Do you feel hurt?

Posted by lost55 @lost55, 6 hours ago

Hi
New here. Been dealing with my wife’s
Dementia, starting about 4or 5 years ago. You just know when things are no longer right. We now have the diagnosis and all the meds but although they help, I know they won’t arrest this terrible disease. My wife’s mother and her mother’s 4 sisters all passed with Alzheimer’s. Been married 55 years and just sometimes feel so tired and down. We are in the stage where paranoia or delusions can pop up at any time.
For me the depression takes hold when my wife accuses me of taking her things tweezers, face stuff, hairbrushes ( don’t have any to speak of) One minute she is cognizant, and fully comprehending and then she looks for something she has misplaced and the twilight zone begins.
I know I need to take the accusations and paranoia as part of the process but wonder if anyone else feels hurt when this happens. One hour I’m just the best the next hour just the opposite.
How to deal with this insanity?
B

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tsch | @tsch | 5 hours ago

@lost55
There is another discussion for people who are caregiving like you. You will find support and some useful information there. Look for the "I am Disappearing" thread. (There may be others too.) But also look into any sources of help from state or other programs or services. You need to take care of you and that will better help you take care of your wife. Be sure her physician knows what is happening in case there is medication to help.
To deal with the insanity, seek assistance for yourself- and that will help your wife as well.