The Journey of Grieving

Hey Liz, I'm grieving the loss of my great niece who died just a few weeks ago from cancer at the age of 21. She was a bright star in this sometimes dark world. I'm also grieving the loss of my relationship with my 50 year old daughter. For reasons I don't know, she just doesn't communicate with me. I don't know what she does or how she is or how my grandchildren are. I weep inside most of the time.

@psearby17 I send condolences on the loss of your great niece, and the loss of communication with your daughter. Unfortunately, you can only offer to open the door for her, she must also step forward. Are her children in a position for you to contact them separately? Having family that doesn't want to communicate is difficult. Grief covers not only losing someone to daeth, but also estrangement. Our thoughts are with you.
Ginger

How do I post to this group?

I guess I just answered my own question. I'm struggling so much with the loss of my mom, who died suddenly on November 14th. She was 82, full of faith, and didn't suffer, so everyone is telling me it was a "good death" as those things go. But I am devastated. And I woke up from a dream this morning where someone had just told me of her death anew, and I had just been about to call her about something, and it all hit me as if I hadn't known about it for a month and a half, but had just learned of it. It's been a very rough day.

I too recently lost my husband. It was very sudden After his diagnosis of biliary duct cancer, he passed away 23 days later. I just survived my first Thanksgiving and Christmas without him. He actually passed on our 34th anniversary. I am still very much in shock, still grieving daily, and miss him terribly. So I can relate to how you are feeling. I saw your post and thought we could maybe support one another through this difficult time.

@fara67 I’m so sorry to hear about your husband. Things went so quickly that you didn’t even have time to process his diagnosis much less his death. I’m sure getting through the holidays was very hard. Just know that you have us to listen and support you. God bless you.

I lost my husband in August and I am so lost. I am consumed by grief. He was everything to me

Lost my husband 8/13/18 and I am so lost. We had a bond few ever have. He was diagnosed with brain cancer and died within weeks. We were both about to retire and had so many plans. I am devastated and cry a good part of each day. Time does not heal.

Thank you, Ginger. I appreciate your kind words. Grief comes in many ways. Glad you understand that. Yes, I can contact her children. Don't know if I would get response. We did spend Christmas Eve together and it was wonderful. I am keeping the door open to communication any and every way I can.

Hello, @jmel and @fara67 - I'd like to add my welcome to Mayo Clinic Connect. I am married, as well, and cannot begin to imagine the loss and extreme grief of losing my husband. I'm terribly sorry for your loss.

@trider7140, glad you determined how to post here in this discussion on the journey of grieving. That sounds extremely hard to lose your mom, and so suddenly. A friend of mine lost her dad this month, with chest pains rapidly evolving into a fatal heart attack, and I know she is struggling to feel like it's really real.

@psearby17 - what a young age to pass away from cancer, at 21. My condolences. So very hard to feel as though you've also lost your daughter, with no communication from her.

What I'm wondering, amidst the grieving and processing of these very difficult losses, @jmel @fara67 @trider7140 @psearby17, is there any one thing that has helped you at all - brought you any comfort or relief - that you might share to benefit others here?