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Loneliness: Why am I depressed?

Posted by nanette2022 @nanette2022, Aug 14, 2021

I have everything to be happy for yet I am depressed because I live by myself, I have no family here, and loneliness is starting to get the best of me. I love to write (I am a published author) love to cook (but no one cares to come for dinner) and gardening. Why am I so sad?

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Colleen Young, Connect Director | @colleenyoung | Feb 19, 2022
In reply to @esthermayo "Many people are afraid of negative feelings. I've found that its important to accept that and..." + (show)
@esthermayo

Many people are afraid of negative feelings. I've found that its important to accept that and seek out others who are not as afraid. Support groups can help, because they are all about acceptance.

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Hi Esther, I agree about not shying away from negative feelings. Exploring them in a place where you feel accepted and not judged can be very cathartic. How has this worked for you?

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Colleen Young, Connect Director | @colleenyoung | Feb 19, 2022
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@theai

it would be impossible for me to go back at this point. the stroke i recently had has left me unable to do much. i do go out via ambulette to doctors and one time via uber to a comedy show, but it isn't easy or financially feasible to do so often. thank you so much for writing back. it means so much. i've also developed a bit of a social phobia.

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@theai, might there be a way to volunteer online?

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nanette2022 | @nanette2022 | Feb 19, 2022
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@nanette2022

Dear Helen, today I found the AA group I needed and that your prayed that I would found; thank you.

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Am I the only one who does not understand how in the heck the messages are listed. Which is on the top? I is getting so frustrating.

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Lori, Volunteer Mentor | @loribmt | Feb 19, 2022
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@nanette2022

Am I the only one who does not understand how in the heck the messages are listed. Which is on the top? I is getting so frustrating.

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Nannette, the messages are in order the way they are written. There is also a time stamp on the reply message next to your @name.

When you look to see the replies, to the right of your initial question, there is an option for Oldest to Newest messages. Click there and then select newest. That will take you to the most recent message.

Does that help?

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nanette2022 | @nanette2022 | Feb 19, 2022
In reply to @loribmt "Nannette, the messages are in order the way they are written. There is also a time..." + (show)
@loribmt

Nannette, the messages are in order the way they are written. There is also a time stamp on the reply message next to your @name.

When you look to see the replies, to the right of your initial question, there is an option for Oldest to Newest messages. Click there and then select newest. That will take you to the most recent message.

Does that help?

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It does NOT SPECIFY THE NEWEST ON THE TOP OR THE BOTTOM. IT SIMPLY SAYS "THE NEWEST" WHERE ? THE TOP AS IT DOES IN EMAIL OR THE BOTTOM WHEREBY I HAVE TO SCROLL TO DOZENS BEFORE GETTING TO THE ONE I WANT I.E. THE NEWEST

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Lori, Volunteer Mentor | @loribmt | Feb 19, 2022
In reply to @nanette2022 "It does NOT SPECIFY THE NEWEST ON THE TOP OR THE BOTTOM. IT SIMPLY SAYS "THE..." + (show)
@nanette2022

It does NOT SPECIFY THE NEWEST ON THE TOP OR THE BOTTOM. IT SIMPLY SAYS "THE NEWEST" WHERE ? THE TOP AS IT DOES IN EMAIL OR THE BOTTOM WHEREBY I HAVE TO SCROLL TO DOZENS BEFORE GETTING TO THE ONE I WANT I.E. THE NEWEST

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Hi Nannette, when you select Newest in the menu it will take you to the latest/most recent reply.
The last reply should be at the top as it does in an email. There is a time stamp on each reply so you should be able to see the date and time to make sure they’re in chronological order.

Try that. Did it work for your?

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Colleen Young, Connect Director | @colleenyoung | Feb 19, 2022
In reply to @nanette2022 "It does NOT SPECIFY THE NEWEST ON THE TOP OR THE BOTTOM. IT SIMPLY SAYS "THE..." + (show)
@nanette2022

It does NOT SPECIFY THE NEWEST ON THE TOP OR THE BOTTOM. IT SIMPLY SAYS "THE NEWEST" WHERE ? THE TOP AS IT DOES IN EMAIL OR THE BOTTOM WHEREBY I HAVE TO SCROLL TO DOZENS BEFORE GETTING TO THE ONE I WANT I.E. THE NEWEST

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@nanette2022, how to see the post in the order YOU want to see them is explained in this article:
- [TIP] Customize the Order You View Posts - See New Posts First https://connect.mayoclinic.org/discussion/new-customize-the-order-you-view-posts-see-new-posts-first/

If anything is unclear, feel free to send me an email using this form. https://connect.mayoclinic.org/contact-a-community-moderator/
I will help.

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jal333 | @jal333 | Feb 20, 2022
In reply to @loribmt "Hi Nannette, when you select Newest in the menu it will take you to the latest/most..." + (show)
@loribmt

Hi Nannette, when you select Newest in the menu it will take you to the latest/most recent reply.
The last reply should be at the top as it does in an email. There is a time stamp on each reply so you should be able to see the date and time to make sure they’re in chronological order.

Try that. Did it work for your?

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It would help to see a clickstream. When I click on the Menu on the upper right side of the screen, don't know exactly where it says Newest:). Thanks.

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John, Volunteer Mentor | @johnbishop | Feb 20, 2022
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@jal333

It would help to see a clickstream. When I click on the Menu on the upper right side of the screen, don't know exactly where it says Newest:). Thanks.

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@jal333, It looks a little different depending on if you are using a mobile device or a computer/laptop. Here's a screenshot of the location on my phone and one on my computer.
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davej | @davej | Feb 20, 2022
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@nanette2022

What I liked and was blessed to find was the fact that I was totally accepted, no "if" no "but" just as I am! Today, at the early meeting, when only girls were left, I was able and had the courage to say that there were times when I was so jealous of them...and.. to my surprise, a few said "me too". How about that? Girls admitting to each other that there were times when they were jealous of each other?

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Hi I'm glad you found a good group to be able to feel comfortable and be engaged in conversation with others. If I may ask a personal question, you stated you were jealous of some of other women in group what was it that made you jealous? Also dont know if you got my other question of no wine no flowers and no call which was your favorite flower and what call were you waiting for dave.

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