Anyone feel they made major life mistakes that are not forgivable?

How can He forgive you? The same way He has forgiven me, and for the same reason. After all I am his Creation, and God didn't make no crap.....know'msayum? He gave us the ability, the potential, and the autonomy, to fail, and except for his Son, I don't know of anyone infallible. We all sin. We all transgress. We all put our selfish motives ahead of most everything most times. If we have a conscience, and as we move through life learning, we come to understand the injury we have caused others, and by extension ourselves.

If you and are I alike, sinners, and if God hates a sinner, then every grave is filled with the bones of The Forsaken.

Well...
As someone who blamed himself for everything since the beginning of time, let me say this:
Stop it. Right now.

You don't have that kind of power.

Here's my take.
It's not that God can't forgive you. Whatever you've done, God has forgiven far worse.

The issue, I bet, is that you can't forgive yourself.

I'm not trying to be cruel. Just the opposite. Be compassionate with yourself. I'm sure you didn't sit up all night devising ways to ruin those around you. If things didn't work out ... well, that happens.

Unless you murdered people, sold drugs to schoolkids, or stuff like that, you're a pretty normal person.

I did a YouTube episode about this very topic:
https://m.youtube.com/watch

To elainer12. Since you are deep in your distress over your past, that is t'shuvah (turned around). You are already repentent. Therefore, God is with you in your repentence, and, so to speak, already in the process of forgiving you. The next part of t'shuvah is to live your life in accord with God's teachings. Study. Prayer. Acts of kindness. (The last one is really healing).
The thing NOT to do is get stalled in guilt and not live.
How can any of us live a life without making mistake after mistake. Theater of the Absurd (and maybe Woody Allen) would say this whole thing is one big mistake.

My practical suggestion is that even if you’re not observant to talk to a trusted religious adviser. I am not Jewish and so I can’t tell you who it should be.
But I have heard in a Christian context that not being able to forgive yourself is the sin of pride. You are saying that you are a better judge of yourself than God Himself. And that’s pride talking. I wish you peace.

I’m not Jewish so I don’t understand fully the nuances of Jewish marriage obligations. It seems there are nuances which focus more on being a good homemaker and creating a peaceful home, rather than on the emotion of love. Many people marry without love and many are happy even though emotional love does not grow.

I’m not sure from what you’ve told us how you are to blame for your husband’s anger issues or for your children’s issues.
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We all make mistakes in life, and it sounds like you have done all you can do to make things better. It may sound trite but as the old saying goes, let go and let God… now, forgive yourself and move on and enjoy your life.

We all make the best decisions we can with the knowledge we have at that moment. Second guessing is easy, understandable, and serves no useful purpose.

My hugs to you. You are not alone in this world of people, who make mistakes knowingly or unknowingly.
You make a list of mistakes, you think you have made, and then loudly say it to yourself, "sorry. I forgive myself.God loves me, no matter how many mistakes I have done in the past.
Cross out each line of mistake and when you are done w all of them, then burn that paper of list of mistakes"
Now, cognitively you have gotten did of memory of those mistakes that are haunting you and making you feel excessively guilty. You may have yo do this many times, to erase your unwanted guilt. Our God has forgiven all of us already. So, now it is the time yo take some antidepressant medication and do not let that unhappy overly guilt feeling control you.
Hang in there dear Shaloam! You will be fine. Go to a Catholic Priest and confess your mistakess, if you like. That helps a lot.
I will pray for you.
Love and hugs.
W regards,
VJ

Guilt is one heavy load ! And really serves no positive function…once you recognize errors and try to live life better each day, you have already begun self-forgiveness….letting go of old stuff will be a great relief and your life will be immeasurably better…G-d does not harbor judgements and punish- that’s a human invention…make room in your life for more of your own best values and some joy !!

@gloaming Can the God you are talking about forgive me who is Jewish, not a Christian? I have always believed there is one God for all of us.