Importance of focusing on Positive with Depression & Anxiety.

Posted by BoneHead @stsopoci, Mon, May 27 3:14pm

In my journey with the millions of humans who are brave enough to go down the path of recovery without alcohol, bad drug and more drugs, I have gradually more and more discovered how important it is to crawl out of my deep hole, bad attitude, self-importance, feeling sorry for myself, angry, sad, etc, etc, condition and more toward the LIGHT!!! That means changing and moving for me away from some friends that are very negative about everything. That means walking around the block when I get upset so I can calm down and see the light. That means taking care of myself, exercising, eating right and meeting new friends and keeping old friends that are well-balanced. Positivity in life is available to everyone and it’s FREE. I have gone on a path throughout my early days of self-medicating with lots of alcohol, drug, etc. I cleaned myself up in 1996, OCT 13th but I still did not feel right until I could ask for help from a professional. Found out I was GAD (inherited from my MOM) and a few other close seconds. I went on medication for years on various meds until I found the chemical that keeps me pretty normal. BUT, BUT…something else was missing because I still suffered through the negativity of every situation that I could create in a moments time.

I love these groups because you are honest with yourself which is very important.
Finding good friends that understand you and the importance of staying positive with your journey through life.
Taking good care of yourself.
We all are unique so what works for me does not always work for you. I’m on 20mg of Lexipro.
What do other people do to stay positive?

@helenfrances

Seek support from a psycholgist

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Why a psychologist vs a psychiatrist?

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@shermananski

I’m guessing my fathers drinking increased over the years with depression and the stress of a young family and working in a big old industrial plant that was very polluting and dangerous. I’m thinking my brother wasn’t exposed to it when he was a toddler etc. I never asked my mother. I should have. Maybe. I really miss the dad I rarely saw. Maybe I have perpetual heartache. A deep loss. A lost connection. I adored my grandparents. They made me feel so at ease and gave me a deep sense of belonging. Sigh. I need to focus on me and stop ruminating.

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@shermananski– HAve you ever had a heart to heart with your brother? This might help you put some of your demons away.

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@merpreb

@shermananski– Enough is enough. When it reaches this point than it's time to switch gears and do something about it. I agree with @helenfrances, seek help.
Living in a house with an addict must have been awful. When you are young there really is literally nothing that you have control of; you can not effect or affect a change. Did your dad drink when your brother was young?
I am ne of three sisters growing up and all of us were very different. Who is to know what we will be like when we are older?

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Hi Merry, I still can’t remember how post, so I’m writing here. I’m so very depressed depressed!!!! Mornings are the worst!!!! I’m lying down in my bed 🛌 trying to go back to sleep or just rest, but I cannot because my mind is too busy!!!! My sister and I don’t want to call her that anymore, Gail and her husband have gone home and I’m really so very glad because I don’t want to hear from either of them again. They’re cruel and abusive and I don’t want that. I can’t handle such behaviour ever!!!! I’m going to try and nap or just rest. I hope that I can!!!!

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@smilie– Rest is one of the most important things to good mental health. There are nights and days that I also "buzz" and can't relax or slow my mind, so I just go with it until it burns itself out. Can you tell me more about your sister's abuse?

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Back on topic, I’ve started using Headspace, a meditation app, focusing on happiness. The current practice involves visualizing kindness as a Light that starts in the chest and then spreads through the body and out into the world and beyond. Wow. My brain just tingles. I’m sure there are free visualization meditations on you tube. Try it a few times!

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Hi All:

In a recent Mayo Clinic newsletter, Managing Depression, there was an article on How Sharing Kindness Can Make You Healthier and Happier, here is the link to the article,
https://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/stress-management/in-depth/how-sharing-kindness-can-make-you-healthier-happier/art-20390060/?
Would you please share how the practice of sharing kindness changes your mood?

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@hopeful33250

Hi All:

In a recent Mayo Clinic newsletter, Managing Depression, there was an article on How Sharing Kindness Can Make You Healthier and Happier, here is the link to the article,
https://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/stress-management/in-depth/how-sharing-kindness-can-make-you-healthier-happier/art-20390060/?
Would you please share how the practice of sharing kindness changes your mood?

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@hopeful33250– Sharing my experiences is a kindness, a generous,giving, a warmth shared to help someone else.

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@merpreb

@hopeful33250– Sharing my experiences is a kindness, a generous,giving, a warmth shared to help someone else.

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@merpreb So true, Merry, and you do it so well! Thanks for the kindness you share on Connect and other places!

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@hopeful33250

Hi @daisyrose and welcome to Mayo Connect! I'm so pleased that you joined our discussion on focusing on the positive.

If you are comfortable doing so, would you share with us a little of your story? I would be interested in hearing how you have worked to focus on the positive. Do you have special routines that you follow, like meditation, prayer, exercise, reading affirmations, etc.?

I look forward to getting to know you better.

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Meditation does Not work for me. Makes me very anxious.

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@sears Welcome to Connect. I years ago I use to meditate but it now makes me uncomfortable too, and so does yoga. But it's the chanting in yoga and howling like a bear that does that for me. I can't tell you how many classes that I have signed up for and dropped.

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@hopeful33250

Hi All:

In a recent Mayo Clinic newsletter, Managing Depression, there was an article on How Sharing Kindness Can Make You Healthier and Happier, here is the link to the article,
https://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/stress-management/in-depth/how-sharing-kindness-can-make-you-healthier-happier/art-20390060/?
Would you please share how the practice of sharing kindness changes your mood?

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@hopeful33250 Sharing kindness is something that, for me, comes unbidden. If I were in that person's shoes, wouldn't I like that someone else thought to include me in their actions that day? As for me, when I can show a small kindness, it comes from my heart, not a social pressure or because it is expected of me. It makes me feel good that whatever it is, was probably a surprise to the other person, and that is where I get my lift.
Ginger

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#hopefull33250 Helping others gives me a warm fuzzy feeling knowing I have given advice to another or an idea for them ,just being kind to people makes you feel good I'm glad too

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@gingerw

@hopeful33250 Sharing kindness is something that, for me, comes unbidden. If I were in that person's shoes, wouldn't I like that someone else thought to include me in their actions that day? As for me, when I can show a small kindness, it comes from my heart, not a social pressure or because it is expected of me. It makes me feel good that whatever it is, was probably a surprise to the other person, and that is where I get my lift.
Ginger

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@gingerw Yes, random acts of kindness (when least expected) are very rewarding!

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@merpreb

@sears Welcome to Connect. I years ago I use to meditate but it now makes me uncomfortable too, and so does yoga. But it's the chanting in yoga and howling like a bear that does that for me. I can't tell you how many classes that I have signed up for and dropped.

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Interesting. I don’t know your history, so do you know why yoga and meditation trigger you?

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@hopeful33250

@gingerw Yes, random acts of kindness (when least expected) are very rewarding!

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@hopeful33250, @gingerw– When I see an "older" person in need of a seat of an opened door this always surprises people. It's the way I was brought up. Nowadays it's unusual for kindness to shine, people have become so nasty and selfish.

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