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Recognizing my own bias or prejudice .....

Posted by ellerbracke @ellerbracke, Aug 31, 2019

I know I am very guilty of classifying people in general, and regarding weight in particular. Living in the bible/heart attack/ diabetes belt, it simply blows my mind how many obese people I see every single day when out and about. Granted, fewer of those at Dillard’s than Walmart. Still, in addition to being concerned, I am also judging those people. I know I should not, but how in the world can someone get that fat? It would take years of dedicated overeating to reach that. No, I really don’t think that all of them have a medical issue, seeing what’s in their grocery carts. Someone help me get a less judgmental attitude when I’ve been semi-denying myself all those chips and cookies and fries for decades?? I live and eat well, but treats should be treats, not daily food.

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imallears | @imallears | Sep 3, 2019
In reply to @jakedduck1 "@imallears Hey there Hurricane, If you cook your chop for 5 1/2 hours it will be..." + (show)
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@imallears
Hey there Hurricane,
If you cook your chop for 5 1/2 hours it will be super tender.
Well they say wine is good for you, it should be it tastes just like medicine, IMO.
When I visited friends in Canada they sent us $2 grand for 4 bottles of wine. Talk about having more money than sense. It was red wine and I tasted it, now I understand how you can eat some of the vile things you eat. If you like wine you’ll like anything, which you’ve proven many times.
Yes, your right about candy. It’s horrible for a person but I could easily live on candy and Dr. Pepper, my food and drink of choice. But I don’t drink soda except when my friend brought me lunch one day. And not much candy, unfortunately.
Jake

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@jakeduck

I would have liked to taste that wine. I cooked my one chop (after a brief sear on both sides):for one and a half hours on top of the stove in a bone broth on a low simmer. The meat was falling off the bone. So that’s an option for you and you would be reminded it’s cooking because it is visible. Put enough broth in the pan and cover with a tight lid and it won’t evaporate.

Was very good and you could save the bone broth or thicken with Wondra for a gravy. The broth gets a nice flavor from the seasoned pork. You could use the broth to simmer a hamburger patty next time, sort of like a Salisbury steak. I did add dried shallots to the broth.

FLMary

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Leonard | @jakedduck1 | Sep 3, 2019
In reply to @imallears "@jakeduck Hurricane Mary never eats junk😡I’m wondering what percentage of dark chocolate you had.....the higher the..." + (show)
@imallears

@jakeduck
Hurricane Mary never eats junk😡I’m wondering what percentage of dark chocolate you had.....the higher the number the more bitter it may taste to your peculiar taste buds.....mmmm dark chocolate, a good Pinot and some mussels in white wine sauce with crispy bread. Get up off the floor...you can have the rest of my bread.

Healthy Hurricane Mary

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@imallears
67% I think the killer was the mint.
Jake

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Teresa, Volunteer Mentor | @hopeful33250 | Sep 4, 2019
In reply to @imallears "@jakeduck I would have liked to taste that wine. I cooked my one chop (after a..." + (show)
@imallears

@jakeduck

I would have liked to taste that wine. I cooked my one chop (after a brief sear on both sides):for one and a half hours on top of the stove in a bone broth on a low simmer. The meat was falling off the bone. So that’s an option for you and you would be reminded it’s cooking because it is visible. Put enough broth in the pan and cover with a tight lid and it won’t evaporate.

Was very good and you could save the bone broth or thicken with Wondra for a gravy. The broth gets a nice flavor from the seasoned pork. You could use the broth to simmer a hamburger patty next time, sort of like a Salisbury steak. I did add dried shallots to the broth.

FLMary

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@imallears That sounds wonderful and easy as well! I also use Wondra to thicken the broth and make it more like a gravy.

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imallears | @imallears | Sep 4, 2019
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@jakedduck1

@imallears
67% I think the killer was the mint.
Jake

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@jakeduck.....
Mint is not to my taste either...it overwhelms the chocolate....I think you would like raspberry, orange or Carmel.....it’s inside the chocolate on many brands like Lindt's. Sea salt and coconut are
great. You wouldn’t think salt in chocolate would be good but it is .

FL Mary

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ellerbracke | @ellerbracke | Sep 5, 2019
In reply to @ihtak46 "Hi “ellerbracke”, I believe I do the same thing. Im not at all a mean person..." + (show)
@ihtak46

Hi “ellerbracke”,
I believe I do the same thing. Im not at all a mean person but I do have a bad tendency to be judgmental.
For a while it was almost constant. Im trying to keep my mouth shut! I figure if I think it, its ok but keep it in....usually I make comments. Unfortunately not only about heavy people, mostly women but also people who are dressed weird, or people who dont bother to clean up or comb their hair before they go out. I hate when I see a mother and dad with a child....Mom and Dad have a jacket and hat on, the baby is in short sleeves, no hat! And.....so MUCH more. ( A 4 year old with a pacifier.). Crap, so much pisses me off! Im trying to do better.
“ellerbracke”, I agree with what you said too. How can people let themselves get THAT huge(?). Being a
little overweight is fine, but when I see people obese or 60 plus pounds overweight, I just wonder. Bad habit, uh?
The reason Im trying to be better is of course I should but the real reason is my daughter used to always tell me I shouldnt be so judgmental. She was right. We lost our daughter suddenly June 3. She gad a birthday on Aug 1......would have been 46. We are still in bad shape, feeling lost and empty. I cry every day. Its tough. No mother or dad should outlive their child. I have my story with Mayo Connect.
Regarding being judgmental, Im so bad, I make comments about people in commercials !!! My bad?😫
“eller”, take care.
I whine, too. They should have a “bitch session” section on Mayo Connect
Kathi Fodor
(My story is under: Recent, sudden, traumatic loss, etc.)
ithak46

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@ihtak46 : I am so very sorry about the death of your daughter. You have my sympathy - it must be terribly hard to deal with that.

