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Lack of recognition

Posted by Gratia @gratia, Jul 1 8:03am

How to you cope with emotions when your loved one doesn’t recognize you?

It’s all such a “mental mind meld” dealing with loopy conversations, moods & ever changing goalposts.

Wishing strength, support and peace to all of you.

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Fred | @fred1 | 1 day ago
In reply to @georgescraftjr "@labrown ...and do you remember Patsy Cline singing: "See the pyramids along the Nile Watch the..." + (show)
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@labrown

...and do you remember Patsy Cline singing:

"See the pyramids along the Nile
Watch the sunrise on a tropic isle
Just remember, darlin', all the while
You belong to me

See the market place in old Algiers
Send me photographs and souvenirs
Just remember when a dream appears
You belong to me

I'll be so alone without you
Maybe you'll be lonesome too
And blue

Fly the ocean in a silver plane
See the jungle when it's wet with rain
Just remember 'til you're home again
You belong to me
....

Fly that ocean in a silver plane
See the jungle when it's wet with rain
Just remember 'til you're home again
You belong to me"

Sing this to your hubby. He belongs to you, whether he recognizes you or not.

Love,
George's Wife

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@georgescraftjr That was one of my favorites of all time.

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lulululu | @lulululu | 6 hours ago
In reply to @fred1 "lulululu, No, I have never heard of that condition. However, looking it up online has given..." + (show)
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lulululu, No, I have never heard of that condition. However, looking it up online has given me some information on the condition. If you haven't already done so, you might want to go to the "Harvard University Face Blindness Study", for how to best deal with an Alzheimer's patient suffering with that condition.
I think you have a very unique situation, with the other person you believe is one of those husband is confusing you with. You might want to get professional guidance as to how best to handle that one. Or...if you're up to it, just assume the role. Best to you lulululu, hope all goes well, however you handle the situation. Take care of yourself, so that you are able to take care of him, as best you can.

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@fred1 Thanks you I am going to do that. I have done research but would like to learn more. Thank you/
Jeannie C

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lulululu | @lulululu | 6 hours ago
In reply to @labrown "@fred1 Thank you Fred for a really good response to Gratia! After reading her post I..." + (show)
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@fred1 Thank you Fred for a really good response to Gratia! After reading her post I thought, what will it be like when we get to that point of the disease…when he doesn’t know who I am or why I am there. Right now my hubby doesn’t always think of me as his wife, but he does recognize that I am the person who lives with him and takes care of him. I remind him all along that I am his wife and that we have been married for 45 years…he always looks at me in astonishment like he can’t believe he has been married for 45 years! I will remember your response when the time comes.

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@labrown It happens here too. It is second marriage and we have been together 43 years, We have photos that he looks at but still seems puzzled. The painful thing is he remembers his longtime that he had for 30 years. I found out 5 years ago she was not his childhood platonic friend.

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