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The End: When caregiving ends, my husband passed away

Posted by anncgrl @anncgrl, Oct 22, 2019

My husband passed away on July 17th from complications of frontal temporal dementia. We were both at our end. We fought the good fight for a very long time knowing there was no cure. It is going to take awhile to change speeds and join the world around me. I am working on recovering my health and beginning to take care of long ignored business matters. I am grateful for the opportunity to caregive my husband and I will always be amazed at how exhausting, sad, frustrating, rewarding and painful caregiving was for me. I could not have done it without the chat groups of other caregivers sharing so honestly about their journey and their many tips on how to do various processes at home. God bless each of you. Caregivers are unsung heroes!

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annmarry1 | @annmarry1 | Jan 1, 2021

Ginger, thanks for caring.....there was never any anger for any of the losses....I was privileged to care for them all... I loved them all and will
always love them.. I have an inherent believe in the Creator and was always aware that life is a finite entity...hopefully, I will be reunited with
all of them when my turn comes....My present problem is that I miss them--- SO MUCH -- but that is the nature of love...I have to be grateful for all of
them in my life and try to rise above their loss..... again, thanks for caring...

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annmarry1 | @annmarry1 | Jan 1, 2021
In reply to @becsbuddy "@annmarry1 Good morning. I’m so sorry about the death of your best friend and the other..." + (show)
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@annmarry1 Good morning. I’m so sorry about the death of your best friend and the other family members you have cared for. It takes a special person to provide such care. Sometimes grief comes long before a death when we realize that this is no longer the person we knew for all those years. We can lash out in anger because we’re angry at the world, at the situation we’re in. 2020 only increased all of our feelings and there was no way to handle them.
Forgive yourself and don’t beat up on yourself. Just say, I loved her and did the best that I could.
We’re always here for you, should you need us

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Becky....sent reply to Ginger....instead of you.....sorry....need to get my head on..... thanks.....

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Becky, Volunteer Mentor | @becsbuddy | Apr 7, 2021
In reply to @annmarry1 "Ginger, thanks for caring.....there was never any anger for any of the losses....I was privileged to..." + (show)
@annmarry1

Ginger, thanks for caring.....there was never any anger for any of the losses....I was privileged to care for them all... I loved them all and will
always love them.. I have an inherent believe in the Creator and was always aware that life is a finite entity...hopefully, I will be reunited with
all of them when my turn comes....My present problem is that I miss them--- SO MUCH -- but that is the nature of love...I have to be grateful for all of
them in my life and try to rise above their loss..... again, thanks for caring...

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@annmarry1 It’s been several months and I’m just wondering how you’re doing. Have you been able to talk with anyone about your grief? Are you coping better now? Becky

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