How fast does this progress??

Linaxyl,
I, too, am dealing with alcohol induced dementia with my husband. I feel so angry at him for not making better decisions in regards to his addiction. I’m a caregiver but I am an angry caregiver. This is so hard to even try to be nice to him. I’m trying hard to be the person that I was raised to be but I am about at the end of my rope, so to speak.
Susan

@sivad what is an LPA. Thanks,.

@kjc48 I live in England so I forgot other people may not know that an LPA is Lasting Power Of Attorney which gives my daughter the legal right to look after mine and my wife’s finances and medications if we are unable to do so. because of cognitive decline. Sorry if I confused anyone, Sivad

thank you for clarifying. I'm like a sieve to anything anyone is telling me so I appreciate your quick response.

My wife has no concept of time, so appointment times mean nothing. So every night on a whiteboard I put day, date, and activities to expect tomorrow when she wakes up, no times. We discuss each as it comes up, then check it off afterwards . She thinks someone else writes these, not me, so they are the authotity,

My wife has no concept of time, so appointment times mean nothing. So every night on a whiteboard I put day, date, and activities to expect tomorrow when she wakes up, no times. We discuss each as it comes up, then check it off afterwards . She thinks someone else writes these, not me, so they are the authotity, That sometimes helps with stemming arguments.

How much is considered a normal part of aging and when to worry? My husband and I both have different lapses at different times. Good days and bad. Is this something that is constant or something that comes and goes like ours does? (Forgetting how to get somewhere we haven't often gone to, forgetting names of acquaintances we don't see often, the date as they don't matter outside of appointments much, and worst one for me is forgetting words (adjectives and some nouns). My husband went for a check up on this and they never scanned or did any labs, just a written and oral test (yes, he remembered the 3 words he was asked to remember at the start) and was deemed just fine but he did not go there because he felt fine, so ??

@mamay There is Much confusion as to what constitutes a diagnosis of dementia, which has no treatments. Doctors can only diagnose that which they see or hear. I know you would prefer something more concrete, something that you could try to understand, but dementia isn’t one of those.
You might try to enter things, that you find strange, or different like behavior or mood. Also, things like his ability to shower and dress and now he can’t figure it out. You can enter all these “symptoms” into a small notebook (with dates and times) and then you will have a record to show the doctor. But, if he can still do most things (maybe slower) except forgets words or things you did together, he might not reach the label of “dementia”.
Forgetfulness, or dementia, can come and go just like the wind. Just enjoy your husband now,
Go through photo albums, enjoy the music you liked ‘back then,’ fix old meals. Enjoy each other and I just hope I haven’t lectured to much. My husband and I have reached the stage where we forget a lot!

@23suzie
Thank you for the “hugs”. I do not get them much, if at all, here so I’m constantly reaching out for them. Thank you! Finding this resource is so good in many ways…thank you again!!!