Spouse admitted to Behavioral Psychiatric Unit

@abidjan I'm so sorry to hear this. Hugs yo you - please know that we are here to support you however we are able.
If you would like to check it out, there is a special group here for those suffering the loss of a loved one:
https://connect.mayoclinic.org/group/loss-grief/

Thank you, this has been a difficult journey. I feel numb most days. But, I
know God, family and friends will carry me.

This is, indeed, a very difficult situation. My humble piece of advice is to consult with his neurologist and ask his opinion. Obviously, I do know that you care about your husband; nevertheless, it is also important to prevent him from getting agitated and/or upset about you leaving. My best guess is that he will demand you to take him home with you. God has blessed us with our free will and power of discernment; we just need to use both of them wisely. If I were wearing your shoes, I would consult with his provider before taking a final decision. May our Lord Jesus Christ bless you, through the Holy Spirit, with the gift of Wisdom and Fortitude. I will pray a rosary for you today.

Hello @abidjan
I am quite new to this group so I do not know any background to your post. I will offer this observation: I imagine that if you are asking this question it is because you have good reason to believe that your brief visit and exit will, indeed, upset him more than it will provide reassurance. If that is the case then, in your shoes, I would follow my informed intuition and not go.

You can put a safety net under that plan by asking the doctors to let you know if their observations of him or their cumulative experience indicates that it is valuable for you to go. In that case, they should give you instructions on what kind of communication would be helpful to his recovery.

It is such a difficult situation. My heart goes out to you. The important thing is that you are ensuring that he gets the medical care that he needs and that which can enable you two to move forward safely You are doing the right things. Bless you.

Thank you for your thoughtful response. I did do what you have suggested. Unfortunately he contracted MRSA and passed away

Dear @abidjan

I was so shocked to read your message. It must be devastating for you. Of all the things that you were worried about, this was most certainly not one that was prominent. May he rest in peace and may you find solace in time. I will be thinking of you and sending you strength.

I'm sorry for your loss - that is shocking, but ultimately will be less stressful for you both in the long term.

For those new to hospitalizations, I offer the following: My wife has had two hospitalizations, one last Sept., and one this past Jan., so I know how difficult that can be, but it is necessary. As far as visitation, don't feel bad about visiting, or the fact that you have to leave. 30 min. does sound a bit extreme to me on a very short scale; it must be a rather restricted unit, although they *all* are restricted. Any time with them to reassure them, and make them feel that you are supporting them is worth it, although it can be hard and heartbreaking to leave - but they will survive, as will you. If you can bring/meet a friend or family member to visitation, I highly recommend it - it is good moral support for you and them, but also provides a distraction for them. I'm not sure your spouses stage, but I always brought magazines, large print word searches, UNO, etc. to do while visiting, and for them to keep - at least some items. Take advantage of the time of respite at home - it is very necessary for you, so don't feel guilty about it. You are doing the best you can with an impossible situation.

@abidjan
I am so sorry for your loss. Please know that your initial post resulted in replies that will help others facing the same dilemma.

I wish you peace in this sad time.

Thank you