Gratitude Discussion Group

Posted by Debbra, Volunteer Mentor @debbraw, Nov 24, 2018

Hi everyone! Just before Thanksgiving @michellegraffradford posted a blog called Gratitude Changes Everything. She suggested three techniques to help incorporate gratitude into our daily lives:

  • Start the Day with Gratitude (before getting up think of three people you are grateful for)
  • Maintain a Gratitude Journal to record times when you are grateful
  • Count Blessings – not sheep! (Review the day and remember moments of gratitude)

Her blogpost was so inspiring that a lot of us decided we wanted to form a Gratitude Group to keep the attitude of gratitude going. The blogpost area is not an ideal space for a big discussion group so I am moving the discussion over here to the “Just Want to Talk” Group. Let’s use this space to share and discuss our Gratitude Journey. I’m going to suggest that we each try to take a minute from the day and post here what has made us feel thankful today. It can be as small as a stranger’s smile on the bus or as large as fulfilling a major life dream – or anywhere in between. We can also discuss how we are doing with the three techniques. Sometimes it is easier to form new habits with support from others.

Michelle’s full blogpost is at the link below. You may want to review it or print it out to help get started!
https://connect.mayoclinic.org/page/living-with-mild-cognitive-impairment-mci/newsfeed/gratitude-changes-everything/

I look forward to hearing from others in the Gratitude Group and to having others join us here! Thanks to those who already shared great stories. If you haven’t yet, what gratitude will you share today?!

@debbraw

I think some of you know that my husband and I have struggled with his cognitive impairment which is tipping precariously toward dementia. Actually, it probably already IS dementia even though we have not had that definitive diagnosis. Anyway, I found a Caregivers Support Group for this that meets at our Council on Aging. Today I went to my first support group meeting and it was EXCELLENT. I can't tell you what a relief it was to talk to people who were dealing with the same issues I am. They were caring, supportive, knowledgeable and welcoming. I am SO SO grateful that I am practically in tears.

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@debbraw Wonderful to hear! You can't be there for your husband if you can't understand, and gain strength from others to help you deal with all of this. And you have us all here at the side door table, to boot ;))
Ginger

@debbraw Happy to hear that care group was helpful your cyber friends are hear for you if you want to talk

@debbraw

I think some of you know that my husband and I have struggled with his cognitive impairment which is tipping precariously toward dementia. Actually, it probably already IS dementia even though we have not had that definitive diagnosis. Anyway, I found a Caregivers Support Group for this that meets at our Council on Aging. Today I went to my first support group meeting and it was EXCELLENT. I can't tell you what a relief it was to talk to people who were dealing with the same issues I am. They were caring, supportive, knowledgeable and welcoming. I am SO SO grateful that I am practically in tears.

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@debbraw What a difference in a situation like yours to find a supportive group that understands what you are going through. I am so happy for you that found this group.
JK

@debbraw

I think some of you know that my husband and I have struggled with his cognitive impairment which is tipping precariously toward dementia. Actually, it probably already IS dementia even though we have not had that definitive diagnosis. Anyway, I found a Caregivers Support Group for this that meets at our Council on Aging. Today I went to my first support group meeting and it was EXCELLENT. I can't tell you what a relief it was to talk to people who were dealing with the same issues I am. They were caring, supportive, knowledgeable and welcoming. I am SO SO grateful that I am practically in tears.

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@debbraw Hi Debbra, I want you to know how much I admire you for finding gratitude in your situation! I have been following you and think it’s great that you can find an excellent situation to help you!!!!!!!………..Karen

@debbraw

I think some of you know that my husband and I have struggled with his cognitive impairment which is tipping precariously toward dementia. Actually, it probably already IS dementia even though we have not had that definitive diagnosis. Anyway, I found a Caregivers Support Group for this that meets at our Council on Aging. Today I went to my first support group meeting and it was EXCELLENT. I can't tell you what a relief it was to talk to people who were dealing with the same issues I am. They were caring, supportive, knowledgeable and welcoming. I am SO SO grateful that I am practically in tears.

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@debbraw– I am very sorry to hear this. When our spouses are sick it's just heart breaking. I'm glad that you found a supportive group.

@debbraw Thankful you have found support as it helps so much. Helps me know you have been helped. Thank you for sharing.

Grateful pulled shoulder muscle is improving-no more PT since a therapist did thus wanting to stretch my neck/ shoulder muscles. TMJ also getting better. Had me scared I will admit.

