Spouse with cognitive problems and finances

Dear Julie,
I remember a woman who had terminal Cancer and her last wish was to cook a meal for her husband. What an unselfish wish -just like your unselfish wish to cook a nice meal for Bill, after all those years of cooking for him.
There are still ways of showing Bill your unselfish love and the most loving to me is having him stay in his home with you. We know the alternative and it is harsh.
To me, there is nothing more loving than having Bill stay at home and because you do, Bill knows and feels your love for him. My friend did the same and she was the only one with him when he died. Her in-laws even owned a nursing home and it would have been easier for her to keep him there. She made the unselfish decision to keep her husband home with her until the end.
I pray you will find acceptance and peace of mind because you deserve it, Julie.

I'm wishing the best, Julie, for you and Bill, a peaceful transition to the next stage. It hasn't been easy for you. I hope you have some time to breathe.

In the past two days has been a dramatic downhill change. The hospice nurse this morning said it would probably be a matter of days or hours. This afternoon his breathing has changed and he was showing signs of pain so administered more pain medication. I went to hold his hand and he flinched as if in pain to be touched. The worst for him is that the C-Diff has most likely returned. Only can't give antibiotic pills as he is unresponsive and trouble swallowing. He has been unresponsive since late last night. Sometimes opens his eyes but doesn't seem to recognize anything. Seems strange to be praying for his release. But he would hate going through what he is. And I know there is no chance of his getting better.
Robin wanted to come home from school but I told her to stay as there is nothing she can do and I'm okay. In our family we always did the crying after the emergency was over.
Thanks everyone for thoughts and prayers.

Julie, Thinking of you and Bill for sure, @billchitwood

Wishing you increased strength, courage, & peace

Julie, Thinking and praying for a peaceful time for you and Bill. Your strength and love give me hope that when the time comes my husband will be at home with me.

He loved to move! This time it was to his final home - heaven - sometime during the early morning hours of Friday night. Fortunately we were able to keep him at home. Hospice of the Valley (Phoenix) were wonderful and made everything easy for him and us as well.

Since I always did the packing for all of our moves, I doing the last packing for him as we are donating to charity. He would be pleased.

Thank you everyone.

Dear Julie: May you find peace in knowing that your love, care and determination provided Bill with the best possible transition to heaven. I hope for the best for you and your daughter. Arlene

Julie, I wish you all the best. You and Robin have been with Bill every step of the way through this difficult time. Take care, Teri

Julie
Thinking of you and Robin and wishing you a peaceful and restful Holiday Season. I'll miss your post.
Trisha

Dear Julia - I wish you peace and comfort. Bill's journey has ended, but your has just entered the next chapter. You have done everything for Bill, even through his most difficult days and hours. What a precious gift, and I know that under all his confusion and anxiety, he appreciated your presence. I had been praying for him and you, and watching for your posts - but fell off the radar this past week.

Now it is time for you and Robin to rest and recuperate. As you travel this next step of the journey, I am still here to listen and care. Please take your time, rest easy in your faith, and embrace your family.
Sue