Happiness and aging in the US: A study by the Brookings Institution
I found this study interesting on happiness and aging in the US. Completed by the well-respected Brookings Institution, others here might find it of interest, especially as they discuss the differences they see in the USA versus other developed countries.
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@nannette1941 My heart truly goes out to you. With the whole world being sectioned off and quarantined, you are not the only person who feels this way with having bouts of extreme loneliness, but when you are living alone it SURELY CAN feel like you are the only one experiencing this. I completely understand loving to cook and having no one to cook for.
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@nannette1941, I know there are several questions above that people are interested to know about you. Would you mind sharing more of your story?
Good Morning, Thank you for taking the time to read and reply to my SOS. Yes, it does feel as if I were all alone and the only one experiencing this. However, morning when I got up I ask myself why I I feel the way I do and this is the answer I got from myself: if someone around me felt the way I do I would open my home and ask if we could talk about it… SO THIS IS THE ANSWER: I EXPECT OTHERS TO DO FOR ME WHAT I WOULD SURELY DO FOR THEM AND THIS WILL NEVER HAPPEN.
Yes… this is the way I feel, but this morning I decided to change… I got up two hour ago and so far I did one load of laundry and cleaned the deck. My problem is/was I expect others to do for me what I would do for them, and THIS WILL NEVER HAPPEN! On Christmas day my oven broke down and I had a lady come for brunch… I managed, she came… I had a fabulous brunch… she ate, left, never even said thank you… This is my problem I do too much for others and I expect too much from others.
Yes, I was born in 1941; in France. I love to paint watercolor, I am a published author: poetry, one of my poem was selected for the millennium book of poetry; I love to cook (and I am a gourmet cook) I love to entertain but people do not like to come to my house because they say they could never entertain the way I do… actually a hamburger would do with a glass of wine… I entertain because I need and want friends. That is as simple as that.
@nannette1941- If you expect people to do for you what you would do for others then I fear that you will continue to be very disappointed. About a dozen years ago I was visiting family. My daughter-in-law, who thought that everyone should love her newborn as she did. She decided that because another family member hadn't flown across the country to visit and meet the new child she would return his gift. She didn't want anything to do with him. She thought that his very generous gift was not how she expected him to act. This to me is trying to control how people behave and feel. If I make lunch for someone I do expect a thank you. But I don't expect that person to duplicate and reciprocate based on what I wanted.
Do your friends know how you really feel? Have you told your friends how you want them to treat you or act towards you?
Good morning, nannette1941! Well, I see you survived the night, as did all my sweet plants!!!! They did quite well, even my little 'Vanda' orchid, hanging on the crepe myrtle tree on the deck. I have it on a limb, sheltered frome the cold wind by the fence. I'ts happy this morning and the large bud growing bigger by the moment is getting rreally huge, ready to open soon. I'll send you a pic. when it opens. Where in France were you born? Wish you'd tell me a little about life there….that was during the war? How and when did you get to the states? Sounds like you've had quite an interesting life and accomplished a lot…..poetry I love!! Can you send any info re your book? I'd love to read some of your writing……also, I so jealous that you cook, that you're a gourmet. How wonderful to be able to give to your friends and family through your love of cooking. I wanted to learn more and more, even learned from French Gourmet on tv! But, stopped that journey as I worked long hours in retirement administration and then owned my own shop…..2 very different areas of life's work, but I loved and enjoyed them both. Both had to do with helping others, working with folks to make their lives better, I guess. Think that was something I was supposed to do with my life. Sad I didn't do a better job of it, tho! Oh, well, did my best.. I'm having to work on accetance. Acceptance of where I am right this minute. In life. Acceptance of my age….yes, the number and the consequences! Mostly, acceptance of me, me today, possibility of me tomorrow and my memories of me yesterday. Tough place. But, Not so much of yesterday anymore! Milestone. More now of today and hope for tomorrow. getting there. Again, glad you had a good rest and woke up today with a new vision! Careful not to overdo!!!!! Blessings. Elizabeth
wow, you are a gourmet cook. I admire you.
I have a question you maybe can answer.
I bought some Yukon Gold small potatoes, and would love to boil them in a broth, but all the canned soups have so much salt, even boullion is loaded with salt. Have any ideas-suggestions how to boil them without all the salt.
In plain water, they lose their taste.
If I bake them, they are just another bake potato.
I do not have a slow cooker, so that would be out.
Thanks in advance.
Start with quality, creamy potatoes. I prefer to use Yukon Gold potatoes. You can even use a mixture of white-skinned and red-skinned potatoes. Cut the potatoes into small bite-size pieces.
Place potatoes in a bowl and toss with extra-virgin olive oil, melted butter, garlic powder, salt, and pepper. Toss to evenly coat.
Pour onto a lined baking sheet. You can use a Silpat, parchment paper, or aluminum foil lightly sprayed with non-stick cooking spray.
Bake at 425 degrees for about 30-40 minutes, depending on the size of the potatoes. If the potatoes are larger, they will need longer than 40 minutes. Pierce the potatoes with a fork to see if they are done.
Toss with chopped fresh parsley and more garlic butter, if so desired. You can top with freshly grated parmesan cheese if desired. This is the recipe I use.
@nannette1941 Let your friends know that spending time with you is a gift to you. Perhaps beyond fixing a meal, you could have a "game night" or have someone talk about a great trip they went on, or just fix tea and sandwiches. While you might not consider what you do as "fancy", it may very well feel like that to others, and they don't think they can do as well. I don't think you are expecting them to, right? If you do a craft, invite a few people over that do the same or similar, just to have some crafting time together, and share space. If they feel you are comparing their house/meal/lifestyle to yours, it may put them on edge. Be yourself, be gracious in accepting whatever level of friendship others offer.
I hope this sounds like something you could try?
You are making my mouth water just reading your recipe.
I have the new non stick aluminum foil, so will use that. Will not add the salt and pepper, but will try everything else.
I just buy the Yukon Gold potatoes, and sometimes the red skin yams.
Did you go to cooking school in France?
The only thing I have from France is my French perfumes, and my American born French Poodle., that are really German dogs, but history said the French ladies loved their fur, and decided to groom them fancy.
It’s been decades since I’ve been to Europe, and I truly loved France. Do you still have relatives there?
Stay well, and thanks again.