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What is an unsexy, raw reality of a long term marriage/relationship.

Posted by TomC7231 @tc7231, Oct 6 5:00pm

On Reddit someone posted this title "What is an unsexy, raw reality of a long term relationship that nobody warns you about."

It got a lot of comments from people in long term relationships that were very moving. How about commenting here as well. (or you can read them on Reddit.)

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kjoed53 | @kjoed53 | Oct 12 10:54am
In reply to @rollingf "My wife and I were married for 51 years, had six children--2 boys and four girls--and..." + (show)
Profile picture for rollingf Jan David Fisher @rollingf

My wife and I were married for 51 years, had six children--2 boys and four girls--and 9 grandchildren with one great grandchild so far. She saw all of the grandchildren before she died. I miss the contact and conversations we had on science and immunology,

ALS is a slow, frustrating disease with no chance for recovery.

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@rollingf
You were very lucky to have that in your relationship, and I'm very sorry for your loss.

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Annette | @ettennam | Oct 16 6:31pm

I took my vow and am happy with doing so.

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danae25 | @danae25 | Oct 17 11:35am
In reply to @susiewordsmith "I spent ~40 years of enjoying great (and sometimes not so great) sex with more lovers..." + (show)
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I spent ~40 years of enjoying great (and sometimes not so great) sex with more lovers than I can remember. Today at 80, my priorities are great companionship and great conversation. An "unsexy" relationship sounds better than no relationship, or perhaps I should say, most relationships. Living alone and not being touched from one year to the next is dreadful. Living alone is not optimal, but it's better than living with the wrong person, as I learned through three marriages all dissolved. Live and learn!

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@susiewordsmith Wow. As they say in "Mame", "You lived!"

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danae25 | @danae25 | Oct 17 11:40am
In reply to @rollingf "My wife and I were married for 51 years, had six children--2 boys and four girls--and..." + (show)
Profile picture for rollingf Jan David Fisher @rollingf

My wife and I were married for 51 years, had six children--2 boys and four girls--and 9 grandchildren with one great grandchild so far. She saw all of the grandchildren before she died. I miss the contact and conversations we had on science and immunology,

ALS is a slow, frustrating disease with no chance for recovery.

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@rollingf I also lost someone dear to ALS. It's awful.

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cjarlottematheny | @cjarlottematheny | Oct 18 11:26pm
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I was married to my husband for 65 years, and due to prostate cancer the last 20 years were mostly devoid of any physical relations. It was fine with me because having him here was better than not. He’s gone now, but I wouldn’t have traded any sex-filled life for the one we had together.

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@reets70

we will be married 65 years next month and I pray we will have many more years together..

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