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Anyone else lose interest in Valentine's Day?

Posted by jopa1951 @jopa1951, Feb 14 7:00am

I was a very romantic guy, now humbug. This day is a brutal one, but I will survive. I'm just lonely, starving for mutual affection. Time to distract myself. I will listen to John Prine.
We are the lonely, all together.
All together, all alone. jp
Peace and love to you and yours

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Cheryl D | @nmrcdigman | Feb 16 1:26pm

Was there a Valentine’s day recently?
Well, we didn’t have one at our place! But, I lovely memories of the ones past.
Peace, Cheryl

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pml | @pml | Feb 21 5:04pm
In reply to @teacher502 "I was doing ok - as we never made a big deal about Valentines Day.....then I..." + (show)
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I was doing ok - as we never made a big deal about Valentines Day.....then I went to Publix to pick up some fresh fruit, and it was full of men buying flowers, cards, candy, balloons, wine .....and I felt a deep, deep longing to just hear my sweet, funny, strong hubby say ANYTHING affectionate or special....or even a knowing smile.....or a cute wink....but, as always, I stuffed those desires and feelings on top of the other "put away" feelings so as not to have tears in a public place....once again the unwanted emotional game of feelings sneaking up when least expected....and I survived another round. How long will my heart hold on until the emotions become an unstoppable torrential flood?
Grateful to be able to write these words...hugs to all.

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@teacher502 I'm so sorry you felt sad on Valentine's Day in Publix market. I'm sure that was hard for you and especially when your husband no longer says the sweet things or gestures he used to say and do; possibly because for whatever reason he can't do those things anymore. Be glad for the good times when all that you explained happened! Also be glad that he is still with you physically. Hug him, kiss him and tell him you love him! My husband died in 2024 and I would give anything just to have him with me even if he is silent and non responsive. I miss him terribly. I know he's up in Heaven and we'll be together eventually in God's time but it's very lonely until then. Prayer helps. God is always there for us. I'll say a prayer for you.
I wish you the best.
PML

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teacher502 | @teacher502 | Feb 21 6:43pm
In reply to @pml "@teacher502 I'm so sorry you felt sad on Valentine's Day in Publix market. I'm sure that..." + (show)
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@teacher502 I'm so sorry you felt sad on Valentine's Day in Publix market. I'm sure that was hard for you and especially when your husband no longer says the sweet things or gestures he used to say and do; possibly because for whatever reason he can't do those things anymore. Be glad for the good times when all that you explained happened! Also be glad that he is still with you physically. Hug him, kiss him and tell him you love him! My husband died in 2024 and I would give anything just to have him with me even if he is silent and non responsive. I miss him terribly. I know he's up in Heaven and we'll be together eventually in God's time but it's very lonely until then. Prayer helps. God is always there for us. I'll say a prayer for you.
I wish you the best.
PML

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@pml thank you for your kind response. I am grateful to have his hand to hold and his neck to kiss....and once in a rare moment - that smile and nod that was reserved just for me appears. I am honored to be the one to be here to help him during this difficult, ever-changing illness, and I am determined to finish this journey with him with as few regrets as possible and with a reserve of strength that can only come from our deeply shared faith in God.. Thank you for your encouragement, and I am so sorry your husband passed away and you had to go through this emotional, hard journey. However, I do remind myself that on this very large planet with billions of people, I am so grateful for the fact that my path in life crossed with his and we had/have the most amazing marriage and the best friendship. A marriage that is leaving me with the happiest memories that always remind me I have been blessed beyond measure to know and to love him.

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