Repetitive questions

Posted by suzy123 @suzy123, Dec 2 9:43am

My husband has MCI but carries two alzheimers genes so we know where we're headed. He's mostly normal, intelligent and engaged except for his short term memory retention. He seems to have taken another step down the stairway to memory loss and is slightly worse in the last few days.
I was hoping he'd just level off and we'd stay where we are. Makes me sad and nervous about the future. No solution I know, just sharing my experience.

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Sometimes life goes along quietly and things feel normal. Suddenly a regression happens..and all the behaviors mentioned in the previous comments reflect my life now. However, I am suddenly so angry at everything…angry at him for not trying harder…angry at life for removing the man I once knew…just plain angry every day. Yes I understand MCI is the enemy here! I have become shrewish so I am angry at myself for becoming this way. I know this comes from fear about the future. These comments are helpful

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@scupper

Sometimes life goes along quietly and things feel normal. Suddenly a regression happens..and all the behaviors mentioned in the previous comments reflect my life now. However, I am suddenly so angry at everything…angry at him for not trying harder…angry at life for removing the man I once knew…just plain angry every day. Yes I understand MCI is the enemy here! I have become shrewish so I am angry at myself for becoming this way. I know this comes from fear about the future. These comments are helpful

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I hear you. Why me? Why is the back end of our life ruined? I actually have
an ever-growing list of the things he does that tick me off and drive me
nuts. Somehow makes me feel better to articulate it somewhere. To counter
balance this, I keep a positive list. He's still trying to live a normal
life. Still here, not yet lost. Still can laugh and be amused. Still
interested in life and politics and new things and conversation and new
people. You're reaction to this challenge is completely normal. The "in
sickness and in health" thing is at our doorstep. Harder than we thought if
we thought at all. I didn't. Go with the good days kiddo. The shoe could
have been on the other foot. (Says me who wants to scream because he just
asked me what day it is for the tenth time this morning. ) We're not nurses
or saints. My halo is always askew.

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I find i can sort of tune out the repetitive questions and answer while my mind is on something else. It helps that there is usually just one question of the day.

My hubby is now in a phase where he calls friends repeatedly. I have texted to let them know what's going on and they are really understanding. They answer if they have time to talk or call when they're free.
I'm really grateful for these great friends. One of the bright spots on these grey days.

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@jehjeh

I find i can sort of tune out the repetitive questions and answer while my mind is on something else. It helps that there is usually just one question of the day.

My hubby is now in a phase where he calls friends repeatedly. I have texted to let them know what's going on and they are really understanding. They answer if they have time to talk or call when they're free.
I'm really grateful for these great friends. One of the bright spots on these grey days.

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Good friends.

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@2me

As I continue to read your posts, I say “wow! That’s us”. Shame on me for not realizing locating or noticing things was a part of this disease. For years, I joked I had “job security” because my husband couldn’t find things…but lately it is things that are RIGHT THERE! It isn’t funny anymore. Bless you.

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I know what you mean. I think for my husband he has forgotten the names of things. If I tell him get a bowl for cereal he’ll comeback with a drinking glass I realized he’s functioning level of a three year old. Help him dress button the shirt help put shoes on, asking the same question over & over.

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Repetitive questions: As a former hot head and impatient person, for the past two years I have learned to be incredibly patient with my wife's increasingly repetitive questions, even with our whiteboard and common digital calendar. I've learned to answer every question as if it were her first time asking it, calmly and patiently.

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