Hello. I am 28, I have a four year old son, and I recently lost my pregnancy at 13 weeks. I am having a very difficult time dealing with my grief. I haven't slept in days. It hit me like a ton of bricks because I didn't know that I had lost the baby. I went in for a routine check up and the nurse could not find my baby's heartbeat on the doppler. I was then moved back to have a scan, where it was confirmed that my baby had indeed died. I was taken by surprise, and as a result I feel like I am losing my mind. I had the d&c yesterday and I have been hysterical since. I was hoping that someone on here who maybe has been through this could give me some advice as to how i am supposed to move on. How am I supposed to live my life now? I don't even know where to begin. Just 3 short weeks ago I had my first ultrasound and the baby looked perfectly fine, even had a heart rate of 174 bpm. How does this happen? How can a fetus be thriving and healthy one week and gone the next? Any help would be wonderful. Thannk you.