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To Visit or Not To Visit?
My Mom is now in a memory care unit. When I visit, it seems that it puts me on Mom's mind and the next day is almost always terrible. She suddenly thinks of me and gets super worried to the point of the staff members calling me to talk to her, which I never mind at all.
But, I'm a bit torn about what to do. She's been declining, communication is shorter and shorter. I feel guilty if I don't visit plus I truly want to see her, I miss her. I miss her even when I'm with her.
I usually go at least twice a week but I have a friend currently dying who needed a home for his dog - and dog just had surgery so is in the cone of shame so... haven't been able to visit in over a week. So going yesterday, made it worse for Mom.
Question: Is there any way to prevent my visits from making her worry about me the next day? In the past, I thought about taping up a sign in her room that says I'm ok. But, I doubt she'd see it or comprehend it. Suggestions?
(photo is of painted bunting by my house... gives me a peaceful feeling... sometimes, all I can do is sit and breathe.)
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You could record a video loop, or several. You might incorporate an activity or an expression of how much you appreciate some particular aspect of the way she raised you.
I love that the staff is attentive enough to give you a call. She might be able to press a button and listen to your message whenever she thinks of it.
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3 Reactions@gently I love that. I have some blank greeting cards I can record a message on. I can put my photo on the front - just open to play. Or a photo frame and you push a button. I can put bright finger polish on the button. THANKS
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4 ReactionsTraci, your mom is so sweet, worrying about your happiness all the time. She must be an excellent mom.
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