Does anyone feel old and useless with age?

posted in the wrong place, sorry.

Still read it and a lot in common have a blessed evening.

Im 65 and feel the same way, cant function like I used to ( what seems like not long ago). What will give out first me or my car. I drive , but dont drive far now. health issues read like a recipe , all the different items.

You are not alone, I'm 79 yrs old, had 2 surgery's this year, now in physical therapy for a torn meniscus, unable to do things I use to do, hard to imagine 1 yr ago was physically fit, now downhill . Depressing, hoping to be able to travel come the spring, Staying in prayer for healing.

I am very sad hearing of so many feeling "old and useless". Sometimes health and time can be very unkind to us. I am 78(wait! Did I just say 78?) and have any number of health issues. I was an active, athletic type throughout my life, even enjoying cycling, skiing, and yard work up until five years ago. Even then, my pain was mainly in my lower back and buttocks. Then, the dreaded poly neuropathy wormed its way into my body. Why? No one knows. They call it "idiopathic"(no known cause). Slowly and steadily this thing has stolen my health and activities. Currently I mostly sit at the computer and watch tv. All the while, pain has its way with me, refusing to bend to all the drugs I am taking, and the meds slowly oozing into my intrathecal space from the pain pump that was implanted three years ago. As a follower of Christ, I often ask, "Why me, Lord"? Of course, in reality, why not me? The Lord never promised me a life of ease, free of pain and suffering. The one thing that I cling to is that God has promised that the "light afflictions of this world pale in comparison to the riches that will be mine someday when I am called home. I ask all of you whom find yourselves in pain to call upon the name of the Lord and he shall give you strength to hold up against the slings and arrows of the evil one. I hope all of you have a blessed and less painful day.

I dont want to go anywhere or do anything but I still care for my daughter, ( there is only the two of us now ) so I push myself. I get no help which makes me angry when I think of all the decades I spent helping others. arthritis etc etc . now my eyesight thanks to the drug i was on for arthritis. I dont have a retirement fund because I spent decades caring for family and lived on the carer payment the government gave.

I feel completely useless compared to where I was when I first had to retire over 10 years ago. Now I have a really hard time just standing or walking for any length of time due to osteoarthritis and neuropathy in my feet. I've gained almost 40 pounds during this time, and I have zero endurance when it comes to most physical jobs around the house. How are you supposed to lose weight when you can't exercise or even walk unaided any more?
I was the family work horse all of my adult life until I had to walk away from my job and retire, now I'm a shell of what I used to be. It's maddeningly frustrating.

Can you find interests outside of family and (old) friends? The constant worry and fight for health can be exhausting. Maybe try learning something new? My biggest problem with growing older is I no longer have any "dreams" or "goals". I keep busy, but I feel like I'm just uselessly spinning my wheels; and good luck finding a therapist who understands. You got to be old to understand old. I hope things get better for you.

I went into depression when I retired at 62. Felt isolated and like I didn’t belong. What really helped me get out of it was volunteering. You get to learn new skills and feel useful again.
I am now 86 and no longer have the energy in takes to volunteer. So now I join group meetings on zoom dealing with self awareness and aging. Getting old is hard but we can be grateful for the experience 😍

Laughter is good for the body and good for the mind! Think as many positive thoughts as possible. Smile in the mirror and say outloud that Today is a Happy Day! Read the Funnypapers, say hello to those you make eye contact with today. Be nice to those who are critical and try to leave them smiling… if not chuckling!
I wish you the best day yet! 🙂