Just thinking out loud: Humans Alone vs Social

Hi Becky, Thank you for your thoughts and feelings. Will you tell me what makes you “ sad “? after reading my discussion twice?
Looking forward to your answers as well as thoughts and feels

@stuckonu
Hi,

Great discussion and interesting choice of a “name”....stuck on you. I am interested in your physical living arrangement and means of self support...that is do you support yourself as an artist? You do not have to answer.

Millions of people choose to live alone and interact with others physically only out of necessity. We call them loners or a lone wolf. There are probably very few hermits who live off the land Robinson Crusoe style. Lots of people find them odd. I don’t see the necessity of having to explain your choice to anyone and it sounds like you want validation by doing so. This is by no means a negative criticism. I agree that people are impatient and don’t listen....they are too preoccupied with what they have to say. There are very few good listeners out there and they stand out.

Some of our most creative people through the centuries have been labeled as loners. You are an introspective individual which , maybe, a lot of “loners” are. If you are happy with yourself and content with your life, why do you question it? You are interacting with the HBs on this forum are you not?
I don’t question your choice at all and I think you may be too introspective and that those you do interact with are causing you to question yourself.

Live long and prosper
FL Mary

Ps I reread this and it sounds like a put down. It is not. I have a sense of humor and love to look at all sides of things in general.

I can and would enjoy expounding on this subject; maybe even break it down and explain more

As life happens defining moments at times happen with out warning. It’s not that the new moment disqualifies another however I think of it as TRIAGE meaning that one leap frogs another.
After finding the Mayo connects and spending most of “ football Sunday mostly focusing on what I was reading here and attempting to join, that admittance speaks a lot about how I reprioritized and I’m proud of myself that I could and did.
My scheduled appointment with my PCP doc who I often debate with and no loaded with new info I figured that we would “ get into it “ and we did. I do wish that I had a transcript to post here as it relates on many levels.
He engages in these debates IMHO because most patients behave with respect and a degree of meekness that I think many doctors take advantage of. The doctors these days have a book of comments by themself and other doctors she I think her prepares for confrontation when I come in
This discussion was flying all over the place for many reasons. One argument was about SBO he kept playing it down and in so many ways he sounded like many of the doctors talked about in the SBO group who are also like my two hospital doctors during my stay in Feb
Not that we will or can change the world with discussion here. That said I do think that change can happen and it starts with one Doc who has an ahha moment while discussing things.
He said to me” I’m not sure why your so concerned, it’s NOT A DISEASE “ I laughed and said:” since we can’t run the tape back all I can say to advance this conversation is this :” I don’t recall saying that word and I’m not so attached to it that I’m perfectly happy FINDING A WORD FIR UT THAT WE BITH CAN AGREE ON , MAY I SUGGEST CALLING IT: “ a MALADY “?
He agreed so we managed to discuss SBO and I’m very ready for round 2 if he’s willing to put on the gloves and go mono-e-mono
I better know my opponent than he knows me. If he only knew he might not be some typical 📿🔬

Hi I m all ears,
Thanx for your reply.
No prob answering you question about living arrangements: I live in a family neighborhood...lots of kids. Sometimes I baby sit. Few people accept my answers and explanations for having what I have driving what I drive, and as they try to “ figure me out “ most think that I’m hiding some truth based on “ starving artist “ stereotypes. There are many truths I’m hiding because if they doubt what I tell them I know that no truth or lie will satisfy all curiosities. Imagine if you will someone asking you how much you are worthy, how much money you have on hand, etc etc
Less is often better ( words from my minimalist period )

IMHO, most people don’t “ get me “ I’m mostly okay with that but I do think that there still exists out there who might quietly observe me, maybe from a distance, maybe up close if the can get in; and like the Caterpillar to Alice, they will ask: “ Who are YOU? “
I believe that I will recognize what’s being asked and delve into the inquiry...

My brother who I was once very close with always introduced me to new friends as : “ my brother from another planet “ I LOVED IT! However more often than not others would ask me why I allow him to disparage me like that?

We once understood each other so for me that was an accurate description as in most other ways we were very dissimilar.

Now we’re strangers

@stuckonu First, I find it interesting that you feel the way you feel regarding living alone! Your post indicates that you are a man. In my experience, men do not generally like to live alone at all, they are not good at entertaining themselves. I (a woman) can be quite content alone. When I was young and single, many years ago, the guys all wanted roommates whereas the women were striving for when they could afford to have their own apartments alone.

I totally agree with you regarding the impatience of people and they often start responding to something before the other person has completed their thought, leading to an inappropriate response. A couple of people with whom I am very close do that very frequently and it is maddening.

I haven't seen the movie the Martian but I get the gist of it from your comments about it. As far as "what is he trying to say", I think you are just thinking "out loud" and bouncing your thoughts off of us, which is fine. People are social beings and as such most of us, even those of us like yourself who enjoy retiring to their home where they can be alone, generally want some social time also. I saw a definition of introverts vs extraverts once that said introverts re-energize by being alone, whereas extraverts re-energize by being with people, being social. I find that true of myself, an introvert. By the end of a social evening I am often very glad to have some time to myself. My son would appear to many people to be very extraverted but I know him, and I know he does re-energize by getting some time alone. My daughter very definitely does too, more so than either of us.

I am not sure if this is the type of input you are seeking or not, but that’s all I have. I think you enjoy being an anomaly.
JK

Everyones thoughts are eagerly wanted. Information is knowledge. You definition of introvert and extrovert is REALLY GOOD ( for me ) who knows what or how others think about it. At that one moment I GROK with you. The rest your your words and thoughts are interesting.

@stuckonu, If you begin your responses with "@" and the name of the person you are responding to, we are sure to see your response and know who you are responding to.

@stuckonu As you can see, you have had a wide variety of responses here. That is always a good thing, and allows each of the readers to express themselves, and perhaps, see that you are not alone in your ideas. When I wrote about invisible ink, it was to convey some might type out a response but not send, or think of a response but not want to commit to actual words on paper/screen. While I know there are people who would cohabit in order to control another, the bigger case begs that people would cohabit because it is something they want to do, to have a common goal in mind, to be partners. When there are two [or more] minds/personalities involved, there is sometimes the concept of commandeering from one side, which usually leads to a negative experience for others.

As for those who live around you, and their questions, I too, have faced such interrogatory queries, even though it really is none of their business. I do not respond well in such circumstances, and have been known to say, "Are you writing a book? Then leave that chapter out and call it a mystery!". Yep, definitely not a classy or acceptable response, but rather, a reaction shot out without a censor. Each person should be allowed to live as they choose, as long as it does not hurt others or animals. Just my humble opinion.
Ginger

@stuckonu GROK?
JK

@contentandwell
I’ll answer that for you. I burst out laughing when I read Grok. It means to intuitively understand someone. I believe it was coined by a science fiction writer about 50 years ago and we use to joke around when we used it. May have been an alien word when a Martian or something grokked a human so thoroughly that the alien merged with the human...or something along that line. Think I’ll start throwing it around again.

Regards from FL Mary