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Adult daughter with mental health issues in crisis.
We have a 40-year-old daughter with mental illness who lives 1800 miles from us. She has suffered from mental issues all of her life. When she is on her medications, she is fine. Until recently, she was living with her boyfriend and their 8-year-old son.
She notified us a year ago that she was breaking off all contact with us because our politics didn't align with hers.
About 2 months ago, we (her parents), her sister, and other family members received vicious emails from her accusing us of cutting off her credit cards, shutting down her bank accounts, putting cameras in her house, etc. She thinks we are doing this to force her to change her ways. She is delusional. No one in the family is doing anything to harm her. We continued to email with offers of help, to no avail.
Her boyfriend has moved himself and their son to his mother's house. He owns the house they were living in together, and he evicted her about a month ago. We just found out a couple of days ago, from another email from her, that she was starting legal proceedings against me —I'm not sure what for, but that isn't my worry.
She is now homeless and has no access to any of her funds (she gets a disability payment, but apparently is having a problem with the bank). She indicated that she refuses to take away any benefits from "real" homeless people, such as shelter or food services.
She won't answer my emails. I believe she is mentally in crisis.
I'm at a loss on how to help her.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
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Thank you. I think I will call the Crisis Center person and talk to him. The boyfriend is iffy. Thank you, again.
If you can find out where she is and all social services fail or are refused by her, consider a wellness check by local law enforcement; she may need involuntary hospitalization
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2 ReactionsSandy Beach had a lovely daughter who was murdered as she returned home from dropping her kids off at school. He has several tapes, free, online you can listen to that might be helpful. What helped him the most was, "Letting Go". He passed on recently. He was a Marine combat pilot during the Korean War. Discovered booze was killing him. His story continues...and it is incredible.
Richard Chamberlain's father, deceased, "Chuck," was a total flop at everything he did. He has tapes, free, one of which is called, "A New Pair of Glasses" in which he describes how he went from being a total failure, to someone who became dedicated to helping others through, "Letting Go" of everything he once cherished, and the love he received as a result is mind boggling.
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1 ReactionUnfortunately being so far removed from the immediate situation is a problem. And as an independent adult your hands may be tied in any efforts to help from a distance. Even if the authorities perform a wellness check she may be able to clothe and feed herself and put on a good front and prevent any further action. Since you’ve dealt with her growing up this situation is not new to you. The cycle of no medication, hospitalization, and the cycle begins again. Maybe the father of her child knows where she was connected to mental health wise so they could be helpful. Hopefully your grandchild is safe with his father. Sounds like she needs an inpatient stay to get back on track and that may require her to bottom out first.
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1 ReactionCall the police in her area!!
They will do a wellness check and put in motion mental health services.
This will probably end up in an involuntary hospitalization given the symptoms you describe.
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