Hi everyone. I won’t belabor this, but it’s been a horrible few weeks. I’m so sorry I moved here, but don’t feel I can move back to my condo because my girls would be really upset. They have real lives, but I don’t. Their Dad, from whom I’m divorced after a 40 year marriage, also lives down this way and, typical of narcissists, has made himself the “center of attention.” He is a real “joiner” meaning he joins all sorts of groups and then leads them, he’s the favored Grandpop as he’s been down here for 10 years. and will go to almost any extent to be the “wise old owl.” I am not one to take over ….. he is. I see my grandkids about once a week, which is fine, but then the rest of the week, I’m just here. So, the question is “do I stay here and make my kids happy?” or do I move back to my condo in Frederick, MD where I will be happy and my foundation and support system is all there? And, at 72, I realize I’m going to be needing help someday down the road …. is it fair to make them drive up there to help me? My X husband and I did all the time or our parents. I cannot find a church in my denomination (Western Orthodox) except for 1-1/2 hrs. away. I may just have to do that and drive there each Sunday.
I don’t want to go through the rest of my life feeling like a black cloud is sitting on my head. I just should have stuck to my guns and not agreed to move down here at all.