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~ Cyclothymia and family members ~

Posted by Barb @amberpep, Jul 14, 2012

Hi everyone. I'm leaving tomorrow to visit my daughter and her family in VA. I have sent all my kids (3) all adults from 29 - 40, info. on cyclothymia so they would know what I'm dealing with. I've also told them what I take.
It's very odd because not one of them has ever asked me about this. In fact, one of them blows me off - no matter what it is - as if I were taking a splinter out of my hand. I had a total knee replacement a year ago and she didn't call for 2 -3 weeks, never sent even a card. The other 2, I must say, "were there" for me, and I was grateful.
When it comes to this, I am more than open to sharing my story with them, but it's as if everyone just pretends it's not there. They really need to know that part of this is genetic. I guess it really makes me feel sort of like "the crazy aunt in the attic."
Thanks for listening.
abby

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lovinJesus | @lovinjesus | Jul 26, 2012

Amberpep, I can relate to that and all I can say is, We have to live with it and face it that our adult children are selfish, tha's the bottom line. I have told my girls (we are in Va also) that I was very sick with MCS (multiple chemics sensivity) before and they brush it off like saying, Oh, sorry bout that." never is it mentioned again. Our adult children, I would say, 80-90% of them think of themselves and their children and thats it. When they have a problem though, look out, they will talk your ears deaf. That's how our grown kids are and we can't change it. One day, just like em, your hurt will turn into, Oh, well, whatever. I don't cry over my children being selfish anymore, it doesn't even bother me now. Enough is enough. My VERY BEST to you. Hey, you have friends here who care. BIG HUG, Gerri (Geraldine)

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Paige | @paige | Jul 28, 2012
In reply to @amberpep "Thank you so much Bettyann. Interestingly, that's exactly the conclusion I came to also. I'm saying..." + (show)
@amberpep

Thank you so much Bettyann. Interestingly, that's exactly the conclusion I came to also. I'm saying nothing, but just having a good time and enjoying being with them. When I need to "get away" for awhile by myself (there are 2 little kiddies) I just come up to my room and either read or take a nap. It has really gone well this time.
Thank you so much for your advice ..... seems that we were both thinking the same thing.
Barb

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Hi amberpep- I have two daughters and five grandchildren.My younger daughter tells me to please move to her home when I'm old. Does she mean feeble-minded or feeble-bodied ? : my attempt to find humor 😉
Like you, I don't want to leave my home and all of the safe places where I know my way around. Still, maybe when I'm 90 I'll change my mind ? With grandchildren it's difficult to stay detached when you see things are wrong. We're not the moms anymore and that can feel like a loss. I hope your feelings of sadness are starting to go away. If it helps any, I've experienced many of the emotions you wrote about. You're not alone. I'm glad to have found this Board too.

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Barb | @amberpep | Aug 3, 2012
In reply to @amberpep "Thank you so much Bettyann. Interestingly, that's exactly the conclusion I came to also. I'm saying..." + (show)
@amberpep

Thank you so much Bettyann. Interestingly, that's exactly the conclusion I came to also. I'm saying nothing, but just having a good time and enjoying being with them. When I need to "get away" for awhile by myself (there are 2 little kiddies) I just come up to my room and either read or take a nap. It has really gone well this time.
Thank you so much for your advice ..... seems that we were both thinking the same thing.
Barb

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I'm glad I found this Board.
Barb

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