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Does anyone feel old and useless with age?

Posted by sally12345 @sally12345, Sep 13, 2023

Hi, I'm almost 64.. I'm feeling old and useless. My strength isn't good anymore. Like it used to be mainly side effects of meds. My health is poor with cvsd. Osteoporosis, poor circulation, hearing , eyesight, you name it's going. I always took care of myself. Now I've gotten older and everything's wrong, my grandkids don't a want me around and they are little still. No friends to talk with or do things with. Why is it we spend our lifetime taking care of family. Loving friends to end up , old and tired. Useless.

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SusanEllen66 | @SusanEllen66 | 2 days ago
In reply to @gravity3 "Yes, important but some can receive help from pharmaceutical intervention!" + (show)
@gravity3

Yes, important but some can receive help from pharmaceutical intervention!

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@gravity3
Absolutely.
Additionally, it helps to know where it’s coming from.

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marys1987 | @marys1987 | 2 days ago

Yes I didn't feel that way till I turned 69. It's horrible. It doesn't help that my part-time job is a caregiver for Visiting Angels puts me in touch with people that are really old and I see what happens and what's coming for me it really really sucks I cannot give you any good advice all my friends around the same age say you accept it and move on the best that you can

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smeinke978 | @smeinke978 | 2 days ago
In reply to @maryruth7 "Very well said. When it all said and done our faith is all we have. It..." + (show)
@maryruth7

Very well said. When it all said and done our faith is all we have. It is also the most important
Thing.

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Amen!

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lizardheaven | @lizardheaven | 18 hours ago
In reply to @sisyphus "How do WE tell ourselves: Hey, I STILL LOVE YOU! I Ask this every moment when:..." + (show)
@sisyphus

How do WE tell ourselves: Hey, I STILL LOVE YOU!
I Ask this every moment when:
I sit if I am with the right posture. And if my posture has been neglected and Therefore has become 'not-right' then isn't the question: WHY and when did I begin to Neglect my Own Body?
But Wait! Our bodies are VERY Forgiving. They know we screw up in our lives a lot so they have an open and friendly heart to Correct our mistakes. I say this as one with an eight decades old skeleton which is able to brisk-walk 40 minutes in one go; walk up 13 floors in my apartment, panting heavily thru the last five and never even bothering to care what floor I am, Because? C'mmon, having lived many decades on this earth-with-gravity, isn't EXERTION is Pleasure?
Maybe we forgot what we knew when we were 3 or 5 yr old, but really how else we wud have learnt to Stand Up if not falling endlessly on our bums but rising again? I LOVE our body-wisdom...we couldn't have made it w/o it ...even to teenage!
But where are MY Friends, U ask?
Maybe they will appear when we approach them with sincerity-in-our behavior. Like minded attract each other; birds of feather flock TOGETHER. And Yet I don't either.
That's ONE area I pine for...striving Everyday to find my flock. It did not work what I had planned for yesterday, but I hope (for Hope I can't NOT have) my plan for the next week will. After all, what's the choice? Doesn't the toddler-in-us tells us so!
March onward, My friend...with me in this hard-but-hopeful LAST effort of our life.

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Beautiful. I wish so much I had your strength. I'm busy dying.

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pml | @pml | 15 hours ago
In reply to @standinginfaith "I wrestle with anxiety.. ptsd.. I'm 71 and twice widowed..no children and lots of digestive issues....." + (show)
@standinginfaith

I wrestle with anxiety.. ptsd.. I'm 71 and twice widowed..no children and lots of digestive issues.. fear tries to creep in every time I get hungry .. all day long.. nightmares at night..I know "trapped in your head".. so (I have a cousin same way).. so here's the bottom like .. you were wonderfully made by the Almighty God and He thinks you are special.. you are special.. tell yourself that ..over and over if you have to..fight fear with faith.. there is Victory in Christ Jesus..(I don't know how you believe.. but I am quite satisfied being a child of God thru Christ Jesus ..I'm so unhappy with the way I look and feel now.. but I take my place in the family of God.. you belong there too..hold your head up high!! Praying for you to be an overcomer!! Believe!!

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Hi,
I'm so pleased to hear of your having faith in God and Jesus even with all of your physical problems! You are so right! God is always there for us. Sometimes it's hard to remember but all we have to do is ask.

I'm sorry you are twice widowed. That is sad. I am 79 and my husband died in July, 2024. However, I know that eventually in God's time, we'll both be with our husbands again in Heaven. My husband and I had no children together. He had three boys from his first marriage who didn't like me. (I wouldn't let them use the "F" word in our home.) They knew their father had cancer but didn't come to see him. I have one son from my first marriage whom I haven't seen in 20 years. But like you said I have God and Jesus and that's what keeps me going. I talk to God everyday and read the Bible every night. I'll say a prayer for you that your physical problems go away and you feel good again.
I wish you the best.
PML

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mikaylar | @mikaylar | 4 hours ago
In reply to @marys1987 "Yes I didn't feel that way till I turned 69. It's horrible. It doesn't help that..." + (show)
@marys1987

Yes I didn't feel that way till I turned 69. It's horrible. It doesn't help that my part-time job is a caregiver for Visiting Angels puts me in touch with people that are really old and I see what happens and what's coming for me it really really sucks I cannot give you any good advice all my friends around the same age say you accept it and move on the best that you can

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It helps to be around younger people once in a while. When my 23 year old granddaughter visits I feel uplifted for days.

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Sue, Volunteer Mentor | @sueinmn | 3 hours ago
In reply to @lizardheaven "Beautiful. I wish so much I had your strength. I'm busy dying." + (show)
@lizardheaven

Beautiful. I wish so much I had your strength. I'm busy dying.

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Welcome to Mayo Connect where we have many people in various stages of life, who are willing to chat about what is going on in your life.
You say "I'm busy dying. " Do you want to talk about it?

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