The Journey of Grieving

I remember the first few days back to work were extremely hard for me when I came home. I am doing better, but there are evenings every now and then that are still very hard. My husband has been gone almost 5 months. Somedays I am one hot mess and cry about everything. Other days I am able to smile as I share memories of him. I think every situation is unique and therefore every grief process is unique. Give yourself permission to grieve when and how you need to heal.
Thinking of and praying for you.

Today, we opened a new group dedicated to Loss & Grief on Connect. Feel free to browse the existing discussion or start a new discussion. Follow the group and explore the discussions here: https://connect.mayoclinic.org/group/loss-grief/

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Many many thanks for opening this group.

Well said ainsleigh.

To all. Such sadness. So sorry to hear if your loss Liz.
Such tragedies on these Mayo pages. I grieve for all as well as myself.
My tragic story.....

I just returned from our girls week at 8pm on June 2 and talked to my husband about what fun our daughter and I had that week. Every year I visit her for girls week. At 6:15am that very next morning our son in law called us. We immediately, in shock packed and drove to Ohio ( we live in SC). Our daughter didnt make it to the hospital. I still cant believe shes gone. We are lost, empty and feel its all surreal.
Our daughter was generally fine, however she was taking Tamoxifin which has several bad side effects, worse of which is blood clots, which is what happened.
She was taking it for a year and her doctor only saw her twice. She also had other side effects, etc. I will write more later. We need help dealing. She was our only sweet child, a teacher and LOVED by everyone. She was amazing and was involved in many charities, projects, always giving, loving, helped everyone with anything, kind, people loved her.
We cant deal with this well; cant believe shes gone. We have no family here in SC (Hilton Head area). Not many friends ( they all work, we are retired) so its tough. Her school had a beautiful tribute to her by having a concert, a parade and candle-prayer Virgil. Hundreds of cards were received by us when we came home. I miss my sweet daughter so bad. We cry every day, just sick! Please help. My friend, Terri Martin who also belongs to Mayo Clinic Connect suggested I seek help with Mayo Clinic. Terri is wonderful!
Thank you.
Our daughter just “celebrated”
(July 28) her 15th Wedding Anniversary in Heaven. Aug 1 was her 46th birthday. Help!
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Days are bad, I feel empty but still do the necessary stuff…..cook and clean! I feel lost.
Yesterday, Sept 10 I had a horrific day. It was as if I just remembered Kirs was gone. I went crazy and cried all day. Yeah, all day. The crying gave me a headache a d I felt nothing…just missed Kirs and could not believe she was gone. I just saw her it seemed.
My husband tried to help but I still chocked up and cried.
Today is better but the horrible void is hell. She lived in Ohio ( where I am from) and we live near Hilton Head. We didnt see each other as often as we both wished. ( Christmas, Thanksgiving, Spring Break). Talked on phone often. She was my best friend, my heart and soul. I did visit every year for 10 days; our fun long girls week.
Seems theres no help for people in our situation.

Sorry if some if you have read this earlier. I put this on again hoping to hear from others. Lets share please!!!!!

I lost my husband of 48 years Nov. 15, 2016! Almost 3 years ago. Everyone says, 'Move On'. I am STUCK!!!!!!

@73years...People say move on because your grief reminds them that they will have to face the same thing someday. And it bugs them big time. This may sound weird, but...I've become of fan of wallowing in grief, but setting a time limit. And then getting up and doing something productive. It's probably easier since the loss happened over ten years ago, but...just my two cents. I am really sad to hear that your husband is gone. That sucks.

thx. that meant a lot to me. i swear to myself i am not playing victim. but, many days, i do wonder... others days, i just read novels all day, and i am happy. i have 2 great children that help me so much. whatever, i appreciate you. this is my 1st post on mayo connect!

Nope, you are not playing the victim. It's great that the novels work for you! and that you have great kids!

Hello @abida

It has been a while since you last posted about the loss of your son. I hope you are dealing with this loss. Will you post again?