He wants a divorce; we are both turning 70

Posted by slarson14 @slarson14, Jul 10, 2025

Am so afraid I am going to end up homeless.

We married at 59 and now he wants out.

"We no longer have anything in common" was announced when I said he would "have to pay for a much wanted (by him) trip to Europe because I am done taking money out of my IRA".

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babs10 | @babs10 | May 29 11:06pm

In reply to @mikaylar "I agree with MOJO - dump his sorry a@#! Plenty of other men out there or..." + (show)

@mikaylar, I recommend you get a determined female attorney to represent you. Read the reviews!!! Best wishes - you'll be better off without him.

rashida | @rashida | May 29 11:55pm

In reply to @slarson14 "Updating. Divorce is done, peaceful division. No regrets so far." + (show)

@slarson14 good for you! Now don’t look back - just keep moving forward and don’t let that man back into your life, no matter what!

kayraymat | @kayraymat | May 30 9:42am

Sounds like he may have a personality disorder...maybe Borderline,
& there is no cure, so you are lucky to be out of the relationship.
Enjoy the single life !

isadora2021 | @isadora2021 | May 31 5:08am

In reply to @rashida "@slarson14 good for you! Now don’t look back - just keep moving forward and don’t let..." + (show)

@rashida @slarson14
So true! No looking for regrets. No looking in the rear view mirror for any reason. Eyes on the road ahead!

Life is what you make it so now you’re free @slarson14 to go and give it a good shake 💃🏻😊

gravity3 | @gravity3 | Jun 1 12:55pm

Get an attorney ASAP. Be proactive and tenacious.

crabby55 | @crabby55 | Jun 2 7:24pm

So many are saying get an attorney. I would take a step back from that and say start interviewing attorney. Learn what your rights are. Attorney's have different styles and approaches. Find one that you most resonate with. Ask what their prices are. Do they charge for phone calls.? What is the retainer and is it or any of it refundable? How do they do their billing? Do they prepare everything themselves or have an associate that charges less help handle paperwork? All that after knowing your rights and what direction you are comfortable with. This way you can make an informed decision. Your area may have a Bar Association that will give you an hour for very reduced rates. Don't be afraid of asking questions. And asking people in your community for suggestions. Hairdressers are often good resources for information.

browndognotnow | @browndognotnow | 1 day ago

I have read several comments that seem not to address the original question. I agree with seeking a financial advisor and thearpy. U mentioned and IRA - is that your only source of income? Do you spit living expenses now? What is his financial situation? Agree that you do not need to go into your IRA’s, there could be tax ramifications. I would also talk to an attorney. Sorry you are going thru this. Doesn’t sound like he is a good partner. Prayers

browndognotnow | @browndognotnow | 1 day ago

Not sure what state u reside. In my state, a marriage lasting over 10 years can grant the partner rights to retirement if not already retired. U would also be eligible to draw from his social security if it is more than yours. Maybe u r already doing that. Again, an attorney would be very helpful for outlining your rights.