Wow, thank you all so much for your warm and caring comments. It means so much to have my cyber friends here – you all truly ARE a support group! I'm immensely grateful for that.

And I'm grateful for a wonderful weekend where I took off Friday and did a spa day, then spent Saturday going to a play called "Girls Weekend" with a bunch of my women friends in town. We capped it off with a little happy hour – and it made for a full and fun weekend.

Happy St. Patricks Day!!

@debbraw

@cjtimmerman – What a great recommendation. I checked out that group. Right this minute I'm kind of overwhelmed with social media, but I may join it in the future. I looks like a really positive group! I don't want to pry but I'm hoping your cancer treatments are going well? Do you feel like giving an update? I'm really impressed with your positive attitude and resilience. Thanks for the recommendation.

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@debbraw Actually, I'm feeling the healthiest I have in a long time. After having 4 cancer diagnoses in just over a 2 year period, and then having a proactive hysterectomy due to uterine issues that could have potentially lead to a 5th cancer, I have now just passed my 1 year anniversary without having a new cancer diagnosis. Because Melanoma and Lymphoma can rear their heads any time, I continue to be diligent with skin checks and blood work, and have begun eating much better as a way to help further improve my life and health. I continue to focus on living in the moment and trying to enjoy the life I do have, since tomorrow is not promised to any of us! Happy Sunday!

St. Patrick’s Day was a good day. Didn’t do much as still taking things easy from pulled shoulder muscle, etc.
A long time back I tried to get residents interested in meeting in the common room to color. It went nowhere. Suggested thus again. We are now doing so and enjoying some social life.
Grateful to have some cooperation, laughter and company. Think those long gray days of winter helped some?
Feeling good about helping others feel good too. Loneliness is not healthy.

@cjtimmerman

@debbraw Actually, I'm feeling the healthiest I have in a long time. After having 4 cancer diagnoses in just over a 2 year period, and then having a proactive hysterectomy due to uterine issues that could have potentially lead to a 5th cancer, I have now just passed my 1 year anniversary without having a new cancer diagnosis. Because Melanoma and Lymphoma can rear their heads any time, I continue to be diligent with skin checks and blood work, and have begun eating much better as a way to help further improve my life and health. I continue to focus on living in the moment and trying to enjoy the life I do have, since tomorrow is not promised to any of us! Happy Sunday!

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@cjtimmerman – What a positive, uplifting message you shared with us. Congratulations on that one year milestone. I love your thoughts about eating healthier. I'd like to invite you to check out this conversation where members are sharing recipes and tips for healthier eating: https://connect.mayoclinic.org/discussion/recipes-food-tips-healthy-eating-more/
If you have special recipes or tips that are working well for you in your healthier lifestyle, I would love to hear about them!

@parus No matter! Take your art supplies with you to the common room if you are comfortable doing so. Set yourself up where you can watch others and they can see you working on something. They may come over out of sheer curiosity to see what you are doing and you can offer to help them in color choices for coloring books, Etc. There are so many on the market these days and even at the dollar stores you can buy dollar coloring books with several different themes. It feels good to be able to show others positive ways to spend some time, ease some stress, and just look how much it is helping you!
Ginger

@parus I PUT UP flyers in our building in beginning we had 10 then it dwindled down to 3 but thats how it goes here with anything

@gingerw

@parus No matter! Take your art supplies with you to the common room if you are comfortable doing so. Set yourself up where you can watch others and they can see you working on something. They may come over out of sheer curiosity to see what you are doing and you can offer to help them in color choices for coloring books, Etc. There are so many on the market these days and even at the dollar stores you can buy dollar coloring books with several different themes. It feels good to be able to show others positive ways to spend some time, ease some stress, and just look how much it is helping you!
Ginger

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@lioness Truly it does. I read the words of others and realize we are all creative!!! Many tenacious ones in dealing with things. How about a group hug!!

@parus and everyone. It was so good to read all these statements. They made me feel so much better! I’ve been in a real funk this past week. Just when I thought I was getting better and going east to help my mother, I got the flu. Never had it before I’ve been so miserable. Had to cancel my trip so my sisters had to scramble to see who could go to Mom’s doctor appointment. I’m feeling pretty useless. Hope, hope to get better by May so we can go our 50th anniversary trip! Don’t mind me, my mood will improve. Becky

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