~ Depressed and scared, not making it financially ~

Posted by Barb @amberpep, Feb 26, 2019

I'm 74 years old and moved 3 years ago from MD to VA. My girls had hounded me to come down for several years so I finally did it. I sold my condo (at a loss), and a job with a dentist. Well, here I am, and financially I'm just not making it. That amount I earned from the dentist covered me with just a little left over. Now, more than often, I don't have enough. I eeked out just enough for my rent this month, and now there's not even enough for a quart of milk. I get S.S. and what I get goes right out for my rent (usually there's enough), and my son sends me money each month. I'm sickened, depressed, and scared. I live in low income housing, and have a budget that practically squeaks. I'm thinking of starting to sell some of my furniture.
I so wish I'd have stayed in MD, for so many reasons, this being one of them. I have applied for oodles of jobs (they're all on line now), and legally they're not supposed to ask you how old you are (although many do), but they all ask when you graduated from either high school or college .... well, it doesn't take rocket science to figure out how old a person is. I'm so depressed about this, and .so upset that my stomach.constantly churns.
Thanks for letting me vent.
abby

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kimspr3 | @kimspr3 | Aug 10, 2019

In reply to @dianrib "many women have that ptoblm Low self esteem ? Who knows Take care" + (show)

That is what my home life was like and at a young age I thought it was normal.

kimspr3 | @kimspr3 | Aug 10, 2019

In reply to @dianrib "many women have that ptoblm Low self esteem ? Who knows Take care" + (show)

How do you get self-esteem?? Not sure.

kimspr3 | @kimspr3 | Aug 10, 2019

You have good memories of your husband to cherish and 2 wonderful sons. If I could only go back. I didn't want to hurt him not joint account. Naive fool.

smilie | @smilie | Aug 12, 2019

Hi! I’m lost, big time!!!! I can’t even do what I need to do!!!! I need to be watching my investment, I need to get away from one of my sisters and her husband, they are costing me a fortune and not just with money, but money is a big one, but my mental health is in jeopardy, also big time. I have plans for leaving but I’m having a hard time doing that.

Teresa, Volunteer Mentor | @hopeful33250 | Aug 12, 2019

In reply to @smilie "Hi! I’m lost, big time!!!! I can’t even do what I need to do!!!! I need..." + (show)

Hello @smilie
I urge you to seek support from outside of your family and take care of yourself.

Ginger, Volunteer Mentor | @gingerw | Aug 12, 2019

In reply to @smilie "Hi! I’m lost, big time!!!! I can’t even do what I need to do!!!! I need..." + (show)

@smilie It seems you have identified some major issues. Now you need to write them down, and then leave space to write down how to address them and solve them. Check resources available to you. Is there a battered women's shelter near you that you can go to? What do your plans for leaving look like today? Is there a religious or spiritual community that you can ask for assistance?
Ginger

Parus | @parus | Aug 14, 2019

In reply to @smilie "Hi! I’m lost, big time!!!! I can’t even do what I need to do!!!! I need..." + (show)

@smilie I can hear the exasperation in your words. When one is in such distress fleeing seems the answer at the time. When finances are involved things become more complicated. I think @hopeful33250 has made a good suggestion. There are times when some unbiased input can be helpful. I know the feeling of being overwhelmed and spinning a circle. It is terribly uncomfortable. Wise decisions may not be made in such a state.

Teresa, Volunteer Mentor | @hopeful33250 | Aug 14, 2019

In reply to @parus "@smilie I can hear the exasperation in your words. When one is in such distress fleeing..." + (show)

Hello @smilie, I hope you understand what @parus is saying in her post to you. Wise decisions about the important matters you are facing are best made with wise counselors (this could include financial counselors, psychologists, doctors, etc.). You need to surround yourself with non-family members who can help guide you to do what is best for you.

smilie | @smilie | Aug 14, 2019

In reply to @hopeful33250 "Hello @smilie, I hope you understand what @parus is saying in her post to you. Wise..." + (show)

Hi. Here’s what my brother in law told me. Stock brokers only work with the rich people. That he’s the only one who can help me with my finances and everyone else will steel from me. I’m so very depressed, angry, frustrated, frightened, anxious, confused and tired. I’m going to sleep for a little bit more. The truth about my brother in law is that he’s the one who will make me go broke. I’ll explain later. I’m going to try and sleep.

kimspr3 | @kimspr3 | Aug 14, 2019

In reply to @smilie "Hi! I’m lost, big time!!!! I can’t even do what I need to do!!!! I need..." + (show)

@smilie, you seem depressed so not motivated. It happens to all of us. Are you afraid to make that step? For your sanity and well being. That first step may be hard but after you make your decision I think you would be very proud of yourself and free of a unhappy, stressful, very difficult situation.