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How do You Deal with Dangerous Doctor, Abusive Provider? Tips?
Most medical professionals are the greatest people in the world bc they choose work that helps humanity. (Or animals) But sometimes people with serious problems qualify for Medical licenses. They have a different face towards their peers who they seek acceptance from than they often have to their patients behind closed doors when they don't truly value patients as people. I had the misfortune of just concluding a year with an abuser.
This doctor was an independent PCP + based in an office without oversight, which is not unusual. I'm a single Senior woman. I was stricken w COVID twice+ then signed in with him for treatment of many debilitating unresolved symptoms. He looked good on paper in terms of credentials. He had openings and I needed a PCP.
He had an initial interest in deciphering my symptoms. Blood panels were perfect. He ordered an MRI to rule out a stroke bc of what was PASC but which he didn't acknowledge. The imaging revealed a meningioma brain tumor. However, the local neurosurgeon and 2 Top Ten specials indicated it was benign but untreatable for various reasons, but with the good news was that it was asymptomatic + not the cause of my symptoms. Repeated MRI showed no changes. It is expected to never become a problem. I am simply on tumor watch.
I moved to N Carolina after a lifetime on the other side of the country, just months before COVID arrived. Prior, I had decades long warm+ wonderful relationships with my doctors, who honestly never were wrong. They were just that good. But I didn't have any serious problems to require ongoing care for anything other than a disc injury that I recovered from without surgery. So I expected to continue on my same course after moving.
This PCP has real Dark Triad + sadistic pathologies. He began a campaign of doom for me, rejecting all above neuro reports+ hammering his view that my life was going downhill without any form of help. He rejected any other diagnosis like Post COVID. He was verbally+ emotionally abusive unlike anyone ever spoke to me. When I brought in a wrong form he called me by phone and said my mistake "WAS UNACCEPTABLE!" in a tone like 'BAD DOG!" He often sat w his back to me+ never look at me during visits, after. He's a large man+ his contempt+ arrogance were palpable. I have trauma from previous crime. I gave him a LEO phone number to call at their request + he refused, blasting me for a " conspiracy theory" + mandated that I may never mention it again. It was horrible. I posted here Nov I wanted to change Drs. Never got to. This guy began harassment by not reordering my 1 medication I take for several symptoms which also suppresses potential seizures tho he got multiple requests. He let the Rx run out over Thanksgiving then approaching Xmas. He saw me the day before Christmas Eve. I had not a full dose of meds for days. I said to him - he wasnt treating me for anything, I had no care plan + why couldn't be just refill my Rx in time. I had an deep infection beginning on my sternum + my BP standing was dropping to 70/30, at home, which he never took standing, after he walked in exam room.
He became infuriated! Cold controlled rage + contempt. He said, "We're done here, right now. You'll get a letter." Punctuated w his forefinger tapping the table. Shocked but ill, I asked to be transferred to another of the 20 Drs in the building+ he said absolutely not, that he won't allow me to be seen there. He said with dripping contemptuous sarcasm "Good luck finding another Dr. " I then told him he failed as a Dr much more. He was 100% statue like + non responsive to everything. We had a below zero rare freeze alert pending that night then Xmas long holiday. He renewed Rx but pharmacy was out of stock. I went back+ did get some but I ended up having my first seizure as soon as I could get home. Without timely care for the bacterial infection, it spread fast. In days when services reopened I needed office surgery + now I've been told I need thoracic surgery under general anesthesia to complete the tx. Dr said had I been treated timely none of this would have developed Lost my (minor PT) job bc I couldnt work. Was on antibiotics for a month w side effects. Biggest ending: He excoriated me in his final medical records, creating false impressions and distorted content. A vile smear job. Just FYI, my career was as an RN Specialist at the very top internationally recognized hospitals. I never mentioned this to him until he terminated me with callous disregard for my welfare, since I'm retired. He never asked about me. But I confronted him as a dangerous doctor. He was totally stunned. But caught. Dr E is not typical. But it does happen. It happened to me. He intended to extend his abusive reach into my future healthcare via medical records. But I'm blocking them + silencing his evil voice.
This is surely an anomaly. But it does happen to innocent patients behind closed doors of licensed medical professionals who are of the Dark Triad personality disorder w sadistic enjoyments.
I got a much needed cardiology consult on my own w problems identity, + under tx. I connected w someone for Post COVID tx + it's helping
These are all basic txs I could've had a yr ago.
