Where to Start?

Posted by melevanslam @melevanslam, 7 hours ago

My husband is experiencing cognitive issues daily and I find myself doing more and more things for him. I am his brain and his memory. he does not have a diagnosis and his doctor seems to be oblivious to this. Because of hippa I cannot approach his doctor nor can I approach him about this. He is also experiencing mobility and vision issues and is extremely frustrated.
I want him to feel as independent as possible but I need direction on this very sensitive issue.

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gloaming | @gloaming | 5 hours ago

Call in a social worker and ask the agency that a formal evaluation be done. Also, get a lawyer because chances are excellent that you'll need his/her services when you try to act on behalf of your husband. Also, consider seeing a gerontologist or neurologist, by appointment, with the specified goal of assessment for your husband.

gently | @gently | 3 hours ago

melevanslam, you can talk to his doctor. The doctor is bound my HIPPA and shouldn't give you information. I would suggest that you have him sign a POA at least for healthcare. but probably for everything.

melevanslam | @melevanslam | 3 hours ago

This is all good information that I will eventually use and I thank you for it as well as your quick response.
However, your answer made me realize that the first step is more personal and one that has me frozen in place. I need to find a way to broach the subject with him somehow and get my husband to be aware of and agree to the next step. I don't want to sabotage him or diminish him.