@virtuous69

I live in California too, in Orange County. My husband and I used to live in Fremont/Union City, and before that, in Sunnyvale. My last job was in Ridgecrest, California, which is in the high desert at China Lake Naval Research Center, south of Mammoth Mountain. Our adult son lives there now. We had thought about moving to a Senior apartment complex in Ridgecrest as it was pretty inexpensive and is a new facility. At the time a couple of years ago, the rent was $500/month. It's not an assisted living center, it's apartments, but that might be something you could look into.

We enjoy Ridgecrest when we're there. It's about 35,000 people and has decent weather. It is very hot in the summer (110+) and can be cold in the winter (40s), but no snow! It gets windy too, but it has everything you need, including a hospital. You might want to check it out. Good luck.

Warm regards,
Gail B
Volunteer Mentor

Victorious. I just completed a flare. I almost am afraid to say this but I have very little pain. I just know going thru a flare lasting over a week has got to be hard on my heart. I called my Cardiologist to get my heart checked. I have had a bad heart for years
I have read that most RA patients die from heart disease. Well if the doctor would give me some pain pills it would be easier on my heart.
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Parus. With prayer and allowing God to take the reins I came to agree with myself that I cannot afford ind living. If my husband was alive our income would be doubled and we could afford ind. Living. The guest house behind my kids is small. It hard to keep organized in too small an area. I am moving to a 2 bedroom apt. The large complex was military housing. With millions they turned them into 50,s apts. Real Hard wood floors crown molding the whole thing. I swore I did not want to live around children . But maybe that is what I need.

THE APARTMENT SOUNDS PERFECT! THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH HAVING TO ADMIT YOU COULD USE THE ASSISTANCE OF YOUR CHILDREN. I AM SURE THAT IF IT WERE A REVERSED SITUATION, YOU WOULD HELP THEM, NO QUESTIONS ASKED. I HAVE OFTEN HEARD PEOPLE SAY THEY WOULD RATHER BE PUT IN A HOME THAN ASK FOR HELP FROM THEIR CHILDREN OR LIVE WITH THEM. SOMETIMES, WE JUST HAVE TO DO WHAT IS BEST FOR US.

PLEASE PARDON ALL CAPS. MY FINGERS ARE STIFF AND TYPING IN ALL CAPS IS JUST EASIER.

NO, WE ARE NOT IN THE DAYS OF THE WALTONS WHEN GENERATIONS LIVED TOGETHER AND TOOK CARE OF EACH OTHER. BUT, IT DOESN'T MEAN IT CANNOT BE THAT WAY. I THINK ONE ISSUE IS THAT WE HAVE BECOME TO PROUD TO ASK OUR KIDS TO HELP US. WE FEEL WE MUST DO IT ALL AND LEAVE OUR KIDS TO THEIR OWN LIVES.

AS MUCH AS I WOULD LIKE TO LIVE ON MY OWN, I WOULD HAVE NOT PROBLEM ASKING MY KIDS FOR HELP AND I KNOW THEY WOULD TAKE ME IN. MORE AND MORE SENIORS ARE BUILDING NEW HOMES OR PUTTING ADDITIONS ONTO THE HOMES OF THEIR CHILDREN SO THAT THEY CAN HAVE AN AREA FOR THEMSELVES BUT IN THE SAME HOME.

YES, I BELIEVE WE ALL WOULD LIKE TO BE ABLE TO DO MORE THAN WE CAN AND I UNDERSTAND WHY WE CANNOT EVEN VOLUNTEER. THAT REALLY BOTHERS ME. I WOULD LOVE TO VOLUNTEER, TOO, BUT I KNOW THAT I CANNOT BE COUNTED ON TO SHOW UP REGULARLY.

WE NEED TO DO WHAT WE CAN AND GET AS MUCH ENJOYMENT AS WE CAN, WHEN WE CAN.

I love your n Long Beach Sr center but am looking to move to Cypress in Orange County there's a nice senior center right close its independent living

I hear you I don't volunteer for this reason either.We have to take care of ourselves ,that's our volunteer job ,full time LOL

Older people need to leave go of there pride if you need help it's best to be near your children maybe not live with them but near them

@grandmar

My husband and I live with my stepdaughter (his daughter) and have for 2 years now. We didn't plan to do this but her husband got ALS and died 3 years ago. She asked us to come and help her with the last two of her teenagers still living with her. She has 2 businesses and travels a lot.

She has been very good and generous with us, but it's not the same as being independent. We love it here and won't move away. She just bought a new house with plenty of room for us to stay with her. We are grateful for the help as we only have Social Security now because our business went bankrupt and we lost everything then. Two years ago she took us to Costa Rica with her and the family. It was wonderful. She also has a housekeeper who comes three times a week and cooks dinner when she's there. Our adult grandchildren visit regularly and that is a very good thing.

I think it's great to know that you can rely on your children to help out when you are older. They are still earning money and actually enjoy helping (usually). This is my experience.

Gail B
Volunteer Mentor

Sounds like a good relationship all around that's great ,happy for you Gail