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Any On-line support groups for family of pt w Alcohol Use Disorder?

Posted by minipika @minipika, Sep 4 5:28pm

I am needing an online support group to vent and learn from. Currently going through the hell of a loved one in the family suffering from alcohol use disorder, who fell today and has a brain injury. Will not accept help of any kind. Wants to leave the hospital ama. This is tearing me up, I am older and still working and am also a caregiver for my elderly parent. I don't know who will take care of him, he lives alone and will not accept. The cycle goes on. I just need somewhere to vent without having to go to groups in person. I am in pain and sadness, I loved the person, but am afraid dementia may have already set in, I don't know them anymore, lashes out. I miss him when he wasn't sick.

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ziggypop | @ziggypop | Sep 5 8:28am

Hi minipika,
I don't use online groups but I know if you search AA or especially alanon online you will find what you are looking for. Also recommend this site for the dementia support group. Perhaps go to one alanon meting in person to meet some people that you can connect with.

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minipika | @minipika | Sep 5 12:39pm
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@ziggypop

Hi minipika,
I don't use online groups but I know if you search AA or especially alanon online you will find what you are looking for. Also recommend this site for the dementia support group. Perhaps go to one alanon meting in person to meet some people that you can connect with.

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Thank you for your prompt reply . Don't underestimate your kindness to a stranger who has a broken heart. I have found a group miles away I can drive to, wish there were online options, I am pulled to many responsibilities. Thank you, mini pika.

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gem13 | @gem13 | Sep 6 12:37am

I’m sorry for what you’re having to go through. You may find what you’re looking for at familiesanonymous.org. They do have an online meeting. I will copy/paste the link below. Best of success to you.
https://familiesanonymous.org
Home - Families Anonymous
FA is a 12 step fellowship for the family and friends of those individuals with drug, alcohol or related behavioral issues. We are here to help!

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minipika | @minipika | Sep 9 12:08pm
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@gem13

I’m sorry for what you’re having to go through. You may find what you’re looking for at familiesanonymous.org. They do have an online meeting. I will copy/paste the link below. Best of success to you.
https://familiesanonymous.org
Home - Families Anonymous
FA is a 12 step fellowship for the family and friends of those individuals with drug, alcohol or related behavioral issues. We are here to help!

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Oh great! Thank you!

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az53 | @az53 | Sep 10 10:44am

Alcoholism is a family disease. It destroys not only the loved one who cannot stop without help, but it crushes the hearts and souls of those who love and care for him. Follow the advice of others here who have directed you to Al-anon (which is separate from AA and is for loved ones of alcoholics). From what you have written you may want to try 1 or 2 or 3 meetings via Zoom first since it appears difficult for you to get to a physical meeting which by far would be best. We wouldn’t want you to be discouraged if the first meeting you tried was not your cup of tea, like consisting primarily of mothers with troubled drinking teens, or young husbands with alcoholic wives. Although the problems and issues at bottom are the same, the dynamic may be different. If you find a Zoom meeting you feel good about, do make the time to drive to it. It may save your life. It may save your loved one’s life. Even if it only allows you to vent with others who appreciate what you’re going through. It may help your sanity so that you may help your loved one and be able to help the others relying on you. I am a 71 year old husband who was put on the road to sobriety 8 years ago at Mayo after 35 years of drinking. This is the best I can offer you. Good luck on this difficult road,

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minipika | @minipika | Sep 20 3:56pm
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@az53

Alcoholism is a family disease. It destroys not only the loved one who cannot stop without help, but it crushes the hearts and souls of those who love and care for him. Follow the advice of others here who have directed you to Al-anon (which is separate from AA and is for loved ones of alcoholics). From what you have written you may want to try 1 or 2 or 3 meetings via Zoom first since it appears difficult for you to get to a physical meeting which by far would be best. We wouldn’t want you to be discouraged if the first meeting you tried was not your cup of tea, like consisting primarily of mothers with troubled drinking teens, or young husbands with alcoholic wives. Although the problems and issues at bottom are the same, the dynamic may be different. If you find a Zoom meeting you feel good about, do make the time to drive to it. It may save your life. It may save your loved one’s life. Even if it only allows you to vent with others who appreciate what you’re going through. It may help your sanity so that you may help your loved one and be able to help the others relying on you. I am a 71 year old husband who was put on the road to sobriety 8 years ago at Mayo after 35 years of drinking. This is the best I can offer you. Good luck on this difficult road,

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I found your reply very compassionate and helpful. Thank you!

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