I like your idea about a “bitch session”....... it may fry the circuits, perhaps? I usually keep my mouth shut when facing irritating situations or people, but it’s hard. Sometimes I try to find a humorous aspect (as in when a young man’s pants crotch is almost at his knees = making it harder to run from trouble, when someone has his/her grocery cart parked in the middle of the shopping lane, meditating about the products displayed = a chance for me to get a really good stretch or deep knee bend, or walk an extra round (exercise) to get at what I want, or somebody pretty much driving inches from my rear bumper = making sure I absolutely drive the speed limit in retaliation (does not happen often, I’m afraid to say), etc.
Generally, I find my level of irritation and intolerance are in direct relationship to general feeling of well-being, especially sleep. Between TKR and assorted related issues, and the recent extensive heat/humidity period in SC that really limited my beloved outdoor activities, both resulting in pretty permanent sleep deprivation, I’m at the slightly grumpy stage many days. Looking forward to cooler weather, glorious fall colors, pre-holiday scents like burning leaves (yes, I like that), cool and gloomy days (ditto! after non-stop sunshine), cinnamon steeped in apple cider - those things put me in a more happy and tolerant and gracious mood. (Until the Christmas carols start in the department stores around October 15!!!!!)

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Becky, Volunteer Mentor | @becsbuddy | Sep 5, 2019
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@jakedduck1

Jeez Linda, did I read that right only two kisses in a day? As in one two, less than three or was that a typo? How do you get through the other 23hrs 55 seconds? I don’t care for dark chocolate myself but if there nothing else I’d try and choke some down. I like the milk chocolate with caramel ones but a handful or two, I have small hands, lol
My friend left some dark chocolate here and I got desperate so I gagged some down. IT WAS HORRIBLE, worse than some of the junk Hurricane Mary devours. Come to find out it contained mint. What an awful combination. One is bad enough but together super mega yuck!!! 🤮🤢
Jake

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@jakedduck1 m-m-m-m Hershey’s kisses. Right after we were married, we lived in Hershey, PA., just two blocks from the chocolate factory! The smells were unbelievable! I could gain weight just by breathing!

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ellerbracke | @ellerbracke | Sep 5, 2019
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@becsbuddy

@jakedduck1 m-m-m-m Hershey’s kisses. Right after we were married, we lived in Hershey, PA., just two blocks from the chocolate factory! The smells were unbelievable! I could gain weight just by breathing!

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@becsbuddy: Mixed blessing, I think, to live in chocolate factory town. Grew up in western Austria, famous for well known “Milka” chocolate brand sold throughout Europe, and made mostly in a little town called Bludenz, Austria. Situated in a valley leading to ski areas. I took a break from skiing to do some specialty shopping, etc. in that small town. Hit what they call “inversion” of atmosphere. Off the train, EVERYTHING smelled like chocolate. The people, the pizza place, the parfumerie,the coffee shop, the hot dog stands. NO, THANK YOU. Even if you love chocolate, this was too much.

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Leonard | @jakedduck1 | Sep 5, 2019
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@becsbuddy

@jakedduck1 m-m-m-m Hershey’s kisses. Right after we were married, we lived in Hershey, PA., just two blocks from the chocolate factory! The smells were unbelievable! I could gain weight just by breathing!

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@becsbuddy
Hahaha, that’s hilarious, we should put that in the joke thread. I needed a laugh. There use to be a Hershey plant 15 miles from me but it closed some years ago. I don’t understand it since California produces 80% of the worlds almonds. I really enjoyed going through it and shopping in the their store. The free candy bar on the tour wasn’t quite enough. Did they have a store and tours in Pennsylvania.
Jake

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lioness | @lioness | Sep 5, 2019
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@jakedduck1

@becsbuddy
Hahaha, that’s hilarious, we should put that in the joke thread. I needed a laugh. There use to be a Hershey plant 15 miles from me but it closed some years ago. I don’t understand it since California produces 80% of the worlds almonds. I really enjoyed going through it and shopping in the their store. The free candy bar on the tour wasn’t quite enough. Did they have a store and tours in Pennsylvania.
Jake

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@jakedduck Hi Leonard . We toured Hershey factory when we where on vacation. Yes the smells are delicious of course we bought some also . I lived in the Pittsburg area but vacationed there .

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ellerbracke | @ellerbracke | Sep 6, 2019
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@jakedduck1

@becsbuddy
Hahaha, that’s hilarious, we should put that in the joke thread. I needed a laugh. There use to be a Hershey plant 15 miles from me but it closed some years ago. I don’t understand it since California produces 80% of the worlds almonds. I really enjoyed going through it and shopping in the their store. The free candy bar on the tour wasn’t quite enough. Did they have a store and tours in Pennsylvania.
Jake

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General comment: I found that my taste to candy/truffles etc. runs more to Godiva than Hershey - or, forbid, Whitman's - so I am severely limited how many I get to enjoy. $$$ But, once I get them I truly enjoy. Roughly 3 times a year, but well worth the wait

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