Dealing with verbal abuse: Any suggestions?

Good to hear back... I wondered how you were. It has to be hard, and to think about doing things differently after allowing this for so long must be very challenging. I'm glad that you took the first hard step. Just saying it was very brave. I hope to hear from you again.

My husband was a cancer patient for 5 years. He tried to be abusive but I stopped this right away. I think one thing is losing their ability to function and don't like losing control. He was an heavy drinker but never on the job. He had a to cut back on alcohol. He probably could have lived a lot longer but didn't like the MD cutting his alcohol. He made the choice to stop chemo. His body, his choice. One vn year later bone cancer. New MD, great person, set him straight on drinking. She told him she had patients who wanted to live, don't waste my time. He is shaking so hard to handle a glass. I was pouring his pop fir him and he hit my hand hard. I picked up my purse and walked out of the restaurant. They couldn't find me. I was in my car. He came out. I didn't help him. Fold your bv walker, get in vehicle by yourself, seat belt by yourself. Never go out vn to dinner or lunch again. Want to get his prescription. I gave him the check book. I didn't help. I stopped cooking and no more help. I told him, if you ever touch me again, you will have to get another caregiver. I am done. No more problems. They have people who will help, insurance should help. The MDs and staff helped me and I received free training for his dual Hickman port. I had an LVN certificate but didn't stay in medical field.
When he starts being abusive, pick up your purse and walk out. If he isn't able to be alone find someone to help you walk away.
Prayers. No more problems with his abuse.

Glad you are getting this off your minds. This is part of his ability of losing control. Control over you. It's abuse and violence will follow if you keep allowed this. He want's to start an argument to blame you for anything. God Bless You

I did get out after 8 long years. It was the scariest thing I had ever done. But I found that once I made a plan and had a little help from a neighbor, I got stronger every day. If you would like to private message me, I will be open to it. I am hoping some of the suggestions from the folks here are ones you can use.

Make a life for yourself and don't feel guilty about walking away.

Thanks. I have been getting some frightening medical results myself. I am sure everything will be ok, but it feels pretty overwhelming right now

@nrocpop i think it would help you to talk with someone. A person who can help you put things in perspective and make sense of all that is happening. Do you have a therapist or pastor you could speak to?

Yes, I have a therapist and a pastor. Thanks. 🙂

Exactly. You did the right thing. Thank you so much for sharing your story. People, both men and women need to stand together on these issues. They need you more than you need them. It was wise of you and brave to take a stand, but above all, you have to know that you are safe, and will remain so before you take a stand. Good for you. I am so glad that you were able to end your abuse.

I'm so sorry to hear that. Sometimes it feels like our plates are too full. Please seek someone to share your burden. Just talking with someone about it doesn't seem like a lot of help, but it really does lessen the tension.