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Anyone feel they made major life mistakes that are not forgivable?

Posted by elainer12 @elainer12, Mar 27 10:54pm

I’m in my 60s and have realized I made major mistakes in my life that I cannot make amends for. I’ve always had a strong faith in God and feel now that God will not forgive me. I married a man that I did not love because I wanted to be married and have a family. I grew up an only child with no extended family and difficulty making friends. I thought love for my husband would develop out of our friendship, but it didn’t because of his anger issues. We have two adult sons. The older one barely keeps in touch and the younger one has undiagnosed depression and anger issues. I have seen a therapist who said I should try to forgive myself. I have tried to be a good wife and mother. I have prayed for forgiveness and admitted my mistakes. I want to pray to God for help but feel unworthy. Being Jewish, I have the belief in God’s attribute of justice as well as mercy. How can I move forward? How can God forgive me?

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RN | @doclarrea | Apr 9 9:30pm

Hello dear. God has already forgiven you. Gods is good, always. From experience, it is harder to forgive oneself. You need to know that you did the best you could with what you had at the time.

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nycmusic | @nycmusic | Apr 10 8:58am
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I'm 73 now. I ate too much sugar as a kid even though my mom made the Kool aid with half the sugar in the directions. I would eat half of a loaf of white bread cinnamon toast (buttered with sugar and cinnamon) at a time. I ate sugar pops, frosted flakes, sugar crisp, etc. I ate peanut butter and jelly nearly every day. Hot dogs and cold cuts were always in our fridge. As I got older, fast food, bacon sausage and most processed meat was part of my diet. I ate beef as often as I could afford. It's only when I reached my 60's that I focused more on eating healthier. I still eat bacon, hot dogs and sausage occasionally as well as a sub sandwich. I eat less beef but still order a prime rib or hamburger when dining out. My mom lived to 101. I'm relatively healthy other than a recent PMR diagnosis. I have a tendency to test high for cholesterol and triglycerides but that is more genetic than dietary for me. My arteries are clear. Genetics is a huge factor in our health and unless you know of some family history that is concerning, try to relax a bit and enjoy your family without judgement. You don't have to contribute to the dietary concerns you have for them but you need to understand that the only change you control is yourself and your worry. Worry will affect your health as much as anything.

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@kjoed53 over the years, info about diet and bigger choices now available…..boomers grew up when processed -convenient foods were popular and widely available…times have changed and much more diet info out there. Some have kept the older habits and some have adapted to changes, no judgements here, up to each person… but i do love more variety, especially veggies and fruits readily available from farmers’ markets. In nyc, there are produce street vendors, less expensive.

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kjoed53 | @kjoed53 | Apr 10 10:04am
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@kjoed53 over the years, info about diet and bigger choices now available…..boomers grew up when processed -convenient foods were popular and widely available…times have changed and much more diet info out there. Some have kept the older habits and some have adapted to changes, no judgements here, up to each person… but i do love more variety, especially veggies and fruits readily available from farmers’ markets. In nyc, there are produce street vendors, less expensive.

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I learned to not only eat but to enjoy vegetables as an adult. I've also lived long enough to see artificial sweeteners go from the savior of millions to become the new threat to our health. I believe that processed foods are not good for us, but I don't believe that eggs, coffee, butter, whole milk, red meat, sugar, bread and the occasional processed foods are the pariah that everyone makes them out to be. So much of our health is related to genetics. I have cardiac reactions to all non sugar sweeteners, both natural and artificial that I have tried, until now I refuse to try any more. It is only 20-50 years later that we can judge any of the new trends in diet and food products. Our bodies are much more complex than anyone understands and our dietary needs change constantly with age. The best we can do is try to balance our nutrition based on what we like and what makes us feel healthy, and limit what we know is not good for us. Who knows, 20 years from now they may figure out that all the veggies that we're eating are full of chemicals and micro plastics and that even the organic label is not the reliable option we all thought it was. Maybe not, but no one knows for sure.

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nycmusic | @nycmusic | Apr 10 10:47am

kjoed53. Wonderful post, really well said…genetics definitely a big factor in health, in ways few of us really know….i like to see food and eating in a positive enjoyable way, not crazy bad or only as medicine…simple is my best way, full of fresh and colorful things…and adapting to changing needs…( and for many of us, the occasional treat is important. )

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