Feel paralyzed by my sadness and depression

Well done for taking the first step.
Now that you’ve done that you can take a second step
I’ve had depression. (I keep it at bay)
I am dealing with Anxiety now...🙄
And I have a disabled husband who suffered a spinal injury when a free he was cutting went horribly wrong
and is confined to a wheelchair.
You are amongst friends here
I will keep this brief
You will need to go to your doctor
And you need to start TODAY
No putting off.
Explain your immediate worries, take control of your life .There is a life to be lived !
Take things in small stages first,
Make a 2week plan
No more than that.

Stick to it....

Keep in contact with your doctor
Believe me, You must grasp each day and make each day count!
Keep in touch
We are all in this together
Good luck

Hearttoheart, I am on your team. My back will never allow me to walk far after surgery, but I am not in a wheel chair.....yet. I live alone with little anxiety except what my government tries to tax my land when I die. In the meantime I garden with help in the sun and that keeps depression at bay because the crop is so beautiful and good to eat. Wish I could share with you in August. Dorisena

Yes, I have had the physical paralysis from depression, frustration, anxiety, whatever you want to call it. I don't want to get out of a chair because, first of all, it is physically painful, and second, I really don't want to do anything because it doesn't lift my spirits. Also, when I don't have any encouragement or support living alone, and no one comes to see me or calls during the pandemic, there is little reason to get up and move, except to go to the kitchen to feed myself.
Moving when a person dances improves the mood. Getting up to go do another chore, not so much. We get the picture. I have two granddaughters who give me praise and support when I see them, but there needs to be more positive behavior for the hard times we go through. I hope telling you I care and understand helps a little bit. When there is no date when the problem will be ending, there is no motivation for patience. But we are told to be patient.
Some days you need to have a day off from it all. Dorisena

@annieb0188 First welcome! I describe my unending depression and anxiety as so overwhelming that I just want to stay in a corner, unnoticed and away from people, but debilitating to the point where I can't think. When I get a moment of relief I just try to do anything to enjoy. Not sure if this is what you feel or mean, but people here are helpful. Know you are not alone!

Sometimes when I am depressed, I feel like I'm moving through molasses. One thing that helps me to choose a task and concentrate on that. When I complete that task, I choose another - anything.am slow, but it helps a lot, plus talking to someone - especially a therapist or a helpline. This forum helps too.

When I seem to have too many chores at one time, I choose the 20-minute rule and do dishes or laundry for twenty minutes and then quit because I feel like I have accomplished something. I tell myself I can rest now. I seem to be able to get through the day better even though I don't finish everything at the time.
Going back to more chores makes the job seem shorter and less burdensome. The doctor said to do this for pain as well. I let the pain develop too long before I take action. If I can reach the area, I do massage and tell myself it is better. Some days I have no problems at all and I practice a grateful attitude.
Sunshine during the day is the best free remedy. Dorisena

Good ideas. Sunshine really is the best medicine.

@junkartist Lately the depression is so overwhelming that it feels like walking thru quick sand and sinking at same time. I thank God for this forum!

I totally agree @dorisena
Slow and steady wins the race!👍

It is important to distinguish between stress that is related to medical conditions such as being in a wheelchair or being physically ill and conditions that are related to selfishness, ignorance, meanness, and such to the point of abuse of a spouse. One can be tolerated with medication and the other requires positive action to protect the health of the abused. I chose to stay in a broken marriage for fifty years and survived the problem and have been successfully healing for fifteen years. But the journey is very long to find peace late in life. It was a choice for me and I used little medication to cope. I think when my spouse was ill and we knew he would not live long, I chose to stay "on the job" because I couldn't abandon another human being with no care and he couldn't care very well for himself. It is a choice in life.
My consequences have been good in the end. It is the pandemic that makes me so lonely. Dorisena