I wish you good luck in conquering your fears. I also welcome you to this group. My patience is unimportant. It is you that have to give yourself all the time and patience you need to get well. I would never judge or be impatient with anyone in this group. We all are struggling in our own way. I am glad that you are here. 🙂
@annie2 So glad to read you’ve gotten some help. Yes. Advocating for self is key.
I thought I just needed a med/tweak but I may need to talk. My growing up years were really challenging to say the least. But I’m pretty sure I’ve covered that in therapy. But there’s the huge subject of the here and now. At 70, I just went through a divorce , had two major moves within one year, and lost my 17 y/o dog whom I’ve had for 15 years. I admit I like living alone but it took me this long to realize I’m an introvert. Introverts aren’t anti-social, we just need a lot of alone time. That really helps.
I had a TBI from a riding accident and was in hospital for two weeks. Little was known or followed up on in 1965. My personality fundamentally changed after that. All I can say is I became unmoored. I relied on my father and stepmother who were hugely status conscious. When I wasn’t invited to a party, they said I should have gotten an invitation. So, they sent me. The second time it happened, I ran out of the party, went home and cried.
I’ve never talked about this before. Not even in therapy. Ha! But it feels good to write it out. And maybe I do have more to cover in therapy. But it’s not about then. It’s about now. I’m in a new state, with a new dog and she’s a lifesaver. And I too can help myself by getting some help. Thanks for the nudge @annie2
@debbic715 Thanks for sharing. Guess there's no end to starting again. I hope your move(s) wasn't too difficult. When I went from New Mexico to Florida, it took them 3 months to deliver my furniture. I was on the floor with a chair and a card table. But I got through it. I'm just now starting to feel calmer and more settled.
Glad you too have a new pup. Those doggies are soul-essential, loyal, and attentive. I'm a real animal person and look to nature for inspiration. How are you settling in?
Where can one go for help, when you don't know whats causing the way you feel, if it's anxiety, depression are what . I'm taking anxiety med. Lorazepam .5mg but it seems like it's not helping, sometimes you feel like your going out of your mind, and then the shaking, it's an awful feeling, so what do you do. Go to the emergency, what casn they do? Thanks for any reply.
I am currently on Klonopin for anxiety .5 3x daily and is no longer working for me either. I think the most frightening part is not knowing what is making you ill. I get severe anxiety attacks daily from morning till night. They just come with no reasoning why. Sometimes I wonder if it is emotional or physical, ie: hormonal or chemical imbalance. This round has been going on for over a month now. The stress also causes other problems. For me, it is digestive issues. What to do is a challenge for sure but counseling and bloodwork might be a good place to start.
I am currently on Klonopin for anxiety .5 3x daily and is no longer working for me either. I think the most frightening part is not knowing what is making you ill. I get severe anxiety attacks daily from morning till night. They just come with no reasoning why. Sometimes I wonder if it is emotional or physical, ie: hormonal or chemical imbalance. This round has been going on for over a month now. The stress also causes other problems. For me, it is digestive issues. What to do is a challenge for sure but counseling and bloodwork might be a good place to start.
For me the anxiety issues are mainly under control with ativan but occasionally I get those middle of the night panic attacks which are bad enough to consider going to the ER except I have a companion dog and live alone and don't want to depend on neighbors to watch her. The digestive issues are a different thing. Have had every test possible to determine reason and all negative, bloodwork, ultrasound, endoscopy, abdominal x-rays, pelvic exams, gastric emptying, etc. The last one will be the hydrogen breath test in November. The frequent nausea with or without a headache is a nuisance multiple times a week capped with constipation issues. What a cycle! I read, walk the dog (a 14 year old rescue I got in June when my 15 year old died in May). My husband died about 15 months ago during the height of covid and his calming absence is sorely missed. There is no replacement for that loss. I live in a retirement community with lots of activities but I am an introvert. I wish I knew what the nausea was about. I listen to You Tube sessions on gut and nausea and they are helpful but not entirely.
To all those on this group, I am sympathetic to your trials to find peace and contentment and I do agree with those who have lost a beloved pet and have had a new companion join you.
I liked the analogy my Alexander Technique teacher used this past week. She mentioned the ocean & how incorporating this technique into your activities (of daily living) can come in waves, like the ocean.
I was such a ball of pandemic worry, this technique has helped me with the that (At first I did sessions on Zoom). Although some days flow like waves easier than others.
This technique helps me to understand how I am wasting energy with ingrained misplaced postural habits. It has gotten me to a reckoning of the full blown extent of how out of shape I became, from expending so much of my energy unproductively. This has motivated change, but it comes in waves. I have been feeling calmer the more I’ve practiced this technique.
I too am a worrier. I have struggled with nervousness and depression since I was a young child. Mental illness does run in my family and life growing up was very difficult. For many years I accepted this condition as "normal" for me. As I approached my older years, (I am 65) I think the flood gates opened. Digestive issues, severe burning in back of the throat, anxiety attacks that last for months from morning till night even in my sleep. It is all very frightening. I am now getting much-needed help but it took me this long to realize I needed it. Don't wait until your worry and depression make you ill. Get the help you need now for a much happier tomorrow. Take good care of yourself. Be your own advocate and best friend. A happier future depends on it. Best of luck to you and as always, I pray for all who suffer.
Be your own advocate & being kind to yourself is good advice. You have had a difficult life with plenty of challenges. It’s encouraging to hear from others & how they are managing their mental health.