Chest surgery is hopefully going to be easy. The surgeon is highly respected + known to be kind.
That's my nightmare story.
Any support would be appreciated. I'm still shaken by this. But moving forward.
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You asked about getting your images. They are at the Imaging facility they were taken at. You don't need any third party. You can contact them directly - by telephone- and ask for Medical Records Dept. Tell them u want a disk copy or hard copy of the imaging. They will tell you what to do, dealing directly with them. It's likely only a matter of signing an authorization by Internet or paper. I was never charged anything. They will mail it or you can pick it up. That's all there is to it. Then u can send it to anyone you want to have it reviewed. Good luck.
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1 ReactionThanks for the information.
I will try it tomorrow. They have to give it to me right?
Just a note re the portals: staff/drs often put inaccurate info in your electronic record. And the portals have now reasonable method for documenting that.
I hate it when staff lie so they sound more proactive than they really are. They are s rewing with my permanent record, and it's now full of innaccuracies.
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3 ReactionsYes that sounds like the first guy I dealt with. Apparently he has a bad reputation for being a jerk. That’s from my doctor. The surgeon who did the surgery actually is way up on the pile if not the top was just a nice guy. He’s also the trauma surgeon, he likes that better! But you are correct that oftentimes the top person is a jerk. Definitely time for you to shop around!
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1 ReactionYou hit nerve here. Yes, huge corruption existing My medical records from this former PCP was used as it were a soc media self promotion which was intermittent converted for application as a weapon. I've recently been considering having my electronic files just blocked from access bc they are so incorrect they actually misrepresent reality. I read an "examination" rpt that would have taken 2hrs + was so impressive I wished I could someday have one so comprehensive. LOL bc that day Dr's dominant right entire arm was in cast + he couldn't even hold his laptop w his left. But my "report" was remarkable! He could tell my spleen was soft + not tender mentally thru my jeans from across the room. And a thorough examination of my hair +scalp was done!... so delicately I didn't even feel it or get a hair out of place.
These conversations here are motivating me to begin a business as an Advocate to help get the corruption and unacceptable behaviors corrected. It makes me angry. I think things have drifted too far from an acceptable standard.
When you comment on your medical records, are the comments attached to the original input?
It’s true because he had a long list looking at the portals that said I had Kidney Stones. I have never had kidney stones in my life so I don’t know where that came from. Also a half dozen other “medical issues” were mentioned as diagnosis that didn’t exist.
I’m sure these “ diagnoses “ padded the Medicare bills
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1 ReactionSupposedly there is a process that you can undertake to append a comment, but it's not visible to the patient (like most of the notes) and it isn't easy. The fact that a patient cannot see their own data is disgusting and makes me think doctors are spending more time covering their butts than caring for their patients.
Oh, yes, the phantom exam. Apparently I had a full discussion about fibromyalgia at our last appt. Never happened. Dude spends most of his time talking about himself.
.... And I don't have a fibeomyalgia diagnosis.
I may qualify, but nobody has ever evaluated me for those types of conditions.
The medical system has isolated itself from itself and the people it's supposed to serve.
It is so infuriating that dealing with the medical system rips apart your mental health, and then they blame things they don't understand as a result of "your mental health conditions." I dream of saying, "but YOU are my mental health condition!"
Not all doctors. Maybe half. But that's enough to ruin everything.
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3 ReactionsI think that a patient should have the right to see everything in their file.
It is shocking to me that something as important as human health is allowed to skulk about under a cloak of secrecy.
I've been diagnosed with PTSD due to medical trauma. A string of doctors, neurologists, lying, trying to charge me for taking the time to tell me they will not let me schedule a time to review the MRIs they ordered, being called a liar about my symptoms and then prescribed a drug I explicitly explained why I should not take... and their response was THE LETTER, which everyone can see, and makes it sound like I'm an unreasonable flake.
If I am ever well, I'll be taking the myChart thing on. It is an invitation to blacklist people from basic medical care because a doctor is being sub-human.
And hospitals always support the doctor. It's cancerous, and I am learning that it happens ALL THE TIME.
The best medical system in the world. What a load of poo!
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3 ReactionsYes. This seems to be a 'thing' now to add diagnoses for increased reimbursement. It happen to me too.
Forgive me but you gave me a needed big laugh when you related the 5th dimension conversation. I know exactly how they talk about themselves - and then you get a written documentary of the visit that never happened on planet earth in your medical records.