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And the Academy Award goes to... Pretender
I am now an accomplished actress, putting on the best show everyday. Pretending that I am fine with choices my husband makes when we watch T.V., acting like I am happy and smiling at my husband when he makes certain comments. Like that line from the song, Smile though your heart is breaking.
In order to keep my husband in a happy, relaxed mood I have to act like everything is okay. You've heard of, Fake it till you make it. Guess I'm hoping if I smile the warm feelings will follow.
I've lost myself; who am I now and gee, it was such a fast journey to get to this place where I'm a new person I hardly recognize sometimes.
Can I just say I miss Me, I miss Us.
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Okey Dokey - I think I may have possibly perhaps conceivably followed the directions is such a manner that I may have achieved the objective of sending a private message.
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I posted this message on another board, and am reposting here:
"I have been on the verge of physically losing my 83-year old husband, who suffers from chronic pain, Alzheimer's, Lewy Body dementia, vascular dementia and Parkinson's. (He was in hospice, went off hospice, and might soon have to go back on it.) I try not to let his pain (and my own physical pain) or my grief for the loss of his old self and our former life define this last chapter of our life.I am profoundly sorry for all of you who have suffered the loss of someone dear to you, and my hope is that grief does not define who you are and who I will be should my husband predecease me.
I found this video clip inspirational, and I hope you will be positively affected by it, too:https://www.youtube.com/watch
For those of you who are not familiar with the song, the lyrics can be found on this link:https://www.bing.com/search
George's Wife"
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6 Reactions@georgescraftjr The song speaks volumes…that’s how I feel. I want the man back that I have shared life with for 45 years. 😔
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4 Reactions@labrown It is a very lonesome journey…even when surrounded by others.
This is so true for me. My wife has physically declined to the point she cannot get up by herself, needs help toileting, has no short term memory... She does still have a sense of humor - (like a 6 year old) and cares about others - I do have friends who help and give me some 'me' time - but they do NOT fill the huge space vacated my my loving dear life partner for almost sixty years....
I wish all here all the joy they are able to find.
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