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Remaining independent: Tips & tricks for creating good habits
Concerned because a neighbor has called three times in recent months to tell me my garage door had been standing open for several hours and was checking to see if I was ok. While very grateful for the calls and after the 1st call immediately posted a sign on my utility door as a reminder to "close door", two more calls followed that 1st one.
I've lived alone in my home for decades. I'm 76 and still maintain my home and do my own yard work. While I've laughed for years that I have always been a bit scatter brained, I am also fiercely independent and not yet ready to relocate out of state near my daughter and into a sr living establishment.
I'm looking into installing a locking system for my automatic garage door but if I continue to fail to press whatever buttons required to close or engage the system, I will not be able to live alone in this house. Any suggestions or tips on how I can "train" myself to be Sure that garage is firmly down?
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Thank you very much. I have a trust so the next trustee will be looking after things - either me in assisted living, or winding up the trust when I die. My attorney (whom I worked for for 23 years) added a Power of Appointment so that he will work with her and I will leave written wishes.
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2 ReactionsI often thought that at some point it would be a better idea to have someone come live with me rent free, in exchange for help and care when I need it. In my own house, my cat(s), my stuff.
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3 ReactionsWhat a lovely way to connect, and observe how others adapt and "gotta' be tough" as we add more years. Thank you for your company, ideas, advice and humor. As long as we can laugh, I feel we're overcoming many of our ailments
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3 ReactionsMy day is Trish to keep me from getting another car thinks it’s cheaper to pay taxi ect. This is not my life styl right now,Ideas?
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2 ReactionsI’ve often thought that too but it’s not as easy as we think, it seems. I suggested it for my mum but she just didn’t like the idea of sharing her house unless it was with a family member. And as you get older and you feel more vulnerable you know you are open to bullying and being taken over.!
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1 ReactionMaybe she us afraid you will have an accident. Do you perceive that your driving is not as good as it was? I have an elderly friend who gets taxis and I went with her one day - it was great you get to chat to the driver and I thought it a good idea.
It is very hard to give up the idea of driving. My neighbour had a car and had an arrangement with a friend to be her chauffeur in return for the friend to have use of the car…she paid the insurance and repairs but the friend paid the gas….it was probably more expensive than taxis but definitely more pleasant and more personal. Sometimes there are community services available (which I use and the kindness of friends.) and the$ you pay go back into the service to help others
I am 87 and still driving in town.my only daughter lives 1/2 hour from here so I am not sure at this time what to do. I hate to give up my independence as I have no one close to help me
I understand! It would have to be well organised and loving 😊
I am 85, will be 86 in about 3 weeks. I live alone with a daughter and son-in-law about 15 miles away; very rural part of Ozarks. It's beautiful here and I've been in my home for 24 years now. Lost my husband of 60 years about 9 years ago. Lately my memory is getting worse and I wear a contact around my neck in case " I fall and can't get up"!
Getting so I get confused handling finances; recently hired a couple to do my windows, also had some guys remove old carpets and install vinyl tile in 2 bedrooms. I began to get confused with writing checks, etc.! Never happened before!!! My daughter was on vacation in Colorado. I should have waited, right?