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~ Lonesome ~
Hi everyone .... well, I've reached the end of my last nerve. About a year ago, I had to put my little dog down ..... she was a Cavalier, King Charles Spaniel, who was rescued from a puppy mill - she was 4 and had given birth to multiple liters. She never got out of the crate, and the day after I took her the mill was going to shoot her because she was no long producing what they wanted. She was a tri-color, and had the classical heart murmur. All Cavaliers have that, I guess from poor breeding practices ..... goes from level 1 to level 5. She was 11 when I had to put her to sleep. Well, you all know all the moving I've been doing ... MD to VA, then another place in VA (which is quite unsafe I'm finding out). I have not been happy since I left my condo in MD. I'd lived in the Frederick, MD area for 30 years, and that move was a big mistake (now I know!). Well, I have 2 cats, but I so much miss that little girl. It's been a year now, and I still can't look at her picture without tearing up. So, I've been in touch with a Cavalier rescue group that lives quite close to where I used to live in MD, and I'm just praying that I can find one that I can both afford and whose murmur isn't passed 2. I'm lonesome .... I have a neighbor who is a friend and she has a dog. My kids are great people, and do what they can and have time for to either come over, bring me some food, or go somewhere with me, but they all have lives and families and I cannot expect them to fill in the gap. I'm used to taking in a puppy mill rescue, as my Molly was afraid of grass when I got her, I had to teach her how to walk up steps, and for a long time anytime someone lifted an arm to scratch their head or anything like that, she'd duck and run. Obviously, she'd been abused along with everything else. I so hope I can get one ..... I need a loyal friend down here, and one of them would be perfect.
abby
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That's great news! I know he's going to be great companionship for you.
Jim
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1 Reaction@amberpep enjoy your new little dog. How old is he? I’m jealous, I wish I could have the company of a pet.
JK
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1 Reaction@amberpep I’m happy you realize that not all men are like that. Thankfully there are some good ones out there.
JK
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1 ReactionT'would rather be lonely than listening to drama. Drama, drama everywhere and not a drop of serenity to savor. Have enough to do dealing with the mundane and crawling through hoops of those in control. Beware the tangled webs others can create.
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1 ReactionI could use a pet at times. Not realistic as I could not properly care for one anymore. Poor health and pain is a lonely way to exist. Maybe tomorrow will be better.
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3 ReactionsIf you are able to get out you could visit your local shelter or dog park to interact with animals. Just a thought.
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4 Reactions@parus Hi Parus… I have a parakeet (budgie) and they are wonderful company. I talk to him all the time and he mimics what you say. So you have to be careful what you say LOL. He's always talking and loves to socialize. Cheap and easy to look after. Fresh food and water every morning and can change again if it get's low or the water is dirty. I bought a male one because they supposedly talk more.
Just a suggestion... I am a loner and talking to someone really helps. Don't have much friends. Take care my dear. Hugs 🙂
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5 ReactionsI have 2 fur babies and while I love them they do not quell the loneliness of human contact.
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2 ReactionsWELL, I'M BACK AGAIN ...... I keep wondering if we ever totally get over the relationship (or non-relationship) we had with the N. Today the family and I (my kids, their spouses, kids, etc.) went to my X-N's house to celebrate everyone's birthday. I'm the only one who has a winter birthday. I enjoyed myself as everyone was there and my X always makes a nice picnic meal. He's built a big house on 3 acres of land, has his friends there at least once or twice a month (most of these people were our friends when we were married, but once he lied and told them that I was having an affair with my therapist, that was it ...... they dropped me like a hot potato!) I could hardly believe he'd go that low ..... naieve' I guess. When I'm around him for family affairs, I look at him and wonder "how could he do that?" ..... and I don't just mean that lie, but his treatment of me? And why in the world did I put up with it and not recognize what was happening until my therapist suggested a book for me to read ...... "Trapped in the Mirror" ...... that opened my eyes. So there he is in his fancy house on his big chunk of land, having all our friends down to visit, and here I am living in a low income apartment with no real friends here - they're all still in the state I came from. He sleeps with his windows unlocked, doors not bolted, and I sleep with 2 bolts, 1 doorknob lock, and a big thick metal bar that weighs about 10 pounds that I jam up under the door handle. As my lawyer said, after 40 years of being married, staying at home for most of it raising out kids, I could have skinned him alive, but, at that time I had my own money until I ran into a crooked Investment Adviser who was running a ponzi scheme. Oh well, no sense going over it in my mind over and over again ..... it's over and done with.
abby
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3 Reactions@amberpep Nothing quite like having your face smeared with how the better half lives. N-exes do exist. Remind yourself how much better off without him. Nothing is ever their fault and they go to the extreme to prove they are always right.
Hard to not have the past pummel us. Take care.
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