For me the anxiety issues are mainly under control with ativan but occasionally I get those middle of the night panic attacks which are bad enough to consider going to the ER except I have a companion dog and live alone and don't want to depend on neighbors to watch her. The digestive issues are a different thing. Have had every test possible to determine reason and all negative, bloodwork, ultrasound, endoscopy, abdominal x-rays, pelvic exams, gastric emptying, etc. The last one will be the hydrogen breath test in November. The frequent nausea with or without a headache is a nuisance multiple times a week capped with constipation issues. What a cycle! I read, walk the dog (a 14 year old rescue I got in June when my 15 year old died in May). My husband died about 15 months ago during the height of covid and his calming absence is sorely missed. There is no replacement for that loss. I live in a retirement community with lots of activities but I am an introvert. I wish I knew what the nausea was about. I listen to You Tube sessions on gut and nausea and they are helpful but not entirely.
To all those on this group, I am sympathetic to your trials to find peace and contentment and I do agree with those who have lost a beloved pet and have had a new companion join you.
I rely on my husband a lot. The loss must be very hard for you. Sometimes it just seems so maddening & unfair to have come so far yet to *still* have anxiety & depression.
Be your own advocate & being kind to yourself is good advice. You have had a difficult life with plenty of challenges. It’s encouraging to hear from others & how they are managing their mental health.
After being a cradle Lutheran, I was called to join the Catholic Church. Fortunately the adult class was being zoomed so I did not have to leave the cottage to be part of the learning process. I was confirmed on Easter Saturday. It has given me a great deal of inner peace as this is something I have wanted to do "When I grew up". At 72 years old I figured it was finally time.
@annie2 How does your home make you feel? Secure? Safe? Both are so valuable. I will share one thing that I've started using for the first time. It's called Tulsi Ashwagandha tea. I got it on Amazon (didn't have to leave the house) It's made by a company called Organic India and it's caffeine-free. I have stopped drinking all caffeine drinks. I substituted decaf coffee so I could keep my morning ritual. But I was too distracted by withdrawal to do what I wanted to. This tea is quite sedating, calming, and helps me focus on what I want to focus on. This is my reaction and opinion that I'm sharing I don't know if it would be the same for you. But I hope you can find some relief. Best, suzanne
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I wish you good luck in conquering your fears. I also welcome you to this group. My patience is unimportant. It is you that have to give yourself all the time and patience you need to get well. I would never judge or be impatient with anyone in this group. We all are struggling in our own way. I am glad that you are here. 🙂
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4 ReactionsIm 77 and moved twice recently and lost my two dogs who were old. My new dog is a great comfort. I dont feel alone when he by my side.
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2 Reactions@debbic715 Thanks for sharing. Guess there's no end to starting again. I hope your move(s) wasn't too difficult. When I went from New Mexico to Florida, it took them 3 months to deliver my furniture. I was on the floor with a chair and a card table. But I got through it. I'm just now starting to feel calmer and more settled.
Glad you too have a new pup. Those doggies are soul-essential, loyal, and attentive. I'm a real animal person and look to nature for inspiration. How are you settling in?
I am currently on Klonopin for anxiety .5 3x daily and is no longer working for me either. I think the most frightening part is not knowing what is making you ill. I get severe anxiety attacks daily from morning till night. They just come with no reasoning why. Sometimes I wonder if it is emotional or physical, ie: hormonal or chemical imbalance. This round has been going on for over a month now. The stress also causes other problems. For me, it is digestive issues. What to do is a challenge for sure but counseling and bloodwork might be a good place to start.
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1 ReactionFor me the anxiety issues are mainly under control with ativan but occasionally I get those middle of the night panic attacks which are bad enough to consider going to the ER except I have a companion dog and live alone and don't want to depend on neighbors to watch her. The digestive issues are a different thing. Have had every test possible to determine reason and all negative, bloodwork, ultrasound, endoscopy, abdominal x-rays, pelvic exams, gastric emptying, etc. The last one will be the hydrogen breath test in November. The frequent nausea with or without a headache is a nuisance multiple times a week capped with constipation issues. What a cycle! I read, walk the dog (a 14 year old rescue I got in June when my 15 year old died in May). My husband died about 15 months ago during the height of covid and his calming absence is sorely missed. There is no replacement for that loss. I live in a retirement community with lots of activities but I am an introvert. I wish I knew what the nausea was about. I listen to You Tube sessions on gut and nausea and they are helpful but not entirely.
To all those on this group, I am sympathetic to your trials to find peace and contentment and I do agree with those who have lost a beloved pet and have had a new companion join you.
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4 ReactionsI liked the analogy my Alexander Technique teacher used this past week. She mentioned the ocean & how incorporating this technique into your activities (of daily living) can come in waves, like the ocean.
I was such a ball of pandemic worry, this technique has helped me with the that (At first I did sessions on Zoom). Although some days flow like waves easier than others.
This technique helps me to understand how I am wasting energy with ingrained misplaced postural habits. It has gotten me to a reckoning of the full blown extent of how out of shape I became, from expending so much of my energy unproductively. This has motivated change, but it comes in waves. I have been feeling calmer the more I’ve practiced this technique.
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3 ReactionsBe your own advocate & being kind to yourself is good advice. You have had a difficult life with plenty of challenges. It’s encouraging to hear from others & how they are managing their mental health.
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3 ReactionsI rely on my husband a lot. The loss must be very hard for you. Sometimes it just seems so maddening & unfair to have come so far yet to *still* have anxiety & depression.
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2 ReactionsAfter being a cradle Lutheran, I was called to join the Catholic Church. Fortunately the adult class was being zoomed so I did not have to leave the cottage to be part of the learning process. I was confirmed on Easter Saturday. It has given me a great deal of inner peace as this is something I have wanted to do "When I grew up". At 72 years old I figured it was finally time.
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2 ReactionsI haven't tried it, but my daughter told me about it, bought it and am going to try it. Thanks for the reply.
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