Okay, I need your responses and help with this one

@centre
The only test our PCP ever gave H was a simple one where he gave H 3 things to remember and then came back and asked him what those 3 things were. H remember 2 of the 3, but that really didn't represent the problem I had talked to Doc about concerning him.
H doesn't get a lot of what the Doc tells him about his health, he relies on me to explain it to him in front of the Doc, more and more. I have to break it down in to simpler terms sometimes 2 or 3 times.
H never use to be like that but I don't understand why the Doc isn't catching it.

@kartwk Please remember that you are not alone on this journey. So many people have the same caregiving issues and understand what you are going through. Reach out on this page and share your feelings and frustrations with us. It really helps me. Another thing that was extremely beneficial for me was to educate myself about dementia and how "brain failure" affects everything not just memory. I highly recommend Teepa Snow"s website, Positive Approach to Care. There are also short You tube video by her on various topics. I registered and completed part one and two of a four part series on dementia caregiving tools.

When my husband started forgetting things and I could see something wasn't right, I ended up writing a note in my husband's primary care portal to let her know that what I thought he was experiencing at home was more than aging memory issues. Fortunately, for me, he was in for another test, which made it easier to bridge to the initial testing they do for mild cognitive impairment. I had practiced that day before we got into the doctors what I was going to say, so my husband didn't get angry. He has a boat, and I used something near and dear to his heart. Wanting him to be tested for mild forgetfulness, I called it, so if he's out on the boat, there are no issues. I kept it, light, didn't take any videos or pictures of what was taking place at home. It turned out in the test she gave him; we went for a follow-on set of neurologist tests that led to MCI diagnosis and the Lequembe infusions he's taking right now every two weeks, with and MRI after the 2nd infusion up to the 7th infusion. I, too appreciate this connect group.

@kartwk
I recently found out I was wrong about it being enough to have both names on the house. We have moved into a CCRC and are selling our house. Both names are on it, but it turns out just having that isn't enough when it comes to real estate, even though it's enough for vehicles, bank accounts, etc. My husband can no longer sign his name, so I had to get a limited POA for the house closing. A notary verified he's who he and family say he is, and then he printed his name as best he could on the limited POA, and it was notarized. It made sense that it's possible to do it that way since some people can't sign their names due to illiteracy or never learning cursive or even physical issues. The notary said sometimes it's no more than a scribble or a mark.

Just wanted to clarify that part of what I told you was wrong. I just didn't know it at the time. Now, it may be different in different states, so it would be wise to check with a real estate agent or an attorney just in case you have to or want to sell at some point.

@bclane
Thanks for the update on that. My original home was oe purchased before I got married. when we sold it the lawyer (buyers) had him sign off on the sale as well. My lawyer said it was not necessary but just a precaution.

When my Mom had her massive stroke and was in a nursing home, Dad wanted to sell the car. In IL, Mom had to sign off on that too. THAT situation was interesting and opened my eyes as Mom suffered brain damage but a cousin of mine had a notary friend, that for a price, came in and notarized her scrawl! She had lost all use of her right side, so the cousin had to move her hand for her. I did not approve of this and kept a good eye on the cousin after that, with good cause.

One thing my lawyer told me was it was good that I have all kinds of records that show the original house was purchase 6 years before I married H and that subsequent homes have all been financed out of this, large downpayments, etc. Thus, if his greedy daughter tries for the house again she has already tried once, I can show financial trail and that all additional payments on this home were with joint earrings as husband and wife.

THere is no way I am going to get him to sign a POA as, according to him, there is nothing wrong with him.

@kartwk A few considerations:
Depending upon the state you live in, once separate property or assets are "commingled" - as when a solely owned home is sold, and the proceeds used to purchase a jointly owned home, it becomes a "marital asset" not a separate one. In most states, your step-daughter has NO claim on marital joint property while you are alive. You need an attorney (for yourself) to protect yourself according to state laws since she is trying to coerce her Dad. Please don't rely on the internet or "armchair lawyers" for advice.
While consulting the attorney, you may want to discuss having him draft reciprocal powers of attorney for both of you "in case one becomes incapacitated."

agree Sue but these days people will go after things they have no right to. Starting a lawsuit on a will can tie it up in court for a long time. Sometime the purpose of the suite is just to get some kind of financial settlement. AKA nuisance suits.