~ Just about done with everything ~

Hi Teresa ..... thank you for thinking of me. The trees are all changing rather oddly this year .... sort of patchy. I still have some hummingbirds coming to my feeder, and also some tufted titmice and chickadees are coming to my black oil feeder. Now that's really odd. Those hummers should have headed for Mexico a long time ago. I haven't written much lately because it's just the same old/same old. I'm in my new apartment ... quite large, but lots of problems .... extremely loud neighbors (I'm sure the teens above me must practice gymnastics), lots of drugs everywhere, ambulance is here at least 3x a week and fire engines about 2, there's a woman who lives below me who is paranoid schizophrenic and who won't take her meds because "she's fine." She walks her dog in summer in a long black heavy coat, head covered, and I'm told that she's a stalker and to be careful of her. There's all sorts of things to deal with .... believe me, I'm well locked in here ... door lock, padlock, and a heavy metal 3 ft. pole with rubber at both end that tucks underneath the doorknob and the metal bar presses onto the floor. I just hate to think that this is the place I will live out my last days. But, it is what it is, and by then I won't care anyhow.
abby

Hi Abby @amberpep

It is good to hear from you! Nature outside of your window seems to be offering you some breaks from the difficulties you find with the "humans" in your environment. Do you ever take pictures of the view ? I'm sure that as the seasons change you could have a very lovely album of the world outside your window - sounds like a good title for a book, doesn't it?

Keep in touch, we all experience the phenomena that you describe as "just the same old/same old" and we can appreciate what you are experiencing when you say that. We still want to hear from you.

Blessings,

Teresa

It was so good to hear from you ..... thank you. I feel like such a whiner and I need to be grateful for what I have and be a blessing to those around me. The difficulty I'm having is it has been non-stop difficulties with every step I've taken since I decided to move to VA. To me, that says I never should have left MD. But, too late for that now as my condo was sold. With this experience, I would never encourage any older person to move out of their "nest" to be closer to their kids. That never happened when I was in my 20's and 30's ..... my now X and I did the running back and forth to see and take care of our parents. Now we're to go to them.
I know I'm a downer, but this is the cold, unvarnished truth .... for once in my life I'm glad for my age ..... soon it will be over.
abby

Hi Abby, @amberpep

I appreciate the honest, sharing of your feelings! You do that well and it encourages others to be open and vulnerable as well. Keep posting.

Teresa

Hello everyone i want to share something please forgive my bad english
Sometimes when i yawn my jaw popps a little and it happens to all but i didn't know about it so i search on Google to know the cause in shows a disorder tmd and after 2 days of reading all about tmd and started checking my jaw every minute for unusual things like opening jaw several times in a day, yawning for know reason only to check popping noise and first there was no pain not a single issue only popping but after 2 days of foolish checking of jaw i developed pain in my jaw its like i check my jaw every minute to listen popping and click noise and i swear there was no pain no problem only the popping and clicking and when i asked my dentist friend he told me that 60 percent of people jaw click with no pain its normal but i constantly check my jaw dont know what to do

Hi prashantnayal ...... what you've got is TMJ .... temporal mandibular joint dysfunction. It usually comes from clenching your teeth together and it causes the joints on either side to get very sore. I had it some years ago, and first the Oral Surgeon told me to only eat soft foods, noodles, applesauce, mashed potatoes, etc. In the meantime he took an impression of my mouth and had a mouth guard made for me which fit over my either upper or lower when I slept at night. I forget if it was upper or lower. It took time but eventually went away, but I used the mouth guard for a long time after that.
abby

But i dont clench teeths i checked with my dentist he told me that it is normal to click noises 60 percent people's jaw click and and there was no pain but after checking for two days i developed pain because i open my jaw several times only to listen clicking noise

And please tell me amber how is your tmd is it gone or u still have it and if its gone how much time it took to go away and please tell me how much your mouth guard cost and how long you use the guard please tell .
I am veryy poor...

@prashantnayal123

Have you ever popped your knuckles? I know that some people get into a habit of doing it and can't stop. Perhaps you are doing something similar when you pop your jaw. Why don't you try to think about something else when you start to pop it? You can try many different things to stop the habit. One thing I thought of is counting to 20 whenever the thought comes, and tell yourself that you won't do anything until after counting. Just a thought. Sometimes it can be harder to stop a habit than to start one. Can you think of other things you could do to distract yourself? Or maybe have someone massage your neck and jaw to relax it. That would really feel good!

Jim

@amberpep

Hi there, Abby. I'm glad that I live where I can look out the window and see beauty, too. Right now, it's raining intermittently, and I have some expensive canvas drop cloths draped over my tomato plants to protect them from the frost. Oh well. They'll dry out eventually. When I went to the cellar yesterday to get them out, I found a dead mouse lying on top, and the canvas smelled pretty bad, so a little rain might help with that.

Our kids know that we are here to stay. They're the ones who will have to move if they want to be closer. The only exception might be if I die first, and our son-in-law has retired from the Coast Guard, and they have settled down somewhere. My wife would probably sell the place and move near them. Depends on where they settle. It would be really hard for me to leave my home, with 10 acres of space.

Have you unpacked more boxes? I know that I would feel better if some of my old familiar things were out where I could see them. Tell me you have started. Please?

Enjoy the Virginia autumn.

Jim