Hi all … first I want to apologize for this note. I know you all must get tired of hearing it and I don’t blame you. I’m just about done with everything ….. I like my apartment, but the kids upstairs are so loud, screeching, running, banging furniture around, and it sounds like they drop bowling balls on the floor (I’m sure they’re not, but they’re something heavy), and it goes on til 11. They’re so loud in the living room my sliding glass door rattles. I’ve had 3 kids and I know kids are noisy, but this is way beyond noise. The policeman living aside of them went over one night and gave them “what for” and for a few days it was quiet. Last week I had to write a note to the Mgr. but never heard back. I don’t think they’re going to do a darn thing about it. I have absolutely no energy or interest in unpacking all these boxes … they make me sick to see them. My family is bickering about “an I-phone or GPS for Mom.” Geez, you’d think I didn’t have a brain. I should have never, ever, moved. Yes, I love being with my girls, but they have their lives and are busy and I can’t expect them to entertain me ….. Lord knows, I don’t want to be entertained. If my condo weren’t sold, I’d go back. I close my eyes and daydream about sitting in my living room up there, feeling safe, cozy, and happy. And ….. these da_n teeth are a pain. I’ve read about them and it takes quite awhile to get used to them …. I’ll say …. right now it feels like a mouth full of rocks. As soon as I’m home out they come. I should just go away and hide and become the “shrunken face lady” in the mountains. I thought I was through all the crap when my divorce went through …. guess not.
abby
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But i dont clench teeths i checked with my dentist he told me that it is normal to click noises 60 percent people’s jaw click and and there was no pain but after checking for two days i developed pain because i open my jaw several times only to listen clicking noise
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And please tell me amber how is your tmd is it gone or u still have it and if its gone how much time it took to go away and please tell me how much your mouth guard cost and how long you use the guard please tell .
I am veryy poor…
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Have you ever popped your knuckles? I know that some people get into a habit of doing it and can’t stop. Perhaps you are doing something similar when you pop your jaw. Why don’t you try to think about something else when you start to pop it? You can try many different things to stop the habit. One thing I thought of is counting to 20 whenever the thought comes, and tell yourself that you won’t do anything until after counting. Just a thought. Sometimes it can be harder to stop a habit than to start one. Can you think of other things you could do to distract yourself? Or maybe have someone massage your neck and jaw to relax it. That would really feel good!
Jim
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Hi there, Abby. I’m glad that I live where I can look out the window and see beauty, too. Right now, it’s raining intermittently, and I have some expensive canvas drop cloths draped over my tomato plants to protect them from the frost. Oh well. They’ll dry out eventually. When I went to the cellar yesterday to get them out, I found a dead mouse lying on top, and the canvas smelled pretty bad, so a little rain might help with that.
Our kids know that we are here to stay. They’re the ones who will have to move if they want to be closer. The only exception might be if I die first, and our son-in-law has retired from the Coast Guard, and they have settled down somewhere. My wife would probably sell the place and move near them. Depends on where they settle. It would be really hard for me to leave my home, with 10 acres of space.
Have you unpacked more boxes? I know that I would feel better if some of my old familiar things were out where I could see them. Tell me you have started. Please?
Enjoy the Virginia autumn.
Jim
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Hi Jim ….. I’ve probably unpacked maybe 2 more boxes ….. I just don’t feel like doing it. I just want to go “home” but I know that’s not possible as my condo is sold now, and rent in MD is way too high for me. Right now I live in a limited income complex ….. lots of problems here, and a lot of very angry and/or sick people. I keep my apartment door triple locked …. that’s no way to live.
abby
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Hi ….. well I was clenching my teeth during my sleep at night, so I wasen’t aware of it. After I got the fitted flexible guard I wore every night, it took about 1-2 months to go away. But, for about a year afterwards, I had to be careful. No problems anymore.
abby
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Hi Abby @amberpep We lived in Daly City, a suburb of San Francisco, and I know what feeling unsafe is like. I rode the two most dangerous bus lines every day to and from work in the city. I had to walk several blocks to get to and from the bus stop and always stayed alert. Where we live now, we have to worry more about the coyotes than the thugs.
Two boxes is a start, right? I imagine the boxes are labeled. Is there one that has stuff in it that you need? Maybe there’s one that has some things in it that have sentimental value. How about finding a couple that would improve your quality of life and think about each thing as you unwrap it and find a place for it. I’ll be curious to hear what you find.
Jim
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Hi, @sallie–Wondered if you might share more about what type of testing you underwent? You also mentioned that the new combination of medications that came out of that testing helped immensely. What kinds of depression symptoms did these medications help you with?
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Due to a broken teeth on my right side i chew from my left side and when the clicking sound comes from my right side but i have no pain and when i checked my left side of face i found out that my left cheeks are harder than my right cheeks and my left jaw from below is little big than my right.
Can this be the reason of clicking sound on my right side and if yes can anyone tell me i myself treat this problem by chewing from both sides or i have to go to dentist for this
I used to work for a dentist, and with everything you’re describing, you really should see a dentist. A cracked tooth doesn’t just sit there, it either continues to crack downward, decays, or becomes infected – an absess. I think you’d be wise to see your dentist.
abby
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Please see if perhaps you can work something out financially with the dentist. A tooth that has had a root canal, must be filled with a sterile paste type substance, and then have a crown made for it. Otherwise, you could really get a terrible infection down there.
abby
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@amberpep So sorry and not at all tired of hearing about your despair and discouragement. Noisy here where I live as well. Hugs.
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I’m so sorry you’re having such a rough time. It’s very hard to go from your house into an apartment. We too sold our house and bought a condo. There’s a couple above us that drive me crazy with their noise! How 2 people can be that loud and drop stuff all the time is beyond me. I totally get your frustration. It’s also hard to play 2nd fiddle in your kids life. I envisioned it differently too and then my reality isn’t the same. Try putting on your favorite music and then focus on unpacking and decorating one room at a time. Having your things around you will make it more your home. I’m praying you’ll have better days ahead. God bless!
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Hi prashantnayal …… what you’ve got is TMJ …. temporal mandibular joint dysfunction. It usually comes from clenching your teeth together and it causes the joints on either side to get very sore. I had it some years ago, and first the Oral Surgeon told me to only eat soft foods, noodles, applesauce, mashed potatoes, etc. In the meantime he took an impression of my mouth and had a mouth guard made for me which fit over my either upper or lower when I slept at night. I forget if it was upper or lower. It took time but eventually went away, but I used the mouth guard for a long time after that.
abby
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