you and your wife ..in so many ways.. and my heart goes out to you..I really don't know what to say.. except when the doctors can't, Jesus can.. and I will be praying for you both.. may the peace of God be with you ,and around you...hold each other tight and say the things to her I wish I had said to David.. God bless you both..message me anytime you need to talk..

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@standinginfaith I may have misstated myself.. my husband passed about 15 years ago..prayers for you !! And yes Jesus is the healer!!

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The only thing that did keep me calm was Xanax. I have terrible health issues. Panic attacks I have a pacemaker. Name is something I have a disorder or something with people I can't stand personal disorder heart condition pacemaker circulatory issues that's where my feet get purple and black. I have very little energy. Don't want to be sociable with people. I isolate. I live in Virginia is one of your clinics nearby? Please get back with me and let me know how many miles and whatever I would appreciate it and the address okay now where do I what

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I take Trazadone & it seems to work for sleep.
Ask your physician.
Maybe even an over the counter like ZZQuil for a few night, just to get at least
one nights sleep. But be sure to ask your pharmacist about safety= interections
with the meds you are already taking. Good luck.

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