How fast does this progress??

I understand how you feel. Every time my husband gets a text or any news on his phone he hands his phone to me to show him how to open it. Then he asks me to respond to the text for him. I do feel bad for him because I know it upsets him to not understand how to do things.

@trishaanderson, it’s pretty rough. Honestly…..I haven’t processed it yet. I keep feeling like he’s still around. So surreal. I’ve gone to the grave everyday since the funeral, yet it doesn’t seem real. Idk. I’m considering contacting my therapist for some new sessions.

My mom is really suffering. She cries a lot and isn’t well physically. Recent heart monitor shows issues. So, following up with that.

But, overall as a family (kids, grandkids, great-grandkids, etc,) we are ok. Thanks for asking. Losing a parent is not like I ever expected, no matter the age.

Dementia can progress slowly and then rapid decline. My dad was gone so quickly once he couldn’t walk and lost appetite.

Please contact your therapist. Processing is different for everyone, and you need to feel free to express yourself. Not only about Dad, but what the future holds with Mom. We are here for you, but sometimes a few conversations with a trained professional are helpful.

Hugs! My Dad has been gone for 26 years, and I still chat with him sometimes.

On Friday my husband had a bad fall and is in the hospital, waiting for a pacemaker to be installed tomorrow. His dementia has gotten much worse, very suddenly. This is terrifying and unexpected. I'm too tired to say anything more.

@trishaanderson, it’s pretty rough. Honestly…..I haven’t processed it yet. I keep feeling like he’s still around. So surreal. I’ve gone to the grave everyday since the funeral, yet it doesn’t seem real. Idk. I’m considering contacting my therapist for some new sessions.

My mom is really suffering. She cries a lot and isn’t well physically. Recent heart monitor shows issues. So, following up with that.

But, overall as a family (kids, grandkids, great-grandkids, etc,) we are ok. Thanks for asking. Losing a parent is not like I ever expected, no matter the age.

Dementia can progress slowly and then rapid decline. My dad was gone so quickly once he couldn’t walk and lost appetite.

Celia,
I'm so sorry for the loss you and your poor mom are going through.
I lost both my parents to strokes 5 years apart and never really got the chance to deal with my grief. Having to handle and be responsible for everything after their deaths. I was also dealing with my husband's Alzheimer's. He was not very cooperative or nice during that time when he was not the center of my world.
You are wise to contact your therapist for help.
Warmly, Trish

I do a lot of different things with Karen so she doesn't feel completely helpless/worthless, which she's not, but can feel that way. I write the text and send it to her, and she can forward it to someone she wants to text. I have her press 1 or 2 on the confirm/deny text. I have her respond to "love" texts with emojis. I send her here at home. She can write slowly, a little, so I tell her to write her text, and we can take a picture of what she wrote on paper and send it. Etc. Etc. Little things are so so big for her sometimes. Anything to feel normal is my goal. She can't drive but dreams she will again someday, so I take her to empty school or industrial parking lots on the weekend and she "practices" her driving skills. Thanks for your note.