New to living with Mild Cognitive Impairment (MCI)
I have recently been diagnosed with MCI and I'll be attending Mayo Clinic group on this. Each day just seems to bring me challenges. I have days when I get depressed because I feel like I'm being a burden to others. I will be attending MCI seminar at Mayo Clinic in January. I need help and support in this area.
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Hi Chris, Being on lock down ( as I call it ) is hard, especially for our mentally handicapped daughter who usually would be at program each workday, it’s challenging to try and keep her occupied for part of the day and work on the house at the same time, especially when I can’t take her anywhere.
Last night while cooking supper I put our dinner plates on the back burner to warm up from the oven vent and was cooking mushrooms on the front burner. All of a sudden the bottom plate exploded all over the place, and my mushrooms weren’t cooking. You guessed it.
I’m worried about my son and his wife who live in NY. It’s turning out that the virus is easier to catch than we first thought. I know everyone has the same worries and I feel bad for everyone. My sister in law in Spain sends funny videos which help, and I pass them on.
How are you doing, I wish my husband could go fishing for a while.
Thank you for your company.
Hi Debbra, I thought it was very interesting and uplifting, thank you for the link.
Virginia mentioned having nightmares which I have experienced in the last year but never thought there was any connection with MCI , do you think it’s coincidental or have you heard that others experience this. I signed up for her blogs which maybe I did before, because I got a few emails from her but didn’t recall who she was and didn’t reply.
Have a good day,
Sarah.
Good cheery morning to you @emyliander. How nice to see your message when I sat down at my computer. Thank you for staying in touch.
We are watching the wood ducks come up the creek. The river is high today. And my chipmunk is learning tricks today. So spring is coming and we are watching it every day. My life partner does love those chipmunks so sometimes we just sit on the front porch together and watch them play. It was actually 60 degrees yesterday.
I am sorry for your "oops" in the kitchen. Since I try to stay out of that room, that hasn't happened to me. Here is one to add to our "oops" list. I thought I could manage a frozen pumpkin pie so I placed it in the oven. When I checked on it, I turned it so the other side would be in front and it slipped and fell down the back of the oven. It took me days to get all the pumpkin pie out of the oven. So....I have never tried it again.
My anxiety when I can't remember is becoming a critical issue when my life partner gets anxious. Just putting the online list together is challenging. I have to figure out how the software works, and how the categories are lined up. So....we did a trial run and managed to get it done. He doesn't understand that they may not have the 1-gallon tubs of chocolate chip ice cream. We got through it but not without some less than cozy moments because of my MCI. We shared our feelings and pledged mutual support one more time.
Have you ever used CALM for meditation and to clear the mind? At the end of each session, there is a message. I share those with my family, especially my OCD granddaughter.
I am still concerned about your medications and supplements and the possibility that interactions can contribute to foggy brain. If you can't get to a clinician to help you, you might try your pharmacist. Mine has been helpful.
Here's a tip or two......when you have time.....go through an old photo album and share some memories. Can you include your daughter at some point?
You're still on my list.......
May you be content and at ease today.
Chris
Hi Sarah @emyliander - I'm late in responding because I don't get over to this page often. Glad you liked Virginia's blogs. You don't have to respond to her email - the emails just let you know that a new blog post is out. I'm not sure about the nightmares. I wonder if others on this post have experienced nightmares and link it to MCI?
@emyliander, Greetings and good afternoon, Sarah. You made it to the top of my list today. Just teasing.....I have been trying to imagine walking in your shoes for a day.
If it is ok with you I will use Sarah. It is a bit of a good memory. Living in Hawaii, I decided to finally adopt a Cavalier King Charles Spaniel. Bringing them in from the mainland required 3-month isolation. Many doggies died from kidney disease because they had to use their cage.
Bringing a Cavalier in from Australia was a 24-hour hold. So...I soon have an Australian puppy named Sarah. Only problem, Sarah as a name doesn't work. Before her native blessing, we had to change it to Kala, Hawaiian for Sarah. Remember, there is no "S" in the Hawaiian language. So Sarah is sweet memories of my first Cavalier and how much I loved her.
It is probably getting very challenging for you. Just living with uncertainty......can create anxiety. It is bad enough when your memoryless moments create anxiety. Have you and your husband had a good chat about how the household will deal with the realities of now.....divide up the tasks and share in the planning? Does he help with your daughter?
Fishing won't happen for a while. They are spawning right now. Is there any news on your house sale and your move or did everything screech to halt.
Does your memory let you down when it comes to math? Wow....I have to stay focused. And another thing while I'm at it.....do you find background music disruptive? I use music to mask the tinnitus in my right ear. I have to turn it up a bit because I don't hear well out of my left ear which gets drowned out by the tinnitus crickets in the right ear. Then if I try to concentrate (LOL).......all of those other things are way too distracting.
I am laughing now, just reading it over. Can't believe it is true. We have to do a lot of adapting. I hope you are adapting to the refreshing nature of spring?
What are you doing for yourself at this time? I am applauding positive steps in practicing self-compassion.
Be safe and secure. You are still on my list and in my thoughts.
Chris
Hi Chris, I also am laughing to myself, “I hope you are adapting to the refreshing nature of Spring “. Are you kidding, we just had 8” of snow ! Actually we could see signs of Spring before the snow covered it up and they will be there when the snow melts.
I am an animal lover, having at present to cats and a rescue dog Molly, 3yrs old.
I am originally from England and have a brother in Queensland Australia.
Actually I think this time of isolation makes things a little easier on the memory, because I don’t have to remember to go anywhere. The exception was a chiropractic appointment which I forgot, but they they were able to fit me in later that day.
