Adderall abuse. Advice?

A 24 year old loved one abuses their Adderall. They go through a weeks supply of 35 mg daily in three days.
I am supposed to leave for the weekend, but they get their meds on Friday and I’m
worried because they are so isolated. Would it be better to stay, and be there in whatever way I can, or should I go?

Having been in a long term relationship with someone who abused prescription meds, as much as we want to think that our presence helps the addict from using more or being worse, in the end it really doesn't. They are going to do what they are going to do, and addicts are super sneaky. Only the addict can decide when they want help. Only the addict can decide if they want to change. If they express that they are going to harm themselves or someone else, then authorities can legally take them to a mental health facility. My fear for you is that if you start to not go places because of the loved ones addiction, you will slowly isolate yourself and lose yourself. I promise, if you don't do things for yourself, you will wake up one day and wonder what happened to your life and who you have become. This can be a sad reality for people who take care of loved ones with addictions. The reality is that sometimes the best way to help is to not help and let the addict experience the harsh consequences of their actions, as hard as that is. My heart goes out to you, addiction is traumatic. Take care of yourself, always.

I am not sure what to do in this situation since it so immediate.

Have you discussed the issue with your loved one?

I was on Adderall for a bit of time and often did not take it as prescribed. I switched to a non-stimulant called Strattera, which did not do shit for me.

Then I transitioned to Vyvanse. The potential for abuse of Vyvanse is less than Adderall, as it is only activated by oral ingestion. Many people that abuse Adderall crush it up and snort it. With Vyvanse, that would not work.

However, with Vyvanse, it would still be possible to abuse it by taking more capsules than prescribed.

I am guessing you live with your loved one. What is he or she like when the pills run out? Do you fear that your loved one will not be safe if you are away? I mean he or she may go on an Adderall binge while you are gone, but you have your own life and cannot always be there. Are there other mental health issues like depression? Or anything that makes you think your loved one may harm themselves or someone else?

I’ve been there. As hard as it is you MUST go on with your life. A resource I found helpful is SMART https://smartrecovery.org/ Where self-empowerment meets supportive community!
On the website you’ll look for “Family & Friends”. https://smartrecovery.org/family .
There are hundreds of live as well as online meetings EVERY day of the week.
It is not a 12 step program. It is based on
CRAFT-style non-confrontational interventions as an effective way for family members to both help themselves and get help for their loved ones struggling with addiction.
The Four Point Program is for your son should he be interested, but, let it start with you.

@pivoine1 GO. See more detailed response by me.

@gingerbear22 I’ll also add this resource https://palgroup.org/
Parents with an adult child dealing with substance use disorder involving either drugs or alcohol find hope and support through Parents of Addicted Loved Ones (PAL). Meetings are available all over the country, and lives are being changed every day. It’s not an easy journey, but you don’t have to go at it alone.

@mglayton72 Thank you so much for your answer. Thanks to you (and a book: Codependent No More) I went away and came back and it was all fine. I was so
anxious the whole time, but I did it and it was a good step.

Thank you all for your answers and support. I have joined PAL.
My daughter has asked me to accompany her to a meeting (not to go with herd just to travel with her).

@pivoine1 So proud of you. One step at a time. And, Codependent No More or other Melodie Beatty books are good daily readers to keep you focused on YOUR journey