How do you accept change as you age?

I recently discovered a list of foods that can trigger arthritis and, after cutting them out of my diet, within a few days I noticed a big difference in pain and stiffness. It is an elimination diet so, in a couple of weeks, I can start adding them back and see which ones cause me pain. Dr Neal Barnard has an excellent book called Foods That Fight Pain that is just full of information.

Oh @ lionnsess so you're a doc!

@lsittll No where did you get that idea a retired nurse Where I life a Dr building I teach chair exercises ,hand and Tai Chi which are all on You tube

@lionness it iw the young side of thinking that I have.

@sapphira After reading your post, I watched the Frick Museum’s “cocktails with the curator”. When I watch any series, I go to the beginning to follow the development and progression. All I can say is that it was excellent. The curator has a true passion and understanding of art. Listening to the history and explanation of the paintings stimulates thinking and mental pathways, which is good for brain health. Thank you.

@starchy- Thank you for recommending this book. I just ordered it for my husband who is riddled with pain from arthritis. He also hates taking medicine. Yes, he's one of those! I know that beef is a culprit.

Which foods did you find that you had to eliminate?

to Lafrange5: Glad you enjoyed it - there is also Travels with a curator on Wednesdays - same time - 5pm

I know what you mean about feeling that no ones knows you anymore. I have lost a lot of family and friends that I knew back when and somehow when they died that part of me died too. The part that was my youth, the fun we had, the little things we would do that set us apart from everyone else. But, ya know, those are called,memories and thank God we have them. I also know what you mean about no one to share those memories with, that's the sad part. I find myself chuckling to myself with memories of things we did back then. The people I shared those experiences with have gone but the memories for me is still there. I guess, it's a double edge sword, On one hand it's nice to remember but with no one to share them with it becomes sad and worthless. I have tried to share some of my fun times with my grandchildren but they look at me like I have two heads, fun things we did then just doesn't seem fun to them. When I tell them we didn't have video games, computers or cell phones back then, they wonder how we ever lived through it, much less have any fun. Buy alas, facing the facts of life sometimes is difficult. Thanks why I think it's important, at least for me, that I have found a group of people that can relate to what it means to age and all the good and bad that goes along with it. I have found this group invaluable to my mental health. Hang in the sweetie, we're in this together.

Thank you for sharing the 5 things for 5 senses, I am going to try this. I haven't been feeling quite up to parr lately and it might help me to refocus.

Hi everyone, Ya know I love this group, I feel so fortunate to have found you. I am happy about it because I feel I can share anything here and know without a doubt that I will be met with open arms and understanding. It's for this reason that I want to share something that has cut me deeply. My oldest great-grandson is 16 years old, his name is A and he has suffered from mental illness since he was 3 years old. Yes, you read that right 3 years old. Throughout the years A has been hospitalized numerous times and has been diagnosed with everything from bipolar to schizophrenia and everything in between, up to and including NOTHING wrong with him.He was however diagnosed with high function autism A couple of years ago, A decided he was gay, so okay, I love him unconditionally and if he feels he is gay it doesn't mean I don't love and accept him as being gay. A's mother ( my granddaughter ) strives to be this modern open minded mom and when she found out that A was watching porn she said that was natural and condoned it only if she could pick out the site he would go to.. She didn't want him watching sites that depreciates women.hummm. I nearly lost it when she told me that but try as I did, she's his mother and she will raise him her way. You've probably heard that before. Well anyway, that was all well and good till A made sexual advances toward a 6 year old little girl. THEN mom decides maybe watching pron may have influenced him a little so she said no more porn. Luckly, the parents didn't press charges but it cost mom a friendship and hard feelings.Over the past year or so A has retreated to his room only coming out for meals and the bathroom. He stays up all night and sleeps all day but mom says that's ok, they are not in school right now so hat's the harm. I suggested she check and find out who he's talking to all that time but she said. oh he's just talking to his friends no big deal. During the past 6 months or so A has decided he is transgender and wants to have the surgery, and has recently taken the name of C on his social media pages.I told mom I thing A needs some counseling to help him decide what he really feels about himself, She told me she had found a specialist about 2 hours away.I told her I would take him since she and her husband both work, but she never made an appointment. Then a couple weeks ago he announced he wants to be emancipated. My granddaughter and her husband have given A and his two younger bothers a good life.There every need is provided and they have more gaming devices than most kids do. They are told they are loved and they are being raised to take responsibility, Although, that needs a little work. They do things as a family and they are not now nor have they ever been abused. I don't always agree with my granddaughters parenting skills but no one ever tried harder to be a good mom. So, this past Sunday, A was told to go clean his room and he refused causing mom to get a little more forceful on a subject, she continued to cooperate and mom took his phone away, A then grabbed her, put her in a head lock and beat her head till dad could pull him off her, he had gone into a full psychotic episode and the police were called. Mom went and signed papers for involuntary commitment, The police took him to our local hospital for evaluation and they decided that commitment was appropriate and sent him to a youth crisis center two hours away. I took him some clothes and talked to a lady there that did part of A's intake. She told me A was showing no signs of remorse for what he did, states he hates his parents and never wants to be around them again. He claimed he wanted to kill himself and actually had two plans on how to do it. But said he doesn't feel that way when he's not around his parents. He claims they are physically and mentally abusive and he fears for his life, Of course this got CPS involved. They came to the house and said everything likes fine. Anyway, not only do A feel absolutely no remorse for what he did to his mother, he is in fact bragging about it and is proud of his ability to beat the crap out of his mother. He hit her so hard he broke his hand but sees no wrong doing on his part, He claims he shouldn't have to clean his room if he doesn't want to, after all it's HIS room and no one has the right to make him do any that he doesn't want to do. Driving home from there, I can't explain how very upset I was. I was angry, I was hurt, and I couldn't fix it. I have always been a fixer, that's what I do, I fix things, I find solutions to problems and I fix them, I CAN'T FIX THIS. I have ran out of options, and words. I am angry at A for what he did then taking such a attitude, I am angry at mom for not taking my advice in the first place when it was offered and thinking she had all the answers. I am angry at a system that doesn't have the capabilities of a dog pound. And I am extremely concerned about the many, many other young people and their parents who are forced into facing the same things.My son had mental illness as a child and is 33 years old and is still trying to find his way. It's extremely hard for me to take a back seat to this, I've dealt with mental illness as a caregiver for as long as I can remember and I usually can come up with something that makes sense, an idea or something but for the life of me those ideas all escapes me now. As I was driving home I felt the need to just talk to someone, anyone that would listen to my pain, not give advice but just listen. I called my daughter and the she said I cared more about this granddaughter than I did her and it ended up in a heated argument. I cried all the way home and haven't spoke to my daughter since. Right now all I can do is pray, Take care of myself, and Pray, hope that A will get the help he needs and Pray. Thanks for listening, I feel better getting it off my chest. God Bless Jeanie