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Posted by @16cats in Mental Health, Dec 28, 2011

had hysterectomy 21/2 yrs. married 19 yrs. no kids being treated for major depression cannot move out of the grief of never having had my own children and feel like the grief will kill me. Need help with the pain I'm drowning in.

Tags: mental health, womens health


Posted by @teresahbarnett, Dec 29, 2011

Today is a precious gift that God has given us and you are His precious gift. If you are not in physical pain and can find a place to serve, be with people. Yes, I have children, but we are now empty nesters with health issues. My children no longer live at home. I thank God for each day I wake up and then trust Him to lead me through it. I have developed a routine that includes time in His Word, exercise, and then a list of my daily "to dos". I keep busy and am trusting God to lead me into healing. My hope is in Him. I have prayed for you for courage to begin to work with your hands to help someone in need. From you Sister in Christ in Texas. Teresa


Posted by @doodlebugz, Dec 31, 2011

Teresa I live as you, with the Lord God at my side an in my heart. He's what gets me through all the health issues I live with. Without him I couldn't make it one second. I agree with you totally for this person here with us. Yes dear, you should heed her advice. I'll be praying for you also. Donna in Georgia


Posted by @doodlebugz, Dec 31, 2011

I just saw your reply 16, but I won't be saying I'm sorry for what I said.

Posted by Anonymous-aeaf6ea1, Dec 29, 2011

Your major depression should be treated by professionals (ie., psychiatrist MD for medication, if needed, and a counselor/psychologist type for talk therapy). you need to deal with your issues regarding the children, grief and pain over your disappointment with life. Seeking help from those trained to assist you will help you feel better and be more productive. Sometimes God uses others that have been in your shoes to help you find solutions, I've been there and I have been treated and healthy for many years.

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Posted by @16cats, Dec 30, 2011

If you read my posting you would see that I already stated that I am being treated for major depression. I think that constitutes "dealing with my Issues re: children, etc." I am not a religious person so preaching to me will have no effect in my life. I'm glad you've been "treated and healthy for many yrs." If I'm lucky I will be too.

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Posted by @powerofpositive, Dec 31, 2011

Obtain care from a trained professional. Grief /loss is a difficult emotion that we all deal with in our life, but if you are not progressing through the stages of it , it is time to seek out professional help and or a support group.
The loss of the womb is difficult for many women. Discussing this with others that have similar emotions/experiences may help, your not alone.

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Posted by @tilly, Jan 2, 2012

What I've learned: depression is one of the burdens of intelligence. So is sensitivity. I guess the big question for those of us prone to depression is "What are we supposed to do with our feelings?!" It looks to me like the previous writers explained what worked for them. That's fine, as long as no one gets preachy! Have you read Scott Peck's "The Road Less Travelled?" It helped me.

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Posted by @mrc, Jan 3, 2012

Find comfort in the company of people that love you. If you love children then volunteer to work in places where children need help and love. God had only one child and He gave him up for all of us and nothing made Him happier. You don't need to be sad. A lot of children out there need you. Seek them out, help them, love them, make them happy.


Posted by @awills, Jan 3, 2012

you have a lot going on...grief, depression and hysterectomy - I can not imagine. I have found that my depression is rooted in my physical ailments and now they go hand and hand. writing about it helps me and knowing that i am not alone. i have been searching for solutions and places to connect. this site is good and i am glad i found it. i also spend time at treatmentdiaries...also helpful. i hope yoiu get the support you so deperately need!

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Posted by Anonymous-82abfb89, Jan 22, 2012

I just lost the love of my life. Does anyone have any experience with this? I feel like I'm dying too; all the usual textbook symptoms. I live in a small town in the South with no support at all. I hope to find anonymous support via this website. "Is there anybody out there?" Please, please, I don't want to talk about Jesus. I'm Catholic and I am "saved" and have a "church home". I just want to connect with someone who is going through the same thing.


Posted by @georgiab, Jan 26, 2012

I feel your pain. Grief is so hard to handle by itself, but add in depression, and the emotions are almost too much to handle. The grief of losing my 19 year old cat sent me spinning into depression. I was already dealing with the fact that my husband lost his job, we lost our house, were having to move across country so my husband could take another job, had to sell many of our belongings before we moved, and now end up in a small condo that I hate. I felt like dying. Therefore, I immediately sought help. I've found another psychiatrist who has added another med to those that I am taking. I'm also going to consider grief therapy. You are not alone in what you are feeling. The pain is so intense, I know. Crying is a good release. You really have to feel the pain in order to get through this, but there is help. All you must be thinking is please make the pain stop. It will get easier with time. It will. Keep sharing with those that understand, like people on this board. It will get easier with time.


Posted by @freeport12, Apr 23, 2012

read Lisa Osteens book "You were made for More", you will like it ! She wasn't able to have children of her own, she adopted her children.

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