Importance of focusing on Positive with Depression & Anxiety.

@merpreb that does make sense . I think we need to eat all foods in portions not just one kind all the time. I hope research will be done more on food properties and illnesses

@sundance6, Thanks for your gracious post about Connect. I just want to add one thing I now understand better.

When we experience an unaccepting response from family and/friends, it may be that they care so much about us and are frustrated because they cannot help us. With these chronic conditions, we don’t heal like those recovering from surgery or a bout of flu. They don’t see progress.

We can also make the situation worse by dwelling on our pain and discomfort instead of engaging in conversation that is mutually enjoyable. We wear out our welcome.

So, sometimes I might respond to their inquiry by saying, “I’m feeling much better now that you are here. I’ve been wondering about you” and then ask them something about their activities, their life, their challenges. You may find that they stay longer and come to chat more often.

And we can learn to say thank you in genuine ways, “Thanks for caring”....after an inquiry about you or thanks for remembering, giving, bringing joy, or just thanks for sharing some of your day with me,

May you find happiness today. Chris

Remember that you are in control of your attitude and action everyday. We all have a tendency to blame our attitude and feelings on what others (family, friends, others) say or do. That’s not an excuse to blame others for why you are in a bad mood or negative. You are in control and can survive the onslaught of anything that comes your way today. Stay positive and be kind to people. I know I have used an excuse that my Dad is why I am afraid of all males. It’s not true. I am a good person and enjoying every second of today.

@parus Glad you are taking care of self. Fatigue is a battle I know but if you are into essential oils there is one that helps me . Its a mixture of Peppermint,Lemon and Lavender 20 dropps each. Mix and put on hands inhale deeply 3 times . I have used this for fatigue besides the Tai Chi ,Qigong I have a 8 minute video by Don Fiore that I do every morning. I know you like him Keep plugging along

@merpreb No need to tell family or anyone else. I have 2 younger sisters and I don't want to face the music and the pseudo caring. All we have in common is DNA. I just can't play that game anymore. They both have loving families, nice homes, etc. I truly am happy for them and not the least bit envious. I just know they can't understand and that's okay.
My youngest son has so much garbage on his plate with in-laws I would not add more. Since things are stable at this point there is no need to raise red flags. My youngest doesn't need to think the only family member he has left in his life may croak. Family stuff is complicated. I would like to have family that cares and is supportive-I come here and it helps.
I don't know anyone who has had bladder cancer and has gone through treatment with BCG. It has been used for years. I feel like a walking disease. I know several breast cancer survivors and this type of cancer is acceptable but "down there" stuff is not. Hanging my head in shame and ought not to be. Not wanting around anyone.
Okay, my attitude is dulled by many things right now. I appreciate all of the chin up, positive encouragement and just not there right now. why I have not been posting very often. Hiding away and feeling sullied all over again.

We are listening and will always have compassion for you and many others that absolutely need to talk to others. We are listening and sending our healing wishes to you.

Hi! My depression is getting worse!!!! It’s 12:46 pm. I’m lying down in my bed, I had breakfast and I took my medicine and I’m crying!!!! I want to end my life!!!! I don’t know how to make changes, I fail at it each time I try!!!! I lost all hope for getting well!!!! No this is not a suicide not, just a feeling hopeless note!!!!

@smilie I'm so sorry you are feeling this way. Go see your Dr. maybe the meds aren't the right kind for you. In the meantime listen to music or go for walk do you have any hobbies you did in the past you liked ? Maybe find that interest again. We are here to help if we can but in the end its up to you to find a way to help yourself. Do you have friends or family you can talk to? If not call the suicide line just to talk . They may have some suggestions for you. We care here at connect so let us know how things are going.

Please call and talk to someone on the phone suicide line now.

@smilie Can understand where you are. Sometimes waiting for these feelings of desperation to go away is the best we can do. You are coming here and focused enough to share-a start.