My husband does help with our daughter, but being female the majority of it falls to me.
Our house sale has been postponed till the beginning of May and we’ll reassess then.
I was thinking yesterday about the running of the household in our new home and setting up an equalizing of responsibilities but we haven’t talked about it yet.
Next on my list of things to do is to find my credit card and bank card and the paperwork that I need to send out for my daughters medical care in NY. I’ve been looking for a week now.
How is this restricted time period for you, is it easier or harder ? What are the main problems your memory causes for you ? Right now, for myself I’d say appointments, when I have them, and loosing things.
What I do for myself is get up around 6am and enjoy an hour or so to myself while everyone is in bed. I’m reading again a book “Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff”
They are up now so it’s time to eat breakfast.
Thank you for writing, enjoy your beautiful State and a quieter time.
Sarah.
@emyliander......, Hi Sarah, you have risen to the top of my list again. Thanks so much for responding so that I can imagine just chatting with you and discovering ways to support each other when we run into those memory walls. Since Friday is May 1, I am wondering about your house sale. I think you said you would be reappraising the issues.
I liked the topic you put at the top of your list...."develop an equalized list of home responsibilities" and how you can support each
other.
Does your family have group chats? We are doing that more now.....especially to be able to see how much our little ones have grown and developed words and other ways to express their feelings besides screaming. In Texas it is warm, and so the 3-year-old is running around completely naked and laughing at his Mom because she can't catch him. My adorable Milly (Amelia) will be one next week and she just might be walking.
So, I get quite excited about being included in these once a week family chats. Do you think we will be allowed to fly to Texas soon?
And you are so right....this time of isolation can be quiet and contemplative. You know what Sarah.......sometimes the fatigue just takes over. I think it takes a lot of energy to keep our memories in ready mode. I have tried texting myself, recording a message for myself, and writing notes to pin on my planning desk. Then the anxiety starts when I can't remember which process I used if any.
Day by day, my dear, planning before acting, double-checking our lists before giving up.
My biggest thrill this week......walking outside along the river in beautiful 60's temperatures. Saying hello to the geese and the ducks and doing a little bit of self-love......just enough to give me some "get up and go" energy.
May you have happiness and the causes of happiness.
Chris
Hi Chris, hope you are doing ok during this pandemic, who would have imagined that we would be going through this. I hope your family has kept well. I have two Grandchildren who graduated from HighSchool, all their senior activities were cancelled. Another came home from college early to finish out the term. My Grandson got a new job and about a month later was laid off, as were all people hired within the past 6 months. Another Granddaughter starts college this fall if everything is back to normal.
Our house is sold and we move out June 12th, we don’t have a place to go to yet, something will workout. My daughter has been home, I took her out of her program before they closed it, now they have opened again but I haven’t sent her back, we still have a number of people in Maine getting diagnosed each day.
Selling the house and going through the inspection was nerve wracking, the first day on the market 3 people came to see it, of course we had to get the 2 cats ,dog, and the three of us out of the house each time. We didn’t spend much time at home that day. The first person bid the highest, over what we were asking and will pay in cash, so that part went well.
We’ve all had our doctor and dentist appointments cancelled and I never did get an appointment to check my memory, I can give them a call again and explain that we are moving, I’m not sure they are even open yet. If it doesn’t get done I’ll have to start all over again in NY........find a PCP, get a referral and wait again.
My husband and I have had a stressful time with each other, a lot of work to get done on the house and yard, he has a problem with the muscle on his hip replacement pulling away from the bone. Will probably have to have surgery again to reattach it. This has all made him quite irritable and he continues to get impatient with me when I don’t remember things he’s told me. “You don’t listen to me “ which is upsetting to me. But I get through each day with a little help from my friends and mostly thru God
My last brother in Australia has just been diagnosed with a brain tumor, is 85 but otherwise in good health, he says they are a little reluctant to do surgery because of his age so I don’t know yet what they will do.
My flowers seem to be extra pretty this year so I’ve been enjoying them, we’ve had some nice warm days, the birds are all back and singing happily so all is not lost.
Sorry this letter hasn’t been uplifting, I hope that you too are enjoying the Spring and warmer weather, sunny days help a lot.
Stay safe, Sarah.
@emyliander, Good afternoon, Sarah. It's been a few weeks since I got your update. You do cover the waterfront very well. I appreciate every word.
The first thing I loved was imagining your extra pretty flowers. Take time every day to put your feet on the earth and focus on something beautiful. I also love listening to all the birds. The beautiful Piliated screeches, the Eagle has a gentle whistle.
My heart goes out to you for all of your work to sell the house. Sounds like it worked.....the very first buyer.....and cash. Wow!
And, the most distressing thing is to learn about the difficulty within your marriage. I know it would be difficult to find a therapist right now as you prepare to leave. I am wondering if there is a self-help series of exercises or better yet a Zoom encounter option. If you think that might work......let me know and I will see what I might be able to find.
It is sad to see that because of a lack of understanding of the cognitive issues that interfere, you become fearful of not remembering something. We, my life partner and I, have an understanding that works pretty well. We even rehearse. If I need help in a conversation, I say "Jay, please help me with the name of the person who came to fish with us last year". I have to give him a little more info in my request. When I get it right, he gets it right, and no one would ever know that i completely forgot the name.
We are very open about my "disabilities" and we don't feel like we have to explain everything. And now for the chuckle......I have tinnitus in my right ear and compromised hearing in the left hear. If the head in the middle ever gives up on me...........
Be safe and wear your mask, be protected and free.
Chris
Beautiful and informative writing!
God bless you.
Would that we all had your understanding of life.