Gratitude Discussion Group

@parus can you loan me a thumb? In all honesty it is time to re-do all the perennial beds. One is along side the length of the house and one that is 1/3 of my backyard. They were created before I bought the place. The previous owner had them done professionally. But they are now ready to be ripped out. I want to get new hardscaping done as well. Something more up to date and more me. Problem is I have no idea what I want. Once I have that decided and done, I would then be able to determine what would be planted in the beds. I am sure my sister-in-law would be able to help me. She has beautiful perennial gardens at her house.

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Hello everyone. I go for the biopsy this morning and then the waiting for follow up appointment in 2 weeks. I have been having no symptoms that I am aware of-thing is I have so much pain I may not notice. No visible blood in urine.
So many of us are to be heralded as brave and continuing to trudge on. Oh yes, t'would be much easier to give into the pain and all of the things that accompany chronic pain. I do not think I need to mention the side effects of chronic pain.
My little scamp spent the day yesterday. He is my motivation right now. I did need to set up the card table yesterday to play with the plethora of creatures ranging from reptiles to a skeleton army. I just was not capable of playing on the floor!!! He is so tolerant of my inadequacies. He even told me yesterday he was going to tell his mom and dad he wanted to live with me. Days here are always play with some educational work/play intermingled.
@contentandwell While I was still working at the plant nursery where we also did what we could to educate customers about there plant material I told them that plants are like people. If they are happy in their location they will thrive. However, I like to believe I am a tad more adaptable than some plants.
As to medical communities all we as consumers can do is strive to work with it as bucking the system rarely works. Their goal has become efficiency and not their patients health. Trying to stuff everyone into the same box is placing them at risk. We are machines whether we like it or not-bar codes being embedded where easily scanned are not far from reality. I will not carry this thought any farther.

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@debbraw Your comment brightened my day in that you recognize how I am feeling and didn't invalidate how I am feeling for now. Discouragement, for me, has always been an obstacle and being such a passive person I typically walk away or just throw in the towel. Coming here helps me to realize I am not alone in my struggles. I want to be the encouraging person. Being on the receiving end is difficult for me. I am beginning to realize admitting fears and weaknesses is not always a form of self-pity. Thing is I continue to try even when I don't want to at times. Navigating the medical system with all of the restrictions can be disheartening. I like to believe there are medical professionals that are well qualified and try the understand the hoops they are required to go through. These large corporations run their lives and have ceased caring about quality and only seem to care about quantity. Being a doctor has become a 9 to 5 job where emergencies are not tolerated well. It is hard to get adequate medical care when a doctor is strapped to a laptop and watching minutes tick away. I so want to believe they still have caring in their work and are not simply punching a time clock to get a pay check. I know I have little to no trust in the medical care I am receiving. When questions are not allowed or possible options discussed and I am dismissed from an appointment by a laptop closing and told I can check out I feel lesser than. Maybe next time I will try a body slam-and yes, I am kidding about the body slam. My last appointment with the PCP I had a list of questions, symptoms, etc. I arrived prepared to be efficient and expedite my appointment of 40 minutes and maybe received 10 minutes. Hard not to have an attitude!!!
I am grateful in other areas and keep plugging along. The thing that keeps me going is my little grandson and knowing I am the only blood family his daddy and him has-big responsibility on my part.
Yes, I am still doing paper mache props for his dinosaurs and army men as well.
Thanks for a place to come and be honest for a while. A scary world out there. I am able to help some of the residents in this apartment complex with understanding how to text and other things. It saddens me as most of them are at more of a loss than I am when it comes to technology. I know I am impaired in this area and can understand the fear and inadequacy others are feeling.
Living in a world where equality for all is means being treated like a criminal. Just how it is in this world of equality.

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Hello everyone. I go for the biopsy this morning and then the waiting for follow up appointment in 2 weeks. I have been having no symptoms that I am aware of-thing is I have so much pain I may not notice. No visible blood in urine.
So many of us are to be heralded as brave and continuing to trudge on. Oh yes, t'would be much easier to give into the pain and all of the things that accompany chronic pain. I do not think I need to mention the side effects of chronic pain.
My little scamp spent the day yesterday. He is my motivation right now. I did need to set up the card table yesterday to play with the plethora of creatures ranging from reptiles to a skeleton army. I just was not capable of playing on the floor!!! He is so tolerant of my inadequacies. He even told me yesterday he was going to tell his mom and dad he wanted to live with me. Days here are always play with some educational work/play intermingled.
@contentandwell While I was still working at the plant nursery where we also did what we could to educate customers about there plant material I told them that plants are like people. If they are happy in their location they will thrive. However, I like to believe I am a tad more adaptable than some plants.
As to medical communities all we as consumers can do is strive to work with it as bucking the system rarely works. Their goal has become efficiency and not their patients health. Trying to stuff everyone into the same box is placing them at risk. We are machines whether we like it or not-bar codes being embedded where easily scanned are not far from reality. I will not carry this thought any farther.

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@nancy82415 One problem with a green thumb-a lot of work accompanies. I enjoy playing in the dirt and with health issues I cannot even use a shovel to dig. No amount of physical therapy will help. I tried last Spring to use my spade on my ornamental grass to divide and landed on my arse!! All I could do was laugh and get back on my feet. Only thing damaged was my dignity.
There are some things that seem to come naturally or possibly it is genetic. Give yourself time to decide.
I am grateful for this cyber table and a place to be real.

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@debbraw I do have a patient portal and prefer communicating this way as I then have proof and need to use this method more to my advantage. Seems talking or discussing things is no longer how doctors perform their duties. I have an HMO and the only problem I have had is with the Primary. My 3 previous PCP's were NP's. Doctors and other medical personnel keep leaving which makes it even more difficult. I am not one to change doctors. I even had one specialist discharge me without telling me leaving me without refills on thyroid medication. I sat for 2 hours waiting to be seen and when I asked if I could reschedule I was then told the doctor had discharged me. Even this is allowed and legal!!! There was a time a doctor could not do such a thing. I can honestly say I have never been rude or disrespectful with a doctor or any of the staff. No reason given for their actions. Most of them don't want to think outside the box. Still searching.
Thanks again to everyone here at connect. At least I am not alone or crazy for being confused. Cold and indifferent is just so wrong no matter what someone's cultures or beliefs.

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@parus You have a whole cheering section waiting to hear on your biopsy and hoping the results will be good. We will try to be patient!
JK

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@parus I’m just wondering if your insurance plan ever sends out satisfaction surveys? Great way to give feedback on personality and practices the the doctor’s office. But, then I just read an article on the total absence of doctors in some states! What do people do?
I’m so glad your doing better. Keep me informed of all the activities you and your grandson do, so I can be ready when mine come!

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@parus You have a whole cheering section waiting to hear on your biopsy and hoping the results will be good. We will try to be patient!
JK

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