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Dying Well
Dying well is (hopefully) the last part of our efforts to age well.
As part of our life planning, we need to think about what dying well means for each of us.
And it is not easy to distinguish clearly between reasonably hopeful planning for our dying days and what is just “hoping for the best” while avoiding real preparation.
We need to recognize that at some point dying becomes something we cannot bargain with. It will eventually happen on its own terms.
It is reasonable to think about what we hope for, but then we need to ask “What can I do to increase my chances of dying as I hope?” and “What should I do to prepare for the possibility that things may not go as I hope?”
For those of us who are planning and making life/home adjustments to age in place, do we also hope to die in place? Do we also have plans if it turns out that dying in place is not possible? What are these plans?
I’ll share some personal things later, but will stop here for open ended responses.
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When we thought my husband might need to go on Medicaid, the lawyer recommended some ‘’spending down’’, so we bought a double plot and prepaid 2 funerals….he never did go on Medicaid, passed away from cancer soon after (with hospice help on Medicare )….it really helps to do this in advance, one less thing to worry about…just be sure you get a solid reputable company to do this !
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2 Reactions@kjoed53 Thank you for mentioning my 'home' state that I am considering returning to, possibly, except for all those taxes...Inheritance Tax, Exit Tax...etc. besides the typical Capital Gains Tax. Pay now and pay later!!!
My only living family member is there and the one I am trying to make everything easy for, my kid sister. One way or another I will return....our family plots and those we lost are there in Union in the cemetery.
Since about 2019 N.J. has allowed 'right to die', if I understood it correctly.
Great planning on the part of the state, State Trust Funt, and your family's part.
So sorry you lost a child, a never deep ending heartache.
Barbara
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If you're coming in anywhere near Hillsborough, I can highly recommend Hillsborough Funeral Home. They did everything possible to make a traumatic event easier for us and I am forever indebted to